<p>"If you were the parent of a service academy candidate, or any other elite college for that matter, how would you handle the application process? "</p>
<p>I would do what my parents did, I would support and say "If this is what you want to do, we want it for you", but I would not research information FOR my son/daughter. It is my kid's responsibility to do that, if I wanted to find out info on it for myself, to be more informed of what my kid is going through, then fine. </p>
<p>I don't believe supporting is helping the kid find out information like minimum PAE scores, or some of the other stuff parents are asking FOR their kids on this forum. Supporting is showