<p>Not bringing video games is an understandable request IMO. My roommate wants to get a mini fridge for the sole reason of putting booze in it… That’s not happening.</p>
<p>Hello everyone! I am a long time lurker who is launching her firstborn next month. Wow. I almost cried just now typing that last sentence! Something about typing about the launch that makes it seem more real maybe 
I do have a lot of time left with her though, she will be attending the University of Chicago and they are on the quarter system. Move-In day is September 23. I think that may be the latest day on the list!</p>
<p>Can someone add us to the list?</p>
<p>We live in Ohio and D will be a 6 hour drive away. Not bad…better than some but I am jealous of my friends who are launching within the state. This is going to take some getting used to. </p>
<p>I have enjoyed reading everyone’s stories. I am trying to keep focus and not get too emotional but its hard. D is VERY excited to be starting this next chapter in her life, and I am excited for her, truly. But ohmygosh this is my baby, my firstborn and it is hard to let go. My younger D will enter high school, so there will just me three of us at home now. BIG hole at the dinner table. But my D has been preparing herself for this experience for many years now. She is a very good student, and was bored a lot. She is looking forward to finally being challenged in college, and maybe finally getting to learn something. I will miss her brainy, blonde, beautiful ballerina self very much.</p>
<p>And yes, her dentist recommended that the wisdom teeth come out before she moves to Chicago. So early September she will have them out, with about two weeks to recover before she leaves.</p>
<p>Thank you everyone for the support…I will sure need it in the weeks to come. And Good Luck to all with your transitions!</p>
<p>Hi everyone, thinking of all of you as I continue my dorm shopping. It has fallen on me since D is busy spending time with her friends who are leaving for school this week.
She has been packing and cleaning out her room on her own. I am thankful because if I had to do it I would be crying. I’m on the verge of tears already just thinking about returning to see her empty room after dropping her off. My friends are surprised that I’ve been so emotional because I’m usually the stoic one who tells everyone to “suck it up and deal with it.”</p>
<p>Wow boysx3, that is quite a family! I’d offer to go to move in just to be back up for your friend and her son! </p>
<p>I am probably being considered the wicked witch of the west by DS’s roomie. I told DS I would purchase the frig ($200) and rommie could buy the microwave and that way both families would be chipping in. Ok, so then DS asks if I could buy both because roomie is bringing the TV and xbox and we have to buy the microwave too. Umm. DS doesn’t play xbox, but could and I am sure will a bit, but he is not a “player”. So I said no. Either roomie could buy it or DS could buy it with his own funds. I know it’s only ANOTHER $89, but I am spent! In my mind a TV and xbox is not required dorm materials. Neither is a frig or microwave, but that I understand better. At first roomie told DS that he would pay him back for microwave if he ordered it. umm, what? Then roomie went to Target dot com and is having one delivered to their room. No idea what the other parents think! </p>
<p>Roomie also has a peanut alergy. Bummer for DS, who loves peanut bars and peanut butter. However, he’ll deal with it. So, roomie and DS are fine, I’m the nutcase parent!</p>
<p>Clarifying that I have no problem with roomie bringing TV or xbox. I wish he wouldn’t, but it is his choice and his room. I just don’t feel that it is part of the stuff I am willing to pay for.</p>
<p>David,
part of the college experience and part of maturing is learning to live your own life without expecting others to conform to your needs.</p>
<p>It’s not appropriate for one roommate to tell the other that he can’t bring video games; it’s grossly inappropriate for the mother of the roommate to make that demand.</p>
<p>That being said, it is totally appropriate for one roommate to ask the other not to play video games when he is trying to study or sleep…unless he is that roommate who never leaves the room except to go to class.</p>
<p>For better or for worse, the room is “home” to both roommates and each should have the right to “live” in the room…to study, to sleep, to decompress, to entertain, to have a few moments of privacy. Sometimes things sort themselves out without any problems, sometimes roommates need to reach a compromise that works for both of them.</p>
<p>My oldest son and his roomie had some rough times at the beginning…the roomie was from a family where he had always gotten his own way as he was the only boy with sisters. He did not like to “share” so when he wanted to study in the room, he did not want my son to watch tv, practice guitar, have friends over…conversely, he wanted my son to leave the room and study at the library if he wanted to have friends over, etc.</p>
<p>The boys worked it out by alternating weeks as to who had priority in using the room as he chose.</p>
<p>Simple solution.</p>
<p>By the way, the roomie was the best man at my son’s wedding.</p>
<p>As far as the alcohol goes…roomie might just be blowing wishful smoke, trying to appear cool. Don’t worry about it in advance…just use your part of the refrigerator for what you want. If you need to, tell the roomie that you don’t want to get caught with alcohol in the room because of the possible repercussions.</p>
<p>Welcome Uchimom!</p>
<p>Well, its a good thing we’re a “TV” family - at least I thought we were, until that was redefined for me this week.</p>
<p>I already mentioned DD’s dorm has been totally rebuilt this year - new everything, including furniture, fridge and micro. There just isn’t much (anything) to bring…so I thought. DD’s roommate offered the TV back in February. We went to buy books this week and DD’s roomie and parents came in (from OOS) on a coordinated visit so we all could get together. Very nice people. Anyway - long story short, roomies “daddy warbucks” bought a brand new 42"! flat screen, with stand, with Bluray DVD, with wifi and a 1 year subscription to NetFlix and asked if he could have it delivered to our house to be brought over on move-in day, since we’re IS.</p>
<p>WoW 
DD is living large. So much for college deprivation.</p>
<p>Much of the conversation over lunch included roomies family scoping out houses in the neighborhood, to purchase for living off campus next year (average $300k and up in this neighborhood).</p>
<p>I haven’t felt this poor since… well… I went to college :o</p>
<p>Welcome Uchimom! You all do start late–you can learn from all our move-in mistakes…errrrr…experiences.</p>
<p>I believe that part of the college experience are the skills gained from negotiating the roommate experience. I would bet that many of our kids have never had to share space in this way and it’s a great life skill to have. I know that some kids need singles for health reasons and that’s understandable, but there’s a lot to be said for learning to live in community and I’m glad our kids are all getting that experience. AND it gives us a lot of roommate stories to share! But what I’ve told S is that the housing office is not infallible. If things are not working out, he can talk to his RA and see what can be done, but that he has to give it a shot!</p>
<p>We are working through wisdom tooth week here. DD had all 4 out Monday morning. We have been through the crying stage, the narcotics stage, the vomiting from the narcotics stage, and are now into the Advil and boredom stage. I suggested she combat the boredom with an excavation project in her bedroom but she seems to prefer FB and on-demand movies. She did trade swollen cheek pictures with a HS friend who also got his out this week. Seems dangerous, but I guess it is a bit like the cold war nuclear standoff if he shows hers she can show his.</p>
<p>Meanwhile she has traded a message or two with the future roomie. Unfortunately they have two fridges (DDs is a hand me down from D1), and no microwave. I wonder if there is a room in her dorm building where they have two microwaves and no fridge?!? She has also started getting emails from campus organizations like the theater group. She even got an audition time from one of the a cappella groups during orientation week at 2:00 in the morning!</p>
<p>Boysx3 definitely offer to go along for move-in. Your friend will need someone to ride herd on this mom, preferably someone who is not in the emotional turmoil of dropping off their child! Besides we want more stories.</p>
<p>On roommates. Back in the day, 
we just showed up on move in day to look on the typewritten list for our room assignments. At our school, you got who you got…my parents weren’t involved in the process except the shopping, of course! Remember when the phone was located at the end of the hall?</p>
<p>welcome UChimom! My older D goes to UChicago. Your kiddo will feel a bit out of sorts when all the HS classmates are off starting their new life, and he/she (sorry I forget which) is still at home. But it will be worth the wait. This year is a little later than usual the way the calendar falls.</p>
<p>boysx3- wow.</p>
<p>Today we finished the last of D’s shopping other than her “Wegmans List.” Not a single Wegmans (primo grocery store) in Ohio, so D wants to make sure she has her favorite store brand cereal, crackers,soup, etc. Easy to know what to put in her future care packages!</p>
<p>Instead of dorm mountain we have “dorm delta.” Our living room has a large fan-shaped single layer that keeps widening along the edges. D likes to be able to see everything she has. We leave one week from today, so she needs to start getting things into bags and boxes. Tomorrow is her last day of work, so hopefully this weekend…</p>
<p>I bought Elderflower Liqueur today to prep for my version of an Empty Nest Cocktail (mixing with champagne that my neighbor will bring over once she drops her girl off at the New School next week. She’s not somebody I’ve socialized with, but she’s also the mom of an only child and we’ve recognized each other’s angst on Facebook). </p>
<p>I’m feeling weepy this afternoon, stalking/lurking the UVM '16 Facebook page seeing how excited the kids are about their dorm assignments.</p>
<p>Wow - just reading the First Aid list and feeling grossly unprepared. I asked my son what he needed of the list and he said ibuprofen and bandaids! I compromised and added a bit more - some tylenol, cough drops, immodium and pepto but that’s about it. He was like “I’ve never taken Pepto in my life, why would I at college?” When I asked what he’s taken in the last year he was like “Maybe some Motrin?” Told him it couldnt’ hurt to have a bit more!</p>
<p>I started making a first aid list but then DH went out shopping with D and they bought a ready-made kit at the drugstore, supplementing it with a couple of things she specifically uses that weren’t in there. The nice thing about the ready-made kit is that it’s all organized in a tidy zippered container. I think it was quite reasonably priced. So this is a simple alternative to assembling your own list and worrying you might not have thought of everything.</p>
<p>Funny help calls from newly independent adults department:</p>
<p>A family friend gave D a hand-me-down dorm frig that appeared in excellent condition. D called this morning to report woefully that the frig didn’t get cold. I didn’t know she’d called until I overheard H saying on the phone “There should be a rotary knob somewhere inside that controls the temperature. Maybe it was left turned right down. … Well, look around. It must have some kind of control. … It’s set to ‘off’? That would do it.”</p>
<p>A text message came in later announcing that the frig is now working fine.</p>
<p>:) Next time she’ll know to check the knob…that’s how we learn right?</p>
<p>I ran into a mom just now who left her daughter, her oldest child, for college a couple of days ago. In Europe. She is going to college in Edinburgh. I felt a little silly saying I’d know what she was going through in two weeks because actually, I won’t. That is a good 10 hour flight from here if it were possible to fly direct, which it is not.</p>
<p>momophony - added to launch list but not to college list yet… which IU is it!!!
Swimmomonthego’s S - added to launch list and college list (Loyola in MD!)
UChiMom - added to launch list and college list (Univ of Chicago!)</p>
<p>ALREADY LAUNCHED!
7/15 huxleyalum S1
8/08 weatherga’s D</p>
<p>STILL TO LAUNCH:
8/11 vlines’s S, TX12DanceMom’s D, RTRMom2’s S
8/12 momophony’s S
8/14 Debbie7452’s D, Lilmom’s D, GoIrish2013 S
8/15 familyof3boys’ S, woody35’s D, MeteorMom’s S, geogirl’s S, hsmom2dncrs’ S, ready2bdone’s D, Elkyes’ S, katie93mom’s D
8/16 jackief’2 D, psychmomma’s D, mequonmom’s D
8/17 ReneeD7’s D, Oldfort’s D2, michal1’s D, Chrissyblu’s D, Tebow1’s D, 911C2S’s S, gaelicbred’s D, JGCMom’s S
8/18 annasdad’s D, MizzBee’s S, Rushedmom’s D, soh2000’s D, bubmom’s D, TNVandymom’s S
8/19 kleibo’s S, mspearl’s D, nervousnellie1’s S, PinotNoir’s S
8/20 jmnva06’s D, showmom858’s D
8/21 college_query’s S, momsings S
8/22 Mom2M’s D, kc1214mom’s D, Sunshinestatemom’s D, WalkingTessie’s D, Itsthatime’s S, student2D’s S, JenPam’s DS, ohiobassmom’s S, StantonMom’s S
8/23 eyemamom’s S, Lakemom’s S, PNWedwonk’s S, 1012mom’s D, hawkeyes55’s S, SnowflakeVT’s S, MomOf3Stars’ D, dwhite’s S
8/24 mimk6’s S, Bucasmom’s S, MommyMommy’s D, IJustDrive’s D, The3bears’ D, tozubri’s D, tozubri’s S-2, CaliMom3’s D, MidniteMom’s S, laserp’s S
8/25 MathinOKC’s D; Mom0809’s S; pacnwmomof2’s S, seiclan’s S, JenPam’s DD, KarGaro’s D, EmptyingNest’s D
8/26 marciemi’s S, kathieh1’s D, disneygals’ D, notakid’s D, MaCappella’s D, Lark123’s D
8/27 Glido’s D, maidenMom’s D, student4ever’s S, talaria’s D
8/28 rerunagain’s S, chemusic’s S
8/29 downtoearth’s D, megan12’s S, tozubri’s S-1, bhmamacita’s D
8/30 Gwen Fairfax’ D, glopop11’s D
8/31 elka67’s S, Swimmomonthego’s S
9/01 jaylynn’s D, saintfan’s D, giterdone’s D, Mary13’s D, MAOnemom’s D
9/05 absweetmarie’s D, dentmom4’s D, huxleyalum’s S2, amtc’s D
9/12 northernwoods S
9/18 Mom2jl’s S, Texaspg D
9/20 SteveC’s S, pcaz’s S, GeminiMom’s D1
9/23 UChiMom’s D</p>
<p>1012mom’s D - Tufts University
5boys’ S - St. Lawrence University
911C2S - Bucknell University
absweetmarie’s D - Kalamazoo College
amtc’s D - Knox College
Angry Dad’s D - U of Chicago
annasdad’s D - Truman State University
AnotherFSUdad’s D - U of Alabama Honors College
bbarty - Macalester
BeeZeeMom’s S - U of California at San Diego
bhmamacita’s D - Wesleyan University
BluePoodle’s D - Case Western Reserve University
BobWallace’s D - Agnes Scott College
Bubmom’s D - American University
Bucasmom’s S - U of Connecticut
Cal1983’s S - William & Mary
CaliMom3’s D - Georgetown University
CalmlyiChaotic’s D - Sewanee, The University of the South
Chardo’s S - U of Alabama
cheekymonkey’s S - Tufts
chemusic’s S - Vassar College
Chrissyblu’s D - UC Berkeley
cindymoose’s Twin A - MIT
collconf01’s D - Kenyon College
college<em>query’s S - Bowdoin College
commasplice’s S - Columbia University
Cortana431 - Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute
CPUscientist3000 - Harvard
Creekland’s S - U of Rochester
Debbie7452’s D - Texas A&M
dentmom4’s D - Kalamazoo College
disneygals’ D - Adelphi
downtoearth’s D - Northeastern
dwhite’s D - Wake Forest
Elka67’s S - Rutgers
ELKyes’ S - College of Charleston Honors
EmptyingNest’s D - Kenyon
Everythingbut’s S - Lafayette
eyeamamom’s S - U of Rochester
familyof3boys’ S - Hiram
fiddlinmom’s S - College of Wooster
forthree’s D - Case Western
fourkidsmom’s D - NYU Tisch
fredricksdottir’s S - U of Chicago
gaelicbred’s D - Kenyon
GeminiMom’s D1 - Northwestern
GeminiMom’s D2 - Cornell
geogirl1’s S - U of Miami
giterdone’s D - U of St Thomas
Glido’s D – Wellesley
glopop11’s D – Landmark College
GoIrish2013’s S - Indiana U
Gourmetmom’s S - Harvard
gradygrad’s D - NYU
Gwen Fairfax’s D - The Hartt School (@ Univ of Hartford)
hawkeyes55’s S - Temple University
Highbury’s D - U of Chicago
hookedondwd S - Rochester Institute of Technology
hsmom2dncrs’ S - U of Notre Dame
hutch14’s D - Carleton
