Oh wow. Looking into that sent me down a rabbit hole.
Iâve done the same! And yet the mail keeps coming ⊠from new schools now, too. Thankfully D24 is my last one!
And here I am, frustrated because apparently very, very few students here have applied to the schools that D24 is applying to, so there is no Scoir data. I know she has the stats and at this point itâs down to essays and dumb luck at the low acceptance schools. Iâd still like to look at a chart, though!
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We were first alerted to it by our Dâs friend who is attending Duke about coal ash in NC.
As we started looking into it, UNC has literally tons of coal ash right next to campus.
There has been 1 kid in the 7 years that we have been at this HS who has gotten into S24s ED school, and minimal numbers who have applied (maybe 10) so there is no data on SCOIR. Just going with hopes and dreams at this point.
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This is why the competitive mania about colleges sucks. (Not that Iâm anything other than grateful for the companionship on CC through the madness). My daughterâs two best friends got scores about 200 points lower than hers on the SAT (they just tested since they arenât college-focused). The more socially powerful one freaked out when she realized she doesnât have the stats to get into our state flagship. She then turned on my daughter and accused her of being consistently mean (a bunch of lies)âand she turned her other best friend against her too, through telling her that my daughter had said something about BF #2âsomething that no one will tell my daughter, presumably another lie. Now my daughter has to do this heavy workload while dealing with the deepest kind of heartbreak. And yes, Socially Powerful BF is happy and laughing at school, and my daughter is miserable and alone, yet SPBF claims that she is the one who was injured. I hate people sometimesâand I hate it that it inflicted such trauma on these girls to get absolutely average SAT scores. 
I share that frustration. You can attempt to use proxies, but my feeling is most of the time if a college is a lot more popular with your school, that is for a reason that might well skew the resulting scattergram.
So I have gotten into a sort of mental habit of developing informal models in my headâlike, if you take these two popular colleges that seem similar but one is more urban and the other more rural and the rural one seems to go deeper in our class, then maybe other more rural colleges like those would also go relatively deeper . . . that sort of thing.
Which is an incredibly suspect way to think, and yet what am I supposed to do? Turn off the part of my brain that thinks like that? Good luck with that, NUM!
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Sounds like a game of telephone. Starts off âDonât apply ED if you canât afford what the NPC saysâ (true), turns intoâŠthat. This could be actively harmful advice to someone who might be eligible for game changer $$ if they chose the right school and applied early enough.
Our âfunnyââa well-meaning relative saying that D24 is smart, she should go to Duke (for some people in this area, the most prestigious college you could name, obvi better than someplace like Harvard that is cold, too far, and doesnât have great sports). Duke doesnât have her major, sheâs unhooked, we couldnât afford it even in the tiny chance that she got in. Just had to view it as they are proud of her and be glad that D24 is being as practical about these things as a 17 year old can be.
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Thereâs still time to apply to a rolling admission school. Mine is going to apply to Pitt but is still working on his personal statement and activities list, so will put in the Pitt application as soon as that is done. Just a thought.
My wife and I took D24 to Ole Miss this weekend. They offered her full tuition, so we thought it was worth the very long drive (we are from Kansas) to check it out. She enjoyed the visit and it is an option she is very much considering. What a truly beautiful campus. I have never seen such tall trees in my life. You could take the tallest tree in Kansas and it would not be half the height of the trees at Ole Miss. Simply amazing. My daughter is chasing merit $ and focusing on schools in the 90-200 ranking range that have her desired major. She has applied to Purdue, Auburn and Arkansas since my last post a few weeks ago, and has over a dozen applications out with six acceptances (Kansas State, Ole Miss, Iowa State, Baylor, Oklahoma State and Alabama). We visit Baylor next in a couple weeks.
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S24 added Alabama yesterday for that reason, will submit today. They are having a free application week (as long as you apply with their specific application, not common app) and they have auto merit and auto honors college. It may not be what he thought he wanted but it does look like an amazing place.
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D20âs friend group imploded second semester Junior year. One of D23âs best friends (who goes to a different school) lived though her school friend-group imploding at the start of Senior year. I think this happens way more often than one might think.
It is so hard to watch this happen and try to help your child pick up the pieces. I know some people say high school years are some of the best but I donât think so. The stew of hormones, social and academic pressure along with starting to really learn/choose how to adult makes for a roller coaster at best.
Iâm definitely not asking you to be at all sympathetic to SPexBF, but just because she is laughing and smiling at school doesnât mean that she is happy. Feeling miserable and alone can happen in a big crowd of âfriendsâ, as well as when youâre enduring the pain of a friend breakup.
Hugs to your daughter. 
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D24 is my last too, but now Law School mail has started coming for D20 as well. I just canât catch a break. I guess after this it will be retirement community mail for me and DH! 
Thanks. Yes, I know but D24 has no desire to apply to any rolling admission schools. I have been trying for months to convince her with no luck, and have just about given up trying.
At my urging, D24 chose and applied to a rolling admission school that has a good number of students in her major, but has now decided she would rather go in-state to a school that doesnât even have her major over this school. What?!WHY?! She liked the program and the school two months ago. She is still proceeding with honors college app etc. and who knows how things will change over the next 6 months, but if decision day were today and those were her only two choicesâŠnot good.
So much for my peace of mind that she would have a college, with her major, in the bag early.
Sounds like your D24 has a good safety option, even though itâs not rolling, so it would be completely understandable to stop trying to convince her at this point in the game. I sort of wonder now if D24 just agreed to get me off her back about it, even though with every single app I ask her âIs there a scenario where you can see yourself attending that school? If not, donât apply.â
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Like you said, so much can and will change for them in the next few months. Hoping that your D ends up someplace great that actually has her desired major! I hear you on the major though, my D has a school high on the list that only has her area of interest as a minor - this is the school she announced she would be attending when seeing it with D20 even though D24 was only in middle school at the time. They definitely keep us on our toes!
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Had the worst college preview day yesterday out of all three of my kids. (So at least 25 colleges)
This preview day did not have campus tours or have an open cafeteria for kids to try food.
I wonât name the college but I was shocked how bad that was.
if you name it, you can save others money from going there they can virtual tour instead.
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Thatâs so frustrating!
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D24 has pretty much indicated all along that she wasnât planning on applying ED or EA anywhere because nothing has really stood out as a clear top choice. Imagine my surprise today when I look at Scoir for scattergram info, happen to click on the wrong place for one of the schools on her âapplying toâ list, and see that she has chosen SCEA.
This entire journey with her has been full of many more surprises than her brothers ever gave me. (Wouldnât it be nice to get that acceptance and price is right - which it very much should be, and be done?)
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