<p>Can only ditto what has already been said.</p>
<p>Son: just not enough free time, bottom line. And what little free time he has is spent keeping up with friends that are all scattered now- from Tulane and Duke, UNC and UVA, Georgetown and Swathmore, Lehigh and Gettysburg, Bucknell and Muhlenburg, to Quinnipiac, Darthmouth and Yale- they have found a way to stay close, and it is a wonderful thing to see. The "rat pack" are all coming for I-day for his send-off, and there is not a doubt in my mind they will be in the stands for those lax games. That is his circle of support. This one seems to be mine.</p>
<p>Me: tons and tons of questions, curiosity, reassurance, thought-provoking and soul searching topics- many of which challenge, and often change the way I look at things- this forum ranks third in my ranking of sources (the first of which: Smallwood's guide, the second: our son's BGO).</p>
<p>What I will say is that I have yet to see a topic that has not, in some way, offered some new insight or perspective, or raised a question that we (candidate and parent) didn't even think to ask. Everyone sees things differently, and the insights of others simply expose us to different perspectives. </p>
<p>As for our son being involved, he has "stopped by" on occassion- usually when I find something that I think will be of particular interest (Zaphod's posts a prime example)- most times I copy/paste my way through with things I hope will offer help- most do. Just in the last 48 hours, following our first-ever "downer call," I searched on the forum archives and found a post from Bill0510 this time last year on the exact issue our son was facing- how lucky was I to have that information and "experience" a few keystrokes away- I was able to forward all the comments to our son- and I can tell you, without any reservation, that it was a tremendous help. That alone, for me, has made this whole thing worthwhile, and why I keep returning.</p>
<p>Lastly, it's the other parents, the majority of whom have really been terrific. Faces unknown, they remain a support structure and source of information that has been invaluable. Bill jokes and calls us the "birds of capastrano" returning for cheap thrills, but even he is lured back to the watering hole every now and then with an inside view of the yard. And JM- how would I ever know about tighty-whities without her funny posts- and Boss- I even found a fellow crew-parent that I can visit now and again at our rainy regattas! And Peskemom, who is coordinating a meet-the-face-behind-the-post-party at USNA! Prayerfulmom with her inspirations- and who was it that started that boodle box post with those fabulous brownies??? The list goes on and on-and how can I not mention Taffy, the resident "senior member" who has managed to out-post us all, amassing quite a fan club in the process all rooting for his success! I have to keep coming back just to see which academy will win out! (and which crew he will cox for!;) )</p>
<p>USNA, no doubt like the other academies, will mark the turning over of our charges to Uncle Sam, and this can be a very poignant, and sometimes downright frightening, moment for a parent. I guess, for me, it offers an opportunity to still feel connected in some abstract way when I can't make that call, or know the right way to how best help and support, with institutions that are often closed to parents except for that rare liberty. Last night I was able to "drop in" at our daughter's college- we enjoyed a cappaccino and a cannolli together- unplanned, unexpected, and a real treat- I don't think the academy would appreciate, let alone accomodate such a thing- the best a parent can hope for is an occassional call and hope that liberty doesn't get cancelled at the last minute!</p>
<p>So please forgive us parents who, in the interest of our candidates, come here to share. Do stay around- we love to hear about what is happening at all the academies so we can compare and contrast- and sometimes cheer on our own! There's room enough here for everyone, even parents!</p>