HuxleyAlum’s S1 - Rose-Hulman
HuxleyAlum’s S2 - Knox College
IJustDrive’s D - Yale University
Illyria’s D - St. Mary’s College of MD
intouch1520’s D - Syracuse University
Itsthatime’s S - Columbia University
jackief’s D - Case Western Reserve University
jasper44’s D - Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute
Jaylynn’s D - University of San Diego
JenPam’s D - U of Maryland
JenPam’s S - U of Maryland
JGCMom’s S - U of Central Florida
jmnva06’s D - Beloit
jupiter1’s S - U of Chicago
Kandjad’s D - U of Alabama
KareninCA’s D - Lewis and Clark
KarGaro’s D - Towson University
kathieh1’s D – Pomona
katie93mom’s D – Southern Methodist University
kc1214mom’s D - Syracuse
Kleibo’s S - Carnegie Mellon
kttmom’s S - William & Mary
Lakemom’s S - University of Rochester
Lark123’s D - Pomona
laserp’s S - Georgetown
lilmom’s D - Morehead State
lillypod’s S - Amherst
linnylu’s D - U of Alabama
lisabees’ S - Oberlin
lovemykids2’s S - U of Alabama
MaCappella’s D - Amherst
maidenMom’s D - Wellesley
MAOnemom’s D - Princeton
marciemi’s S - MIT
Mary13’s D - U of St Thomas
MASSMOM1’s D - Purdue
mathinokc’s D - Olin
megan12’s S - Haverford
MemphisGuy’s S - U of Alabama
mequonmom’s D - Rollins College
MeteorMom’s S - Univ of Miami
MidniteMom’s S - Yale
MidwestMom2Kids</em>’ S - U of Mississippi
mihcal1’s D - UC Berkeley
mimk6’s S - Yale
Missread’s D - U of Alabama
MizzBee’s S - Wabash
Mom0809’s S - Sewanee, The University of the South
Mom2jl’s S - Stanford
Mom2M’s D - USC
Mom60’s D - UC Davis
MomfromTN’s D – Pitzer College
MommyMommy’s D - U of Vermont
momof2inma’s S – Tufts
MomOf3Stars’ D – The University of the Arts
Momsie’s D - NYU Florence
momsings’ S - Chapman University
mother<em>of</em>perl’s T1 - Yale
mother<em>of</em>perl’s T2 - MIT
mspearl’s D - Ohio State
Mutti2012’s S - U of Chicago
NDSmom’s S - U of Alabama
nearandfar’s S - University of Notre Dame
nervousnellie1’s S - Ohio State
newtothismom’s D - Bryant University
NJMom23s’s S - Cornell
nly2012’s S - Lewis and Clark
northernwoods’ S - Northwestern
notakid’s D - Barnard
NWMom2’s D - Case Western Reserve University
ohiobassmom’s S - Capital University (conservatory of music)
ohksaj04’s D - Denison
oldfort’s D - Cornell
pacnwmomof2’s S - Colorado College
pamayawaa’s D - WUSTL
partyoffour’s D1 - Denison
pathways D - Umass Lowell
pcaz’ S - Northwestern Univ
performersmom’s D - Yale
pghmomof2’s S - University of Oklahoma
PinotNoir’s S - U of Rochester
PNWedwonk’s S - U of Rochester
PRJ’s D - NYU
Proudmama3’s S - U of Alabama
psychmom’s S - NYU
Psychmomma’s D - Southern Illinois University
pullinghair’s D - Duke
rayrick’s D - Olin
ready2bdone’s D - Dartmouth College
ReneeD7’s D - Tulane
rerunagain’s S - Swarthmore
rescue23’s D - Willamette University
rushedmom’s D - Texas A&M
S2012d2017’s S - Davidson
Sactonative’s S - U of Alabama
saintfan’s D - St Olaf
sbjdorlo’s S - MIT
seiclan’s S - Emory
sewhappy’s D - Princeton
shootingsilver - U of Chicago
showmom858’s D - FIT (Fashion Institute of Technology)
skibum4’s S - MIT
Sniner D - U of Alabama
Snowdog’s D - USC
SnowflakeVT’s S - St. Lawrence U
SoClose’s S - Bryant University
soh2000’s D - UNC - Chapel Hill
solat10’s D - U of Alabama
StantonMom’s S - Florida State University College of Motion Picture Arts (Film School)
SteveC’s S - Northwestern University
stressed56’s D - College of the Holy Cross (Worcester, MA)
student4ever’s S - Harvard
sujormik’s D - Northeastern University
sunmachine’s S2 - Willamette
Sunshinestatemom’s D - Florida State University
Swimmomonthego’s S - Loyola University, Maryland
talaria’s D - Univ of Pennsylvania
Tebow1’s D - Univ of Notre Dame
Texaspg’s D - Stanford
The3bears’ D - Yale
TNVandymom’s S - Vanderbilt
tozubri’s D - Franklin & Marshall
tozubri’s S1 - RIT
tozubri’s S2 - U of New Hampshire
UChiMom’s D - University of Chicago
vlines’ S - U of Alabama
WalkingTessie’s D - Syracuse University
wdaveo’s S - U of Alabama
weatherga’s D - U of Georgia
Woody35’s D - Earlham College
xxjcat’s - U of Alabama
Yalemom16’s S - Yale
ypcccu’s S - Princeton</p>
<p>COLLEGES ATTENDING:</p>
