<p>Morning All
On the relationship front, our student told the significant other early on in the relationship that it could’t get serious because after graduation they’d be gong their separate ways and off to college/meeting lots of new people/and won’t that be exciting (!!)
Close to graduation the s.o. asked “what do you think etc etc about the summer and when we go to college…how often can we see eachother etc…call etc…” SO kiddo talked about how exciting is was–the future for them both, college etc…
ah, well…after an emotional week, we again suggested to kiddo that they let nature take its course/play out…and to not press it
and it did…The s.o., wanted unreasonable amounts of communication and our kiddo is out of town/out of the country and can’t call/text/etc daily…</p>
<p>Kiddo absolutely didn’t want an attachment heading into college. Had heard too much about how it impacts adjustment freshman year/making friends etc because of expectations of the other being called back home/at school etc. Did not want to “have the burdeon” of having to call nightly and visit monthly…</p>
<p>IMHO I am all for advising the kids to go into freshman year open to all that is there, meeting people, joining clubs etc…and to not skip those opportunities etc etc…</p>
<p>And that if they are meant to be together (hs bf/gf)–they Need to be their best “selves” they are meant to be…
They are meant to grow, learn and change over the coming years.
Who wants to marry someone stuck as their 18 yr old self? kwim?
If it is meant to be a forever thing–then both he/she will Want to be their best “self” and Want to grown/change etc and experience all that the next years have for them as well…and will encourage the other…</p>
<p>My limited observation of high school relationships going into college from watching my older son and his friends is this: if both parties are low-drama, low-maintenance types, the relationship has an infinitely greater chance of lasting into and possibly through college. The ones where either party is desperate to have daily contact, insecure, needy etc, have pretty short shelf lives. </p>
<p>My older son and his gf (about to be juniors in college) fit the first description. They have been dating since middle of junior year in high school, attend colleges three time zones away from each other, and still have managed to stay together without losing out on a lot of really great experiences and friendships at their respective colleges. They sometimes don’t talk for 3 or 4 days and then it’s just a brief text message, but they have a great deal of security about each other. </p>
<p>Also as a side note to the sad moms and dads that are girding themselves for the first born’s big Good Bye, I have some hopeful words for you: Time will fly. You will see them for parents weekend, then all of a sudden it’s Thanksgiving, then Christmas, and then spring break and then all of a sudden we’re all back here on this thread talking about packing them up after a wonderful, successful freshman year, and you won’t believe the first year is over. Hang in there!!</p>
<p>**I have taken the first and last move-in dates for this countdown from the list on this thread. </p>
<p>First new student move-in is the University of Georgia on August 9th.
Move-in day in 3 days. That’s next Tuesday! Not much shopping time left! :eek:Southwestern University is just 1 day later.
University of Alabama and NC State are just 2 days later.
University of Missouri (Mizzou) is just 3 days later (for sorority recruitment).
University of Southern California (USC), University of Missouri (Mizzou), Emory, Baylor and Pitt (band camp) are all 6 days later.</p>
<p>Last new student move-in is the University of Southern Oregon on September 22nd
Move-in day in 47 days.**</p>
<p>If there are earlier or later move-in dates, please post them so that I can pick them up and adjust the countdown postings. Also, please edit and update the countdown thread using the link below.</p>
<p>How true! (figures below are based on a semester schedule)
3 weeks to delivery and move-in
10 weeks to parent’s weekend
16 weeks to Thanksgiving
20 weeks to Christmas
23 weeks until we start nagging about a summer job
30 weeks to spring break
40 weeks to finals
41 weeks to end of freshman year pick-up! :)</p>
<p>My S signed up for a 14-meals per week plan and plans to do breakfast of cereal and milk in the dorm room. I’m wondering what to do about dishes? Send a couple of corelle bowls, a couple of spoons and some dish soap and towels? Or just send paper bowls and plastic spoons? I kind of hate to do the latter. I really hate to do the latter. Is it reasonable to expect a kid to wash out his breakfast dishes even though that means taking them to the common kitchen?</p>
<p>"ha! I saw halloween candy (jack o lantern marshmallow things) in the grocery store today. (post 1480)</p>
<p>Christmas decorations have gone on sale already at Harrods and Selfridges here in London, supposedly catering to the visitors from the ME who are here for Ramadan breaks and like to take home English Christmas trinkets. The mind boggles.</p>
<p>Apollo6 congrats on your Ds UWC acceptance! Very impressive is it the one in Wales?</p>
<p>Whoa I missed a couple of days and have tried to catch up by speed reading. Ostrich like, Id been skimming over AvonHSDads countdowns but now that weve turned the calendar to August it is impossible to ignore the looming departure date of the 24th as H and S fly cross the Atlantic for move-in the 27th.</p>
