<p>I am a high school senior in California. I just started applying to CSU's and also want to apply to several UC's but my parents will only pay the application fees for Sacramento State and UC Davis because they don't want me to move out for college. The problem is that I don't think I will get accepted into UCD because I only have a 3.5 GPA and a 1920 SAT and I do not want to go to Sac State because it has a low med school acceptance rate. I want to apply to UCSC, UCR, UCSB, and UCM. The CSU's I want to apply are San Diego State and Chico. But my parents won't pay because they are over protective douuchebags. They also won't pay a dime for any college except UCD or Sac State but they make 80,000-90,000 a year so I don't qualify for any fee waivers for the applications or any financial aid for paying tuition. How should I pay for all of this stuff, I don't have a job or any savings because my parents never let me go out and apply.</p>
<p>OK, so here are a few options. 1)Join the military for a few years, until you can come back after learning a skill and serving your country with money toward college and independent status so you don’t have to worry about your parents. 2) Live at home and go to college-schools that your parents will pay for and be thankful that you won’t have huge loans. 3) You can apply for a job on your own-who needs permission? and pay for your own school. However, it will probably be a local school as well since you have no money, no car, no savings, so if you really want to go to the other schools, work for a few years, save up enough money and see if your parents are willing to contribute in a few years.</p>
<p>If my kid called me an overprotective ******bag, I wouldn’t pay anything for him either.</p>
<p>MizzBee gave you some good suggestions. You need to grow up a little.</p>
<p>@patsmom, I have been nothing but a good child to my parents. I stay home all the time when I could be having fun but because I respect them, I listen to them. I don’t do drugs, I don’t have a girlfriend because they don’t want me to, I don’t go to parties, they did not even let me play any school sports because they are so protective. I get good grades, I work my butt off taking AP classes.</p>
<p>Read on this board for a while and you will see that your parents make too much for good aid, but not enough to send you away to school. Yes, it is not great, but it happens. They probably still have a mortgage and living in CA is not cheap. Be glad that they are at least willing to pay for your schooling. Lots of kids don’t get to live away at school. the important thing to remember is to get a good education wherever you go.</p>
<p>If they are that overprotective, casually mention to them that you are considering the military and they may change their minds.</p>
<p>You might get into UCD, so don’t write that off, your SAT is high enough.</p>
<p>If you get into UCD, with your parents income, you might qualify for free tuition.
[Blue</a> & Gold Opportunity Plan](<a href=“http://financialaid.ucdavis.edu/undergraduate/students/BlueandGold.html]Blue”>UC Blue and Gold Opportunity Plan)</p>
<p>So if you’re living home while going there it would be affordable.</p>
<p>I think you should confront your parents directly, tell them that they’re over protective douuchebags. They’re probably not aware of this. Once you clear the air, they’ll pay.</p>
<p>Its not that they don’t have the money to pay, its that they simply do not want to. They have enough money to pay for tuition and boarding. And even if they don’t, I’m willing to take out loans but I can’t do that because they won’t even pay for me to fill out any applications besides UC Davis and Sacramento State.</p>
<p>Follow my plan; they’re probably not very self-aware. Once you point out their true nature, they’ll become better people and give you whatever you want. Trust me on this, you don’t want to let this situation simmer. They’re not going to be happy until they change their ways, and neither will you.</p>
<p>@MisterK, I have tried that numerous times and basically I am told that they are my parents and thats how they were raised and they know the best for me.</p>
<p>You know…your parents really don’t have to pay for you to go to college at all. Many students find themselves in the position of not having any financial support from their families for college costs. </p>
<p>You have a couple of choices as I see them.</p>
<ol>
<li><p>Take your parents offer of payment for the schools they are willing to pay for.</p></li>
<li><p>Get a job, and defer going to college until you are 24 years old and are independent of them for financial aid purposes.</p></li>
</ol>
<p>skuxx916, did you honestly tell them they are overprotective d-bags? As it was said in an earlier post, be glad that you are getting any cash for college at all. </p>
<p>You will find very little sympathy from most of the parents here. Parents don’t HAVE to pay for your education. Also, parents don’t even have to let you live with them once you graduate from high school. Be glad that you have a couple of choices for college, or move out and pay for your education over time like many of us did. If you really want to go somewhere else, go to community college for a couple of years, work to pay for your room and board, then apply to college of choice.</p>
<p>Well put and well played MisterK!</p>
<p>Goto the military, its good for you and your manners. Call your sargent d***bag and see what he is going to do to you.</p>