<p>Adelphi - disneygals’ D
Agnes Scott College - BobWallace’s D
American University - bubmom’s D
Amherst - MaCappella’s D, lillypod’s S
Barnard - notakid’s D
Beloit - jmnva06’s D
Bowdoin - college<em>query’s S
Bryant University - newtothismom’s D, SoClose’s S
Bucknell - 911C2S
Capital University (conservatory of music) - ohiobassmom’s S
Carleton - hutch14’s D
Carnegie Mellon - Kleibo’s S
Case Western Reserve University - BluePoodle’s D, forthree’s D, jackief’s D, NWMom2’s D
Chapman University- momsings’ S
College of Charleston Honors - ELKyes’ S
College of the Holy Cross (Worcester, MA) - stressed56’s D
College of Wooster - fiddlinmom’s S
Colorado College - pacnwmomof2’s S
Columbia University - commasplice’s S, Itsthatime’s S
Cornell - GeminiMom’s D2, NJMom23’s S, oldfort’s D
Dartmouth College - ready2bdone’s D
Davidson - S2012d2017’s S
Denison - ohksaj04’s D, partyoffour’s D1
Duke - pullinghair’s D
Earlham College - Woody35’s D
Emory - seiclan’s S
FIT (Fashion Institute of Technology) - showmom858’s D
Florida State University - Sunshinestatemom’s D
Florida State University College of Motion Picture Arts (Film School) - StantonMom’s S
Franklin & Marshall - tozubri’s D
Georgetown University - CaliMom3’s D, laserp’s S
Hartt School, The (@ Univ of Hartford) - Gwen Fairfax’ D
Harvard - CPUscientist3000, student4ever’s S, Gourmetmom’s S
Haverford - Megan12’s S
Hiram - familyof3boys’ S
Indiana U - GoIrish2013’s S
Kalamazoo College - absweetmarie’s D, dentmom4’s D
Kenyon - collconf01’s D, gaelicbred’s D, EmptyingNest’s D
Knox - amtc’s D, HuxleyAlum’s S2
Lafayette - Everythingbut’s S
Landmark College - glopop11’s D
Lewis and Clark - KareninCA’s D, nly2012’s S
Loyola University, Maryland - Swimmomonthego’s S
Macalester - bbarty
MIT - cindymoose’s Twin A, mother</em>of<em>perl’s T2, sbjdorlo’s S, skibum4’s S, marciemi’s S
Morehead State - lilmom’s D
Northeastern - downtoearth’s D, sujormik’s D
Northwestern - GeminiMom’s D1, northernwoods’ S, SteveC’s S, pcaz’ S
NYU - fourkidsmom’s D, gradygrad’s D, PRJ’s D, psychmom’s S
NYU Florence - Momsie’s D
Oberlin - lisabees’s S
Ohio State - mspearl’s D, nervousnellie1’s S
Olin - mathinokc’s D, rayrick’s D
Pitzer College - MomfromTN’s D
Pomona - kathieh1’s D, Lark123’s D
Princeton - ypcccu’s S, MAOnemom’s D, Sewhappy’s D
Purdue - MASSMOM1’s D
Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute - Cortana431, jasper44’s D
Rochester Institute of Technology - hookedondwd’s S, tozubri’s S1
Rollins College - mequonmom’s D
Rose-Hulman - HuxleyAlum’s S1
Rutgers - Elka67’s S1
Sewanee, The University of the South - CalmlyiChaotic’s D, Mom0809’s S
Southern Illinois University - Psychmomma’s D
Southern Methodist University - katie93mom’s D
St. Lawrence University - 5boys’ S, SnowflakeVT’s S
St. Mary’s College of MD - Illyria’s D
St. Olaf - saintfan’s D
Stanford - Texaspg’s D, Mom2jl’s S
Swarthmore - rerunagain’s S
Syracuse University - intouch1520’s D, kc1214mom’s
D, WalkingTessie’s D
Temple University - hawkeyes55’s S
Texas A&M - Debbie7452’s D, rushedmom’s D
Towson University - KarGaro’s D
Truman State University - annasdad’s D
Tufts University - 1012mom’s D, momof2inma’s S, cheekymonkey’s S
Tulane - ReneeD7’s D
U of Alabama - Chardo’s S, Kandjad’s D, linnylu’s D, lovemykids2’s S, MemphisGuy’s S, Missread’s D, NDSmom’s S, Proudmama3’s S, Sactonative’s S, Sniner’s D, solat10’s D, vlines’ S, wdaveo’s S, xxjcat, AnotherFSUdad’s D
U of California at Berkeley - Chrissyblu’s D, mihcal1’s D
U of California at Davis - Mom60’s D
U of California at San Diego - BeeZeeMom’s S
U of Central Florida - JGCMom’s S
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U of Mississippi - MidwestMom2Kids</em> S
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<p>boysx3 - the neighbor’s son can say that the roomie’s little brother is welcome to sleep on an air mattress or sleeping bag that he brings for himself but neighbor’s son is NOT giving up his bed for the little brother. Or he could phrase it as NOT EVER giving up his bed for the little brother to head off future requests later in the year if lil bro visits again.