<p>Have been reading the Move in tips thread with mounting horror. Very little of the excellent advice actually applies to an international move. The accounts of Bed Bath and Beyonds and the like running out of dorm staples are particularly alarming. Im going to have to get on the phone and try to place an order to be picked up in three weeks time.</p>
<p>Sometimes procrastination pays off though a friend whose son is determined to go to uni on this side of the Atlantic suddenly announced they were coming over from the US for some college visits and she kindly acted as a mule, bringing US sized bed linen which I will wash here and then send back with S. Wish sheets could collect their own air miles…</p>
<p>mathmomvt, if your son is a typical college age male, he will was things out every once in a while, but hygiene would be best served with disposable stuff. It is scary what you find on the floor of male dorm rooms (often covered by other stuff). I did have two college roommates who would have cleaned things every day (one put his shirts/t-shirts/ sweaters in plastic bags in his drawers) but I think they were more the exception than the norm.</p>
<p>Our student is a low drama/secure kid and just doesn’t have the temperment for a high maintenance type…
Kiddo is very excited for MoveIn…we are flying in and arrive in New Haven Thur night. Hoping the weather will cooperate :)</p>
<p>^Me too!!We’re coming in to Bradley mid-day on the 25th, my hope is we can get to the New Haven BBB before it closes to avoid the next day’s crush. I still anticipate a second BBB run the next day with returns after we discover stuff he doesn’t need- but later in the day, maybe after it’s not as crazy. I took S2 to BBB yesterday with the scanner gun. He showed amazing self restraint with the items he picked (he’s my kid who always picks the most expensive thing on the menu, clothing, etc). I think his total bill will be less than S1’s- but that’s mostly because we learned an awful lot the first time around.</p>
<p>AvonHSdad: Great post! You now realize that you will have to do timelines for all these events!! :D</p>
<p>D1 decided which college she was attending in the Fall. All during Fall of senior year, she became reaquainted with a local boy who attends the same college that she will be attending. When they were in HS, they were both in the same clubs. He took her to a class when she visited campus, he would help her with her homework via online blackboards. They started dating after the holidays in December- after she was accepted, and had made her decision to attend. He will be a (gasp!!) senior, while she is a freshman at the same school. He is young for his grade, and she is old for her grade, so the age difference is less than 2.5 years. </p>
<p>I like the guy, they are a good match, but I really, really wish that they didn’t start dating until a few years from now. I want her to start college and meet new people. The biggest advantage is that he will be very busy with his senior project that he will not have too much time to hang out with her. I dread it if they break up while she is in school.</p>
<p>Hard to guess on what my DS will do with dirty dishes – his room is a mess but his bathroom is CLEAN. I don’t <em>think</em> he’d let dishes of old milk rot in his room, but you never know. Maybe I’ll hedge and send real dishes with a few paper/plastic for those really rushed mornings? He can purchase more paper/plastic on his own dime if he chooses to go that route more permanently.</p>
<p>Mathmom, my DD’s school seems too green for us to go the disposable route on a daily basis. She picked up two microwave safe bowls and plates from target for a couple dollars each, two plastic cups and two coffee mugs. She raided my old set of silverware in the basement for forks, knives and spoons. We grabbed a small plastic bin from the dollar store for dirty dishes as well as a small bottle of dish soap and one of my old towels.</p>
<p>Since she doesn’t know how far down the hall she’ll need to go, she can put them in the little bin instead of walking down the hall with a dirty dish to wash. Also, then she has microwave safe dishes for the microwave in her room.</p>
Each kid is different so maybe you should just ask him. That’s what I did. DS opted for paper & plastic (I bit my tongue).</p>
<p>Got my ipad last Wed, but had no time to try it til yesterday. I’m hooked. I will never go back to a Windows product. iMac here I come. I finally understand what the big deal is and I’ve been using PCs since the early 70s when there were no hard drives!</p>
<p>I emailed DS at camp and got an immediate reply (unusual – usually he cannot check his email until late in the evening). He opted for regular dishes for normal use, but a pack of paper/plastic for really rushed mornings. Will definitely also provide dish soap and a dish towel as well.</p>
<p>Mathmom~Started S1 with paper plates,but quickly upgraded to Corelle and such. He had a bathroom and kitchen on his floor, so it was rather convenient to do dishes.</p>
<p>For kids traveling home for Thanksgiving by bus, is it necessary/beneficial to book the tix way in advance like it is for flying? We haven’t even given Thanksgiving much thought.</p>
