<p>Gardenia2, I totally get where you are coming from, and am sympathetic. </p>
<p>It may be that in time you will be grateful to have the degree, because so many jobs now require it. You made it through and deserve congratulations, perhaps even more so because you were unhappy, but still summoned the strength to persist. Your college experience was not Hallmark Card, or anywhere near that, but you did it.</p>
<p>I do feel that this new “college degree as the new high school diploma” situation is harmful to many: many students who are in college are suffering in order to get the degree (particularly non-traditional students with kids and jobs). Many, frankly, are not really up to the academic work but could do very well w/out a degree in various jobs that now require one. Another important problem is that everyone is racking up debt that will affect them for years to come.</p>
<p>I had two kids at Ivies, who both love school, and my third does not want to go to college. She tried it for a year. She has other interests and I am supporting her decision whole-heartedly. I wish you had had support for what you did or didn’t want to do. </p>
<p>However, it is also true that you will find the degree useful at some point, even if it is not useful now. </p>
<p>And if your parents didn’t have education themselves, or have some other motivation for “forcing” you to stay in school, it was probably because they care about you, so hopefully, in time, you will see that.</p>
<p>I personally think time out of school, or time spent on alternatives to school, is so valuable. The Harvard admissions page has an essay supporting these things. But these breaks take money, and delay making money, so for many, the necessary thing is to finish as soon as possible, so that self-support can begin.</p>
<p>I do wish more attention was paid to other paths in our society, and even wish for small things like access to internships for non-students. There are still jobs that have on-the-job training, and community colleges are a great resource as well. But so many see the alternatives to college as “flipping burgers.” It is a scary prospect for many parents.</p>
<p>I am so sorry that college didn’t measure up for you, and hope that you can move forward in a good way now that you are out of school. If you are not feeling better, there are ways to get help and guidance. Take care!</p>