That family needs to know up front that the neighbor’s boy isn’t going to be a pushover for every outrageous request from that mom or anyone else in the family. And what do you bet the little brother is only sleeping in the dorm room so the parents can cheap out on their hotel costs?! (or get parent privacy)</p>
<p>Forget what I said earlier about not hooking up the gaming system until all the parents leave. Hook that sucker up 5 minutes after the mom makes another outrageous request during the move-in. (because you know she will!) Agree with earlier post… the roomie may turn out to be a really nice guy! Not hearing much from him because he isn’t obsessing about it all like the mom is. </p>
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<p>elka67 - It’s highly doubtful any college these days allows smoking of any kind in the residential halls. And anyone who thinks the smell of pot can’t be easily recognized is smoking too much of it already. But there’s still the issue of a roomie keeping illegal and/or banned substances in the room. This includes the alcohol mentioned in another post if any of the roomies are underage or if it’s a dry campus. Your son may want to
let the roomie know now that he’d appreciate it if nothing like that is kept in their room since it’s not fair for him to go through a room search or suspicions about his behavior if anyone else should report it. This could be an even bigger deal with the honor codes on some campuses.</p>
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<p>David - a parent asking their kid’s roommate in advance not to bring certain personal items to college is not an understandable request. The parent may not like what the roomie brings but the two roommates will need to be reasonable adults themselves and work things out if problems arise during the school year. She may feel her son is a light sleeper or has poor study skills so his roommate shouldn’t have any noisemaking items such as a TV, music system, laptop, gaming system, a hair dryer, a fan, electric toothbrush, musical instruments, shredder, Skype software to use with family/friends back home, etc. Where should it end? The roommates can make a contract together about fair use of their shared space and reasonable study/sleep time restrictions. </p>
<p>giterdone - good grief! We finally found a girl with a large TV! Did you actually have to promise it would all go to campus once it got delivered to your house?! Is the roomie an only child? Just wondering due to the local house-purchasing.</p>
<p>MommyMommy - where did you find the Elderflower Liqueur? And what does an Elderflower taste like anyway?!</p>
<p>weatherga - yay for a working dorm fridge! </p>
<p>ohiobassmom - don’t forget that Momsie’s D is attending NYU Florence for her first semester of college! (or entire first year, I forget which, but definitely the first semester!)</p>
<p>geogirl1 - I’d say the exact same thing you did about room necessities. :)</p>
<p>woody35 – I don’t know if she had a plan. It may not be her fault, tho. Berkeley has been very stingy with the communication. Students were told that move-in was Aug 17&18, and only recently was that updated to 17th for some rooms, 18th for others. We would’ve been caught in it too, had we been planning to fly and bought plane tix early. I <em>still</em> don’t know if there are any parent orientation activites planned!</p>
<p>Thanks also for the suggestions to network through the Korean students assoc, or maybe Korean language prof, and community organizations or churches. I’ll pass that along to D to suggest to Roomie. Also for the suggestion that it might be easier to find a hotel near the airport, rather than trying to find something near campus. I don’t know whether Roomie is 18yo. I would definitely want more communication between D and Roommie, and perhaps parent-to-parent, before having her to stay with us – if only to coordinate how she meets up with us (and presumably she has stuff to transport).</p>
<p>H says that one benefit of this situation is that it’s unlikely Roommie will show up with excessive amounts of stuff (42" TV + game system, appliances, rugs, or sofa!)</p>