Parents Forum Notes

Parents Forum
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<p>ariesathena~
If I were to apply your standards for "valued" poster, Carolyn would be one of top people on my list for qualifiers. I do not know which post you are referring to, but I am familiar enough with Carolyn's contributions to know that she would never have posted something that would deserve "crucifixion" by anyone.</p>

<p>That said, I have witnessed NUMEROUS incidents in which other either self-proclaimed or other-proclaimed "valuable posters" have engaged in egregiously nasty and arrogant behavior that is then excused by the community for the simple reason that the poster is deemed "valued". I took 1sokkermom's post to be referring to this type of thing, and in that regard, I am in full agreement with her. </p>

<p>If anything, the "valued" posters should be expected to adhere to a higher standard of decorum, precisely because of their "valued" status. I personally believe that the standard should be universal--for EVERYONE. But if there is to be a "double standard", I would expect the "valued" posters to adhere to the HIGHER one. ~berurah</p>

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<p>Wish I could remember what that thread was about so I could dig it up for you... because it would really demonstrate what I'm talking about, which is different from your post. </p>

<p>I agree fully with your post. I also adhere (quite strongly) to what I'm saying - and those are not inconsistent positions.</p>

<p>From what I recall, Carolyn had made a comment (like her thousands of others) that was insightful and thoughtful. The new poster didn't seem to get that you can't then jump all over someone for that - and proceeded to berate her. Numerous posters then jumped to her defense. </p>

<p>As I said, that's an entirely different phenomenon from what you are describing.</p>

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<p>Some parent forum discussions lately have been getting pretty hot and heavey (and I don't mean heavy) these days. Some of these guys need to tone it down. Folks are getting too personal. The future of the planet is not hanging on whose position is ultimately validated.</p>