<p>Yes I also got the email-a final parting gift from the College Board.</p>
<p>Friday I had the pleasure of withdrawing his applications from 5 schools. He is still considering 3 with one clear favorite emerging. He will visit the admitted students day which I am also looking forward to because it is specifically for undeclared kids and I want to make sure we have the best picture possible so I told him make his list this week, I will make mine, and off we go. I wish my husband could come as well but it is not possible being so close to April 15th.</p>
<p>I read some threads on the schools he was admitted to but really didn’t want to go to-and after reading that I talked to my husband. He wanted to keep all his options open-my feeling was if he really didn’t want these schools why not give his seat and I hope the merit money he was awarded to another kid who wants so much to go there? He relented so I hope those spots get used. I felt worse saying goodbye to them than he did!</p>
<p>He is not going to accept the WL for Brown although his GC told him he should keep that option open-I guess they’ve had some admissions off it before. Her last piece of useless advice. I do bear some ill-will towards the GC and the whole setup there-I mean he got absolutely no help whatsoever other than I guess they at least managed in his case to send the right LOR and transcripts which is better than some kids got.</p>
<p>I have found it interesting to read about how kids on here had success with the Ivy-level type schools. Frankly, after reading this and other information I have gotten I am surprised he got even a WL-I can see now he never had a chance. I am just grateful he did as well as he did.</p>
<p>About a week ago I have an eye-opening talk with a friend of my sister who had talked with him last year since she was an English/Math major. The subject came up about his essay-she told me my sister had sent it to her and she was surprised he was having the success he was with that essay. I was a bit shocked because I thought it was pretty good and really was him. She said it was a wonderful story and well written and very creative but not for someone applying as a Chemistry major! The woman knows her stuff, is an editor and has done work with lots of kids advising on essays-even worked at MIT!
She told me if he got into anywhere with that essay applying as a Chem major she would be shocked. </p>
<p>Well she was right! She asked me why he didn’t ask her for help-I told her the whole story of how even getting him to finish the CA was a horror show. </p>
<p>Going through the process of withdrawing those acceptances was also a time to reflect on this whole process and all the other things swirling around while he was going through this. It’s been such a long saga with so much other life events, like everyone else has experienced, that I am amazed we survived.</p>
<p>I do know that for better or worse I helped him as much as I could. He took some help, refused some, and did his own thing for part of it. That’s who he is and I think in the end the school he chooses is going to be the best place for him-I just wish it hadn’t been such an ordeal getting there-he has learned a lot and not all of it good-me, I am sick of the whole thing and so emotionally drained and physically, mentally and spiritually exhausted that I feel like I need to go into hiding for several weeks at an undisclosed location.</p>
<p>Finally, and I know this is a long post but it is almost my exit conference, just when things were starting to settle down and he was starting to get over some of the disappointment he calls me into my office to show me on FB that one of his very closest friends posted the dollar amount of their award to a school he is still considering and they will go for almost nothing. He then pointed to the responses and was all riled up how people were congratulating this person on being rewarded for their hard work. He looked at me with such hurt and bitterness and said he was given 3X the Merit award they were but they can go for nothing because he is being penalized for his parents success. He wanted to post it wasn’t hard work it was financial-so I had to pull him aside, log him off that stupid FB, take the cell phone, and tell him to write an email to the financial aid counselor at the school but NOT to send it. I told him whatever you say you can never take back-and he needed to be happy for his friend. It has nothing to do with him.</p>
<p>I read his email later and it was a good idea I had him write it as it gave him a chance to vent and express his feelings. I get a lot of what he is saying but what he needs to learn, and at 18 I wonder if he truly can, is that this is just the way it is. Schools can give out money however they want if it is from their endowment. I just want to get him through this without bitterness. He’s had a tough week and he perceives that now it will be looked on at school like they wanted the friend more than him-he is going to a lower ranked school than almost everyone else in the top ten, and on and on. This truly isn’t my boy-and I know he needs to work through it and I think he will-but I am beyond sick of the whole thing.</p>
<p>I talked to his father and we sat him down later last night and said if you really want to go to that school we would cover the entire cost-with the Merit Award we could handle it. We want him to be where he wants to be. He said he still prefers his top choice as a better place for him. We felt it was something we could do for him and would remove the finances from the decision. I think it was a good move. I am so ready to move on-and I think he is too.</p>
<p>Thanks for listening-I needed to talk to people in the same boat.</p>