Double depositors could be the same people who:
bring a plus one and never bothered letting the host know.
park their shopping cart in the check out line and run back for one more thing.
think polygamy is a fine idea.
Anyone have one to add? 
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Where is that a āthingā? Granted, Iām not a well-traveled person, but I donāt know parents who would āslamā (be negative) their kids for getting waitlisted.
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To accept wait-list, you have to pay a non-refundable deposit. Right?
No, if you want to stay on the waitlist, there is no deposit. Deposits are only for when you are accepted and decide to enroll.
Iām ready to celebrate waitlist decisions from several schools with my son. Itās a big crapshoot especially this year. Heās worked his butt off and Iām proud as I could beā¦regardless of outcomes.
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Great post. I do wonder why your ED admits were down though. Shouldnāt they be up since schools want to get those kids committed ASAP? Sounds like youāre schools is pretty rigorous. I imagine those kids who went ED were strong candidates.
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your comment about no one knowing and you are treated the same was another point in their email 
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If your child decides to accept a WL spot, how do you plan to handle the roommate selection at the school that has accepted them?
Agree. I think the discussion here has been how appealing or unappealing it is to wait longer to be admitted, especially if you already have a good choice. Itās not a normal year. Some families are so done with it. In our case, itās probably only reaches we would wait and sub out this summer. My son is pretty chill so far. Iāve only mentioned it once so he is not surprised if it happens.
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I donāt think WL and housing is an issue at a lot of schools. S19 at Bowdoin didnāt fill out housing questionnaire until July and didnāt have his roommate until later than that.
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I donāt have stats for all of ED, but our school was way down for T20 type schools.
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Any school we would take a wait list spot for would be private so I donāt expect housing to be an issue. I guess you need to hope you donāt match to a roommate before you take a WL at the accepted school, or just let them know thereās an outside chance.
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@NateandAllisMom Like your S, my D is waiting for a bunch decisions, including the UCās. But really, only 1 school would make her think about moving away from her current top choice (CPSLO). If sheās waitlisted at this other choice, then $#^%&*!!! Thatās where the āfunā begins.
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Interesting. Thanks for sharing. Iām expecting a similar communication from my Dās school as RD decisions are released.
Our schoolās ED decisions this year are in line with yoursā¦ fewer acceptances. The college counselor team was not expecting that (or much of what has happened this year). @homerdog It is interesting as I would have thought the same thing. I guess it is just the greater number of applications.
@srparent15 @sushiritto Unfortunately, I do hear of parents doing that, including one of my Dās closest friends. It breaks my heart to hear of kids living under that level of pressure to achieve, but it happens. I wouldnāt say it is the norm, but it happens. The ED rejections/deferrals were rough for some families too.
We print my Dās acceptances and tape to her bedroom door. She was so proud (and we were too!) of her 2 deferral/waitlists that those letters are right there with the acceptances! Honestly, we will probably do something fun with rejection letters from her reaches (because we know they are coming). Just getting to this stage and going through the application process is to be celebrated.
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@sushiritto I feel like we are in a maze and there are only a couple of easy ways out, neither of which might be opened at all or might not be opened until summer. At least with UW, I think he will find out - Friday! - that he is outright rejected for the major and thatās one of the easy outs. Likely we will be in the maze for a whileā¦
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Thatās a shame. I made a board too with his accepted school photos and the tiny amount of little goodies he got. We were shooting too low and Iāve never counted on UCs, but it might be a little hard for him RD depending. Wait lists will be celebrated, even if he doesnāt take the spots. I donāt regret at all that he overapplied early this year. He was totally stoked to see the merit offers.
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Back when D21 was in 3rd or 4th grade and I was coaching her b-ball team. She was tiny at the time and I never thought she would ever score a basket in a game. She was a blade of grass in the middle of a forest. She eventually made a basket (just one) that season and I actually dove across the gym floor, doing a āpenguin,ā sliding across the hardwood floor.
Obviously made a fool of myself. Donāt care.
I mention this āmoment in history,ā because I had a similar moment in a local downtown here picking up dinner, a couple weeks back, when she was accepted to Cal Poly SLO. So, yes, I try to celebrate the āwins,ā and let go or minimize the losses.
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Iām pretty jealous actually that your D has it narrowed down to just two!
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Yes, itās actually a very short flowchart. One Y or N decision. 
BUT, she also didnāt apply to any OOS schools or Ivies or any ED/SCEA/REA, etc. So, she made it very easy, as opposed to D18 who applied to Ivies, a few T20 schools, UW, like your S, etc.
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Right? Even if our kids get rejected and they will, as theyāre not perfect itās not the end of the world!
We all know from getting jobs that they will not always get every job they apply for. Or the best example is baseball where a great baseball player has a batting avg where theyāre only successful at getting a hit 1/3 or 1/4 of the time!
So strange that any article/email needs to be sent like that.
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