<p>Just back from accepted student day at SUNY New Paltz. Liked it and the professors very much, is #3 on D’s list. Tomorrow we visit her #1 for the first time. I told stole your advice and told her to jsut choose with her heart- where she would be happiest for 4 years. She has really good choices for her- we are so lucky.
Now my sick girl wants company so I will hang out with her- something I will miss in the months to come.</p>
<p>MM, I can’t imagine how stressful it must be for you. Hope things will become sorted soon. </p>
<p>K - glad your D like New Paltz and that you didn’t have to wear boots!
++++ your D feels better soon. I am planning a bonding night with boychild watching The Social Network OnDemand.</p>
<p>I also had a talk with D today. Told her to try to listen to her heart and see which school is calling to her. Hope she will take some time and do it. She admitted that she is scared of making a choice!</p>
<p>Emily~No Batesies in our Family, but i love the school and their philosophy.:D</p>
<p>Kinderny~Glad to hear the I Like it news. Good Luck tomorrow.</p>
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<p>What a caring group of parents we are! Look at how these kids are able to admit their fears and feel supported! Wow.</p>
<p>I was thinking of saying the “listen to your heart” bit, but I’ve already said enough about college for today, unfortunately (I’m limiting myself to just a couple of tidbits, as casually as I can, daily). But tomorrow it’s first on my list!!</p>
<p>D also hasn’t written her waitlist essay - I have no opinion about this, completely up to her. I’m grateful her GC has already made an appointment to talk to her this week (well, on my recommendation - I knew she’d have a set of complicated choices and might need a pep talk from him). He doesn’t know that much about the details of her schools, but he’s a good, thoughtful guy and she likes him.</p>
<p>hollie, what a great moment of clarity for you all - of course these kids are scared. And it’s only going to get more scary over the next few months. It’s lovely that people are finding some quality time with their still very fragile at times near-adults.</p>
<p>My D spent most of today split between working on schoolwork and playing around with her Disney pin collection. Really, why not?</p>
<p>“Anyone else torn between campus culture and academic reputation?” (momdoc)</p>
<p>Yes, that’s us here too exactly, coupled with much better $$ at campus culture school but a ton of “great fit” things at academically superior school. At least we are down to two, third choice dropped off the list today. I think D worries that campus culture school will = too much like high school.</p>
<p>I will definitely relay the “go with your heart” advice once I can start talking about college again… I’m still fighting to get positive, not sure why (other than my glass is half empty personality); she’ll be very happy at either place and they are great choices, but still stinging about the whole process (and trying hard not to show it).</p>
<p>Congrats to emilybee on the decision - I’m sure your S will love Bates. And congrats to oregonianmom on a great day yesterday; such great news!</p>
<p>So are anyone elses kids in information overload. I think DS just let out all emotions on the 30th, and is done. He hasn’t checked on his final school (he got admitted, I checked 
)- he doesn’t mind, but I don’t tell him so he can find out in his own time. Then after BlueIguana’s post (thanks for the heads-up) I realized he had also gotten an honors college/dorm/living community offer from same school. I think he’s found he has too many great schools and the choices are daunting, so he doesn’t want to add more to the list.</p>
<p>I have also talked with him about releasing those schools that he knows he’s not attending. Unfortunately he likes them all so much it’s hard to let go, even though he knows he won’t attend that school. He’s got one he really loves for the school spirit and other things, and although it’s now out of the picture, he doesn’t want it to be.</p>
<p>It’s amazing what these kids have to go through during this process. They learn and grow so much and all we can do is be there for support. They have so many life changing decisions to make, and frankly I couldn’t have done as well as my DS when I was his age.</p>
<p>Congratulations to all those who have found their school and know it’s the place for them. These next few weeks are going to be difficult. Good luck to the others on the SS Indecision!</p>
<p>VAMom - I hear you. S knows that he will be happy at any of his top 3 choices, so there really is no “bad” decision. But he shared today that he cannot imagine turning any of them down.</p>
<p>“making the decision was the most stressful part of the whole application experience. Saying “no” to schools was really hard!!”</p>
<p>My D is more stressed now than she was before she received all of her results. I think there is a lot of peer pressure in play now. Somehow I just need to get her to choose the one *she *really wants and not the one everyone else at her school seems to want for her.</p>
