<p>I have been rather preoccupied with some non-academic drama around here and haven’t had a chance to really keep up. So I want to extend my congratulations to all who have gotten good news recently and want to tell everyone who didn’t get what they were hoping for that I am so sorry.</p>
<p>It is almost over though. My son asked me last night if I would cry if he didn’t get into Harvard. I told him I doubted it which seemed to upset him. I don’t think these alumni interviewers do these kids any favors if they put ideas in their heads that they have a good chance to get in-which per my son is how it went-I wonder though if he heard what he wanted to hear.</p>
<p>So he told me he doesn’t want to go to a very nice event for the swim team on March 30th since it will be happening at 6 and the Ivy decisions are released at 5. I told him he should go to the event-the news will still be there when he gets home plus it seems they don’t always get released on time and he could be off having fun instead of here obsessing about them.</p>
<p>I am overall pretty content that my work is done. He has 7 acceptances with one more realistic one still out there before the lotteries on March 30th. He has two favorite schools and I am pretty sure the one he is going to pick and I think it will be a good and very affordable choice. It is a fine school-no it isn’t “elite” but I think it may end up being a good fit for him. I told him since he really isn’t sure what direction to take yet better to be somewhere he can figure it out without him ending up with debt on top of it.</p>
<p>He is skating on some pretty thin ice around here and part of the week has been me giving him all the information I have on each school he has been accepted/and or applied to. He is now officially in charge of his future-he’s got to own this decision. I will fill in the financial details as they come in but it’s pretty easy-merit aid offers are already awarded and FA is going to be that $5,500 loan which to me isn’t aid so that is pretty straightforward.</p>
<p>I feel good that we have helped him get to this point. It’s up to him now though-of course we will be there to advise but it’s his choice.</p>
<p>Morning all - a special shoutout to anyone waiting for UChicago today
Thinking of you all dealing with car, break in, missing $, less than hoped for FA, non invites for honors/scholarships, stranded visitors, sick kids, moving uncertainty, etc. issues.<br>
I’ve noticed that I am not the only one dealing with a child that is actively “dirtying the nest” with procrastination, messiness, surliness, etc. I am giving my D some rope as she is nervous about March 30. But, I also wonder if it is a mistake to not hold her accountable. I feel like the whole house is in a surreal suspended state until the decisions are back. D is going to be fine in the long run, but it may be a rough night.<br>
Pepper - I am quite sure there will be web site issues at 5 on March 30. 35000 kids logging into the same 8 websites; MIT had issues with 18000 applicants and one would think they would have the best IT! I agree with you: enjoy the banquet.<br>
Happy weekend all.</p>
<p>Pepper - you were right, separated at birth. I think it must be a boy thing which is why they should keep those boys out of Kindergarten until they are a year older than the girls. Would make sense to me. Ds isn’t surly, or messing up the nest, he is just not “owning” this process as he should. GC way back when made a big deal about them owning it, driving it, but really - I think that might be more realistic if he had another year to mature a bit. Our community college is right down the street.</p>
<p>Emmybet: I wanted to let you know how much I admire how well you are handling the unexpected stress involving the Japanese girls. They are lucky to have landed on your doorstep. Good luck to your daughter with her remaining results.</p>
<p>Pepper: You have a great attitude. I’m glad that your son already has some good, affordable choices.</p>
<p>Best of luck for those waiting for news from Chicago and other schools in the next few days.</p>
<p>Arisamp, I am sitting here very upset. I left my billfold at a store yesterday. Someone picked it up and started going to town on my credit cards. I have cancelled them and frozen my bank account as well, but I have all sorts of IDs for myself and 2 elderly moms in there. A fluke, since I usually don’t carry their stuff, but my mother was recently at the ER and I stuck my MIL’s stuff in there for visiting nurse’s info. I am just sick about this because some of the ID are going to be next to impossible to replace plus ssns are in there. I wish it was cash that was missing. </p>
<p>Ironically, because I stuck my cash in my pocket, I did not notice the billfold missing for several hours since I bought a meal with the cash and never looked for the billfold. All my fault. Just a great opportunity for a weak person. I really did not need this.</p>