<p>I’m not looking for any sympathy, just some advice as to how I should pay for college. And no I did not call my parents over-protective ******bags to their face. And the way I look at it is that if you have kids, you should be ready to contribute to their education, if not than you shouldn’t have kids, period.</p>
<p>As the other posters have implied, it may be Your Life but it is Their Money. Therein is a conflict for many. </p>
<p>The diplomatic approach is to buy a copy of “How to pay for college without going broke” by Khany and say to parents “I am going to read this and I’d appreciate it if you would go over the book too so we are informed about our options” (note that wonderful word “our”). </p>
<p>Application fees are $50 to $75. If parents are willing to pay for two, then perhaps you should pay for two. If you don’t have money, ask parents if there are some special tasks you can do for them to earn the application fee (a lot easier to say “yes” to someone who want to work rather than to a whiner who says “you gave but you didn’t give as much as I want”). </p>
<p>Your parents may want you at home because they think you are immature. They may be terrified that you are too messy and complain too much to make a good roommate. Work hard to do things to show that you are ready to be on your own. </p>
<p>We are also in a horrible economic meltdown. Your parents may be terrified of college costs and see the local colleges as a way to save $10K a year. You are talking about med school. Who is going to be paying for that? That will be another $100K and the parents may be thinking “Good gravy! If he’s doing med school, then we need to save money on college!”.</p>
<p>I think San Diego STate has a really horrible four year graduation rate. Here it is:
[College</a> Results Online](<a href=“http://www.■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■/collegeprofile.aspx?institutionid=122409]College”>http://www.■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■/collegeprofile.aspx?institutionid=122409)</p>
<p>Their four year grad rate is a pitiful 28%. Less than one in three graduate on time – probably because the kids are on the beach, partying! Sacramento State is a miserable 9% but UC Davis is 48%. </p>
<p>I’m with some of the other posters. If you think life is hard now, sign up for four years of military service in Iraq or Afghanistan. You’ll earn the GI bill and can take that to any college you choose. It’ll just take you working your AXX off to survive.</p>
<p>And if you think your parents are controlling ******-bags, I’d love to hear your opinion of your army drill sergeants!</p>
<p>" And the way I look at it is that if you have kids, you should be ready to contribute to their education, if not than you shouldn’t have kids, period."</p>
<p>Sometimes contribute means K-12. Sometimes having a child is an “accident”. I’m sure you will do it “right”.</p>
<p>If you don’t get into UCD, attend your local CCC for two years and then transfer.</p>
<p>However, your parents don’t owe you a penny. And that doesn’t make them bad if they can’t or won’t pay. (And I also bet they probably can’t pay without going into debt or neglecting their retirement. Young adults often are clueless here…they just see “90K” and can’t fathom how that doesn’t stretch enough.)</p>
<p>As a fellow young person/ student, trust me, I actually do see where you are coming from, because I was in the position of my parents not paying for college. My parents would co sign loans in my name, but would not pay for any college at all, consider yourself lucky. I know right now, it seems like your parents are being greedy/“not supporting you how they should” but as you continue to mature you will realize that they are being generous in giving you any of their hard earned money to further your education in YOUR adult life. They aren’t obligated to do so just because they had you. I had a lot of the same anger/feelings, but it took me some good hard learning in the real world, of balancing 6 classes a semester and working over 50 hours a week to put myself through school and internships while paying for ALL my own expenses (living and education) 900 miles away from home. Granted I have loans, and I’m not trying to preach my way of life is the way to go or anything, but you can work for what you want. Your parents have so many expenses that you wouldn’t even begin to think about/realize until you have lived on your own and filed your own taxes, paid for your own shelter,food,car, insurances, etc. So give them a bit of a break even though you are feeling entitled to that money. If I were you, I would sit down with your parents and have a serious conversation with them about how you need a job to reach your future goals in life, and how not only will it teach you to work for your own money, but you will be able to be less of a financial burden on them,and it will teach you responsibility. Maybe suggest you start out with 10 hours, then increase to 15,etc. Come up with a mutual plan where you both can compromise, so you can get those other applications in. I’m not exactly sure what they are so concerned about job wise, but I’m sure if you guys sat down and you had planned out some great points, they would listen to you, especially if you asked what their fears were about you getting a job,and how you could ease that. After that, I would see who accepts you, what fin aid you get from where, and then go from that…</p>