<p>I agree about the peer pressure, dignified1. My D’s friends have already made her choice for her! Fortunately, she is taking a trip in a week to visit her top choices, and will be away from the peer pressure a bit. Can your daughter visit her top choices?</p>
<p>^Fortunately, yes. She’s headed to Boston (MIT, Harvard) this week. Princeton and maybe Yale next week. Finally, she’ll visit Stanford at the end of the month. A lot of traveling for sure, but if it gives her the ammunition she needs to convince herself (and her well-meaning friends) that she is making the right decision, then it will be worth it. I guess she’ll be doing a lot of homework on the plane ;)</p>
<p>I wish Stanford’s admitted students weekend was not so late–virtually no time for reflection before the final decision needs to be made.</p>
<p>UT: Why don’t you make an earlier visit? I don’t know specifically about Stanford, but some schools (and I’m thinking specifically of Brown here) also have special weekday tours for admitted students who can’t make the big weekend. I’m not an expert, but I’m wondering if these special weekends are the best “slice of life” at the college? Anyone on CC have any insight into that?</p>
<p>^ I agree that the accepted students day is a double edged sword. There is a lot of information given to ‘students’ as opposed to ‘applicants’. It often pre-coordinates many things you would want to do anyway. You don’t always get a real vibe for what the school is really like. I don’t think it’s a disadvantage at all to visit on a ‘normal Tuesday’. Perhaps you can look at the proposed schedule for the accepted students day and try to arrange for things in a similar fashion on your own. You won’t get the big hello speech from the President or Dean, however you can certainly arrange to sit in on classes, eat in the dining hall, meet with financial aid, take a tour, etc.</p>
<p>We are attending one accepted students day, however bluejr has been on this campus a number of times. The other school he opted not to go on accepted students day so we could see more of the department in his intended major, etc.</p>
<p>We are right there with everyone on information overload! Peers, teachers, and coaches all seem to have a very distinct opinion of where he should go. The pressure is a bit overwhelming. We have also had the talk about getting all the information you can, and then simply going with your heart. Both schools are great. He picked well. There is no wrong choice, simply the one he makes for himself.</p>
<p>I’m keeping everyone in my thoughts. I think this journey has so many stages, like grief. Excitement, anxiety, joy, sadness, loss, terror…some all the the same day! The quickly changing emotions of this stage will give way all to quickly to our kids starting school in the Fall, many leaving home for the first time. What a support group we will have!!</p>
<p>Hooray for Bates and EmilyBee!! Great school. My older D has a Bates sticker on her car, even though she goes to another college. Let’s just say we have a thing for the name.</p>
<p>Good Morning.
Well the reality of the changes upon is crashing in as our student has been sent emails with requests to fil in profile/dorm information and another about when the roommates will be announced! </p>
<p>Spoke with another student and parent yesterday–who has 3 lovely choices–also weighing significant merit money at one—All three schools are just terrific and in different parts of the US. It warms my heart to hear the kids now in the drivers seat, now doing the choosing. Now the tables have turned.</p>
<p>How is everyone doing on the spring/graduation diet? Haha.</p>
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Happy Sunday **</p>
<p>Fog~Diet is going well …Just had a croissant with my cafe au lait.</p>
<p>^ Haha. </p>
<p>Hey, did anyone else get an email from College Board that their mail server/suppliers system was hacked! Evidently our names/and emails are compromised…mine and both kiddos!</p>
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<p>Good Morning All…</p>
<p>I’ve been busy lurking the past few days. D has 4 schools left on her list…ugh…though she still can’t seem to officially withdraw from the other 2. Maybe she isn’t quite ready to let go. We have a couple of visits to do within the next few weeks and hoping to get the financial aid info finalized before she makes a decision. I’m a little worried that she doesn’t seem too excited about any of the schools. </p>
<p>I’m so happy for the kids that have made their decisions! It must feel like the weight of the world is off their shoulders! I can’t wait for that day.</p>
<p>Congratulations to everyone and hope everything works out they way it should!</p>
<p>I also received the email from College Board…that does have be a little worried!</p>
<p>fogfog-my d and I also received the email!</p>
<p>and as far as graduation diet…I have been sick the past two weeks and haven’t been able to work out, so the scale has been headed in the wrong direction :)</p>