There’s a lot of good advice here but I’d like to highlight this quote from the OP
“I don’t want to go behind my parents’ backs not only because they refuse to pay for the tuition, but also because they’re my parents.”
There’s lots of advice for @mintokki on options that are about affording college without help from parents. But that is a nuclear option relationship wise.
Like many 2nd generation immigrants Mintokki will have to decide how much to bend to parental expectations and culture and how much to adopt mainstream American culture. With that said, if maintaining good relationships with parents is very important I recommend the following.
“Of course I expect to get into tippy toe school Mom and Dad and that is where I’m pouring all my energy but my guidance counselor says everyone needs to apply to at least 3 matches and 2 safeties (or whatever other number you think fits).”
I don’t know what kind of relationship you have with your guidance counselor but maybe you could prepare a chart with a list of colleges that fall into the reach, match, and safety category for a student with your stats. Bring it to your counselor and explain the situation with your parents. Ask your counselor to print out your chart or something similar on school letterhead or something to look official so you have something concrete to give your parents.
Best of luck to you.