<p>I posted on another thread about a book I borrowed from the library: </p>
<p>That Crumpled Paper Was Due Last Week by Ana Homayoun</p>
<p>It is a very easy (and interesting) read! She gives advice on helping your child with organization and time management. She discusses everything from helping kids to organize their binders, to scheduling homework time, to dealing with distractions (including electronics!)</p>
<p>Don’t be turned off by the subtitle “Helping Disorganized Boys Succed in School and Life.” Most of the kids she works with are boys, but the strategies are not gender-specific.</p>
<p>S2 only opens the college mail to see if they have a picture of students studying under a tree. Honestly, it’s funny how similar all these college mailings look. He and his friends are keeping a running total of how many pics of smiling students under a tree - and bonus points if it is a multiracial group.</p>
<p>What is with the Anti-Catholic thing in Tennessee? So far every TN poster I have run into on this board has a very anti-Catholic attitude, why?? I would stay out of MN if you really don’t like Catholics as it is the predominate religion here (and across the nation).</p>
<p>Mom22, thanks. That is the exact conversation we had/have had for years. It is all about increasing your options. Better grades equals more options. Long talk last night about that. You are right that they sometimes don’t get it until too late. </p>
<p>Familyof3 boys. Thanks for the suggestion. It may help with my S in the future who has ADHD, and is the master of the crinkled papers getting lost and mismanaged. :)</p>
<p>Honestly my D is one of the most organized of students. Her agenda has been color coded since middle school. She uses it to manage her life including fun and is even a bit She has actually been used to help other students with time management issues. Her issue here was she thought she could skip the work and still get a B. Hence my disappointment. </p>
<p>I do feel that she is going to kick it into gear at this time. The only restriction we have place on her is M-Thursday are school only focused. </p>
<p>The mail here is picking up for D. </p>
<p>LOL at the under a tree comment. D looks to see if there are Northface/Uggs in photos. If so, school must be a horrible place. Sigh… And her new one, she wants to eliminate any school that sends the mailers that suggest the student take a personality survey.</p>
<p>I’ve just started to really read this thread. My hs junior is my third child. My daughter has been out of college for a couple of years and my son is graduating this May. I was on here several times each day “back in the day” and really needed a break. (and I was diagnosed with cancer in the middle of all that). I’m fortunate that my son is very motivated and organized. It’s a pleasure to start all of this again. He’s currently waiting for his SAT score from last week.</p>
<p>mncollege, I don’t think the poster was being negative about Catholics, just curious as to why so many would be sending mail to her dd.</p>
<p>Finalizing details for our Cali trip in a couple of weeks. Ds has identified a class he wants to sit in on. But right now I’m headed to the doctor because of a terrible sinus infection.</p>
<p>Youdon’tsay–good luck with the sinus infection. They are miserable. We just dealt with sinus surgery here in December, hopefully you don’t need that–it was MISERABLE.</p>
<p>Dh had that a few years ago, and it made such a difference. I had run out of my OTC allergy med for three days, and that’s what did me in. Thankfully, I usually can keep my allergy/asthma under control.</p>
<p>We don’t restrict electronics at all. I just told D13 that if her grades drop and she wasn’t putting in best effort that her use of the car would be limited to school and work. We started not managing our kids when they entered HS and have let them take the consequences for not doing homework or forgetting stuff at home. At D13’s school, it is detention. We have positioned transportation and financial support (tuition and spending money) as an earned privilege. As long as they do what they are supposed to do then they can have it, if not they forfeit it. If it ever became an issue I wouldn’t hesitate to put D13 back in public school. We work hard to provide education for our kids and I feel this is the least they can do, it is their skin in the game and their responsibility…all I ask is that they try their best and if they are having problems to seek help.Not doing the work and not making deadlines is just not acceptable under any circumstances. For kids with LD and EF issues, this is much harder but this is the time that they have to learn to compensate so that they are going to be successful going off to college 18 months from now. In D11’s class, quite a few kids are home now going to CC because the couldn’t manage themselves 1st semester of college.</p>