<p>So sorry, cpt! If it makes you feel any better, most thieves - at least the experienced ones- use the credit cards for a day or two max, then move on to the next person. The chance of them using the ssns is pretty slim. (But if it was me, I’d need a glass of wine, even if it is only 11 am.)</p>
<p>Hello everyone! I am new to College Confidental, and since signing on–I have gained so much valuable opinions! Thanks!</p>
<p>Let me tell you who I am. “mdkskj” refers to my family–husband,me, and the four girls! Our “k” is going off to college with the rest of YOUR children–in the fall!! Coming up way too quick, I must add!</p>
<p>Daughter has been accepted to UBuffalo;UMaimi;Northeastern;Florida State U.; and UTexas @ Austin. Just waiting to hear from another local school–Syracuse U. She has already choosen–FSU! Really feel in love with UT back in November, but the tutition costs have really put a huge damper on her going there. We are still waiting for a finanical aid report(merit aid,also) from that school, and their economics does not look too good for aid this year.</p>
<p>As I noted on another forum, D is not overly excited about going to college, and from reading other people’s insites, it makes sense that she has conflicted feelings. FSU is an airplane ride away from her home where she is very close with family, and friends. FSU was chosen because of her major–film, which boosts a top of the line program. We are from WNY–and went to check out NYU–she did not like the college atmosphere. Really likes the feel of a large school, with lots of athletic games to support.</p>
<p>Hope to hear from some parents that have kids attending FSU!!!</p>
<p>Welcome mdkskj! You’re smart not to hold your breath for money from UT. It’s probably counting on OOS to pay a lot to help with expenses! You probably know that the state of Texas is cutting its funding to schools up and down the line. One entire large grant program may stop funding new students because of it.</p>
<p>Welcome mdkskj (I am NOT gonna remember that name…) and grats to your daughter for having made her choice!</p>
<p>cpt, uggh, how terrible! I hope you don’t end up having to pay for anything the thieves bought – and hope they get caught. </p>
<p>On a lighter note, had my own “That dog put WHAT in her mouth?!” story last week.</p>
<p>I could hear her rustling around under the deck, which she doesn’t usually do. About 20 minutes later I looked up when she came up on the deck. She was carrying a GIGANTIC DEAD RAT in her mouth which she dropped right in front of the sliding door: “I HAVE CONQUERED THE MONSTER UNDER THE DECK!”</p>
<p>The credit card charges are not the issue as they are covered under fraud protection. It is the ids that are killing me.</p>
<p>MDSKJ, my son has gotten his SUNY Buffalo acceptance too. As a NYer, that one is a real bargain. We aren’t expecting aid, so this will probably be his best priced college. He applied late so we are still waiting for most of his schools. This time, I am biting my nails because this is the first kid who did not do EA, rolling so that there were already some acceptances by now. I am so grateful Buffalo sent out their letter last week. He’s getting very nervous as all the Facebook statuses are showing college accepts.</p>
<p>It’s a bummer to lose personal info to a thief. Fortunately, the credit reporting agencies have gotten much better about dealing with these kinds of incidents. 15 + yrs ago, I had a major identity theft issue and it wasn’t made any easier by the laziness and incompetence I found at the agencies. A doctor in California (?) sued them for a massive amount and won. Since then, the agencies have cleaned up their acts and become much more effective and responsive when someone calls with a theft report. Be sure and do that, and while you are at it, get a copy of your credit report. Clean up any errors…this goes for those who haven’t had a problem as well! Errors creep in all the time, whether saying you’ve still got a credit card from a closed account to entire sections of somebody else’s info in the middle of yours! </p>
<p>Create a file for this. Every time you speak to someone, get their name. Write it down with the name of the business and the date and time. If you meet someone unhelpful or you don’t get useful info, ask to speak to a supervisor immediately. </p>
<p>Most credit card companies will not charge you for other people’s felonious charges as long as you report the theft as soon as you discover it. </p>
<p>So sorry to hear about all of the wallet mishaps. </p>
<p>You know your household has a high school senior when you look at the morning’s sports page, remark that Princeton is out (of the NCAA playoffs), and the other parent says “oh, Princeton released its admissions decisions?” </p>
<p>And I am really liking the omnivorous dog stories. We’ve got one of those kinds of guys ourselves. Lately, he’s been delving into bookbags and briefcases, where he’s scored a $20 bill and a medical deposition. :eek:</p>
