<p>So, this year my parents have been going nuts! I dunno if it because I am their last child leaving the "nest" or if they are just weird, but they seem to be asking me too much questions.</p>
<p>let me explain what my parents have asked me this past hour:
Parent 1: What are you doing"
Me: studying
Parent: what are you studying?
Me(holding an ENGLISH BOOK and a biology book sprawled out on the ground!!): english and bio
Parent: Do you want to come help cut the grass? Or are you studying
Me(I think how the heck do I help?): no, I gotta study
Parent(having told me yesterday that he knew we had exams coming next week): don't you have exams in school next week?
Me: yea
parent: are you ready for them.are you done studying for them?
me( thinking, are you mentally ill, clearly I am still studying considering I have a bio book open and I stil have almost a week to prepare for em): no, I am still studying
parent: do you have a test tomorrow?
me: no
parent: where were you yesterday?
me: at a track meet(parent should know considering i have been doing so for 4 years, and brother did for 2 years before me) and class at night(parents should know, he paid for it and thats where I have been going for the past 4 months every week)
parent: Why you leave so early?
me: senior night
parent: oh did they say your name, and where you are going to college?
me(note, parent came to senior night earlier in the year and knows what goes on.): yea
parent: oh, did they say what you want to do?
me(getitng frustrated and annoyed by now): um, yea do you not remember when you came?
parent: ok, did you go to class?
me: yea, thats what I do every week for the past 4 months, have you not noticed?</p>
<p>and a very intellectual arguement about how many questions my dad asks me and the amount of time wasted in these mindless unimportant questions. my dad tells me I should answer his questions no matter what he asks with respect, but I get more and more mad at him.</p>
<p>Is it wrong for me to be getting frustrated with him? I usually argue with him whenever he asks something dumb, and he always takes it that I am called him dumb, but I am simply trying to point out something he should consider changing.</p>
<p>how can I tell him that he talks too much without sounding mean?</p>
<p>I too get annoyed when my parents ask a lot of obvious questions. But sometimes they are just trying to have a conversation, or find out what’s happening in your life, or how your day was.
I can’t really offer advice on parents not asking so many questions, but usually, when I say, “I’m busy” or “I’m studying” they lay off for a while.</p>
<p>It sounds to me like your dad is just trying to connect with you on a level he thinks you will understand. It is hard for parents to find an area of conversation that will interest both of you. Its not like you can have an meaning conversation with him about how much he lost in his 401K this year, and what he is going to do about retirement.</p>
<p>Give your parents a break. They put up with all your stupid questions when you were little.</p>
<p>haha, true. thanks guys! I understand where they are coming at, and I think I’ll just try and be upfront with them and hopefully the repetitive questions will stop coming.</p>
<p>I giggled reading that. The repetitiveness of your parents questions sounds SO annoying. My mother does that, but more often to my brother. I tend to ignore her; if she want’s a reply I say, “uh-huh.”</p>
<p>I will translate for you.
Father-I’m interested in what you are doing. Please include me in your daily life. I want you to know I am supportive of you and proud of what you accomplished in high school. I will miss having you around the house when you go to college next year. Where did the time go? I hope you tell us what’s going on in your life next year when you are away. I am making small talk because don’t have too many more chances to spend time with you. Be patient with me because I’m sad you won’t need me anymore.
OP- Give your dad a break.</p>
<p>What a good post, Batllo. Are you listening moviemania101?</p>
<p>Sorry to be emotional, but I just lost my dad a short while ago. And I would give anything to have him back and ask me all those stupid questions again. I really, really would.</p>
<p>Kids, be patient. Just like we were when you were little, and we were trying to get dinner on the table, feed the barking dog, change the baby’s diaper and answer the phone:</p>
<p>Child: I have new shoes!
Mom: Really? Wow! (thinking, I know that, I bought them)
Child: They are red shoes!
Mom: Red shoes are great! That’s your favorite color! (oops the dog is puking, quick out the door!)
Child: My shoes are red, see my new shoes? (Of COURSE I see them, because you are standing on my toes)
Mom: I TOTALLY love your new shoes, honey. Red is perfect. I can see you really like them. (red, totally ridiculous. Should’ve made her get black, but I love her so I got the totally silly red shoes! LOL!)
Child: Watch me walk in my new shoes.
Mom: Good walking, sweetie (OMG, shoot me now)
Child: See, my shoes make a tapping sound. Tap, tap, tap
Mom: Tip, tap, tap go the shiny red shoes! (Crap, what’s burning?)</p>
<p>Mother realizes she went college and then grad school and yet she is reduced to a looooong conversation about shiny new red shoes for the FOURTH TIME THAT DAY.</p>
<p>We had those conversations with you…cut us some slack, guys.</p>
<p>I totally agree with Batllo. If you start including your parents in your life, they’ll stop asking you these questions. I tell my mother what happened at school and at dance every day. I don’t talk to my father that much, but we have issues. Still, if he asks me a question like “What are you doing?” I answer. He mainly just dotes on me now that there’s no one else. It’s not like he going to talk to my mother/his wife. They’re such effed up people.</p>
<p>next time your old man is painting a wall, or raking leaves, or washing dishes, or whatever…just join him and help out. no need to say anything. sooner or later you’ll say something to each other, doesn’t have to mean anything. you’ll be doing something together, that’s all he wants. if he asks you why you’re helping out, don’t give him a “buzz off” answer. tell him you’re doing it just to do it and 40 years from now it’ll be a good memory to have. it ain’t no big thing. he has no clue on how to connect with his kid, maybe he never learned from his old man. we’re all just people, trying to get by.</p>
<p>honestly my mother does that and it just really gets on my nerves… we have a calendar that tell all of the things we are doing but she still asks me… i swear she just does it for conversation but all she succeeds in doing is making me mad and she just says “i just want to know what your doing” it is so annoying…</p>
<p>my mom has been the same way for like the past year, and i think it does have a lot to do with the fact that when senior year comes your parents realize you might not be around that much longer so they go into panic mode… it really bugs me and i suddenly get annoyed every time my mom or dad comes into my room now because of it, it’s like my room has become the central hub of the entire house and i can not be left alone. </p>
<p>but just from reading this thread everything that the parents and people supporting the parents have said has been completely right, we owe them the last year we have with them and they probably did put up with 10x more crap that we gave them when we were younger.</p>
<p>Omg your conversation with your dad is literally the same one I have with my dad on a daily basis. He and my mom both ask me a thousand questions and drive me absolutely crazy. I guess cause I’m the last child left in the house they have nothing better to do? I always end up getting into major arguments with them, and then I storm out of the house. It drives me absolutely crazy. I wouldn’t ever get mad if they would just leave me alone. Sorry, I just exactly how you feel.</p>
<p>A two minute conversation every evening may give you a reprieve from their annoying questions and interruptions.
You: Hi, Mom/Dad nothing extraordinary happened at school today. I haven’t heard anything from college/job search/summer program/ College Board. I’m going to study in my room until dinner. I’ll be doing my homework/practicing SATs tests/working on projects. Anything before I start? Good, I’m going to need to focus for the next few hours. See you at dinner. OP-See if this helps, it or may not.</p>