<p>Welcome Viewer! I think we must be living parallel lives. My junior is also my 3rd, with one out of college and one a college senior, and in the meantime I’ve also had a bout with cancer (breast, stage 2). I have to say I’m not looking forward to doing this again, in part because financially the past few years have been hard on us so I’m more nervous about things working out this time. But I am loving watching my D blossom. She has grown so much in the last 6 months! And this week she got her driver’s license, so another big milestone.</p>
<p>We haven’t put a lot of limits on electronic usage – and D2 was/is a major game player. But my kids are pretty good at self-monitoring and know they need their sleep so natural consequences have kept them under control. Different kids/families need different strategies. I remember ages ago when we got a Super Nintendo – the oldest was 8 and it was the only thing she wanted for Christmas. I was apprehensive but pleased at how she used it like any other toy – played for while then off to do something else. I was totally caught off guard to discover that it was the 4 year old who became addicted and would sit playing over and over trying to get to a new level. We had to put time restrictions on it for her until around middle school.</p>
<p>I was speaking to an old friend, who went to college and lived in MN for some time. The first thing he talked about was the cold in MN, so I laughed when I read your post. He also suggested we should look into Airlines fares, because there can be monopoly pricing from some cities.</p>
<p>I had undergone a routine gallbladder surgery about two months ago. after surgery, the doctors told me they could not remove the gallbladder because they suspected I had cancer. I was told, I would probably need an oncologist to perform the surgery. Fortunately, two weeks later the biopsies came back negative. I continue to stay on the diet and the results have been nothing less than stellar.</p>
<p>Lost my mom to breast cancer when I was 16. I hate this disease.</p>
<p>Of all the info sessions we went to with ds1, the one I remember was given by Lorne Robinson of Macalester. It was so entertaining. I can’t help but think that the admissions msg is a reflection of his personality. My favorite line: “I don’t know people are so concerned about the weather in Minnesota. It only freezes once a year.” Of course, then it stays frozen for months!</p>
<p>I liked this! It reminded me of an ad for a private school that, in my view, wasn’t proofread carefully enough. Four students were pictured, four adjectives describing the school appeared above the photograph, and the adjective “Diversity” was the one that was placed right above the black child in the photograph.</p>
<p>Youdon’tsay–I guess I don’t understand why people are surprised when it is cold, in Minnesota, in the winter. Now, this year not withstanding seeing that we haven’t really had winter yet, kids adapt, get a down coat-one of those dreaded North Face jackets, and enjoy the snow (which we don’t have this year but maybe next year). </p>
<p>Now, we were touring a school with our oldest in Northern MN and a hockey recruit from Georgia was on the tour. His mom asked “so, just how cold does it get here”. There is no way to really explain that kind of cold to someone from Georgia .</p>
<p>Hi my3girls, it sure does sound as though we are living parallel lives. I feel so happy to still be doing the family thing. I know the empty nest will be hard on me. But, I agree, we are in a much different financial situation this time than we were when my first child went off to college. it won’t be easy paying another college tuition. My stage 4 colon cancer diagnosis and a failed business has taken a toll on us. Through all of that I am very proud of how well my children have done. My daughter graduated from Dartmouth and my son is graduating from Brown. I don’t have to tell you how hard life has been through cancer and financial hardship.</p>
<p>I’m glad ds didn’t let the weather deter him from going to a great college. His first year he said it was something of a shock, but you get over it. And as he said, “Once it’s 10 degrees, is 5 degrees that different?” lol This year, he almost sounds like he missed the frigid cold of last year.</p>
<p>Heh…my son wants to be where it’s cold. Heat and humidity? He can’t stand it. He also prefers snow to rain. Weather has been the only input regarding college he’s given.</p>
Did your older students go to college locally or did they venture off to a faraway campus?</p>
Of course, then it stays frozen for months!</p>