<p>oh my gosh – so much stressful news today about stolen wallets, missing money. I’ve had a few experiences with this issue. The very first time I was pick-pocketed was as a college freshman. It happened on the Boston subway. Happened again as a grad student studying abroad – but I caught the person in the act, had the police called and went to the police station to file the report. that was an interesting experience. i still have the Italian – Florentine police report as a souvenir The third time it happened at the main NY Public Library. I very stupidly hung my bag on the back of my chair. didn’t feel it when it was removed. the librarian had me search the stacks b/c she said that thieves regularly threw the bags in the stacks after removing wallets. sure enough, we found my bag sans wallet. since then, i never place my bag on the back of chair anywhere – restaurants, libraries. My S had his wallet stolen once during HS – it was in his backpack. He now keeps it in his front pocket.</p>
<p>Got a good laugh reading about the dog episodes.</p>
<p>Hope the kids who are feeling ill recuperate this weekend.</p>
<p>For all you waiting for a Chicago decision today, I’m keeping my fingers crossed. I just booked the flight to attend accepted students days on april 14 - 15. At the moment, this school is one of S’s top few choices. He won’t make a final decision until he hears from other schools in the next few weeks. </p>
<p>Emmybet, hang in there. Thank God the girls are safe and sound with you – I read the articles about Japan in the paper every morning and just can’t fathom what’s happened there.</p>
<p>Arisamp, what a shock! I do biz travel too and I know just how you must feel. Bad enough that it happened, but now knowing HOW is frustrating and a little scary.</p>
<p>Glad you have wonderful news of your Son’s victories to distract you. Congrats on that, and counting the hours, along with you, until you’re home. Safe travels!</p>
<p>Cpt, SO sorry! Bad enough if it were just your stuff, but how lousy that it happened when you had both moms’ things in your wallet. I am SO sorry!!! Hope you’re able to get everything cancelled/replaced/straightened out quickly.</p>
<p>Welcome, mdkskj! I’m a Gator, but a big fan of FSU. I think your daughter will love Tallahassee and the school.</p>
<p>mnmomof2 - my biggest complaint with our S is how messy/disgusting his room is. I consider myself lucky. I’m for letting things slide during this time. These kids are feeling the stress and if I can let up a bit to make it easier, I’m happy to do it. </p>
<p>Sorry about the lost $$ and the stolen cards. What a PITA!</p>
<p>Days back when there were some car/accident issues, it must have been in the CC air because a girl at school backed into S when pulling out of the parking lot. She called her dad and said they would pay out of pocket and not use the insurance. So all is well! The word on the street is that this girl owes another HS $10K for the damage she did to their field doing doughnuts!! I had to laugh that this girl still had access to a car!</p>
<p>Any ideas how much longer JD2 is staying?? I know this must be stressful for her.</p>
<p>Best of luck with the decisions coming out this weekend. We have 2 big ones next Saturday. </p>
<p>I took your advice and called the schools yesterday to make sure they had all they need for FA. All seems to be good; I faxed one of the non-IDOC schools “the tax package” this morning. S was happy to give me the logins for all the school’s portals to check the “to-do” lists.</p>
<p>Congrats to the good news that is rolling in…</p>
<p>@mnmomof2: you are absolutely right about the “dirtying the nest” issue. I walked around on eggshells in December waiting for the UChicago EA round, hardly able to breath out loud, and it totally spoiled Christmas preparations. I am trying to keep my distance better now and to require better behavior (yes, despite getting in and despite Chicago being her first choice school, she still submitted 8 more applications - only took off the lower safeties). She says she wants a choice, and that is fine, but I just want it to be over. With a minimum of fuss. It’s not that I don’t care. It’s that I am so tired…</p>
<p>As the kids say, ■■■■!!! D got an envelope from her reachy, reach. (The one that posted results last Saturday and she did not log in to check.) It is definitely more than one sheet thick. H says there is a return envelope in there.<br>
Uh oh. She pretty much said she did not want to go there (and it is more than double the $ of the SUNY(s) she is considering) but that could be because we all thought getting in was not likely. But oh what an education she could get there- and there would definitely be more of “her people”. Ah well, what will be, will be. But <fingers crossed=“”> I think she got in…</fingers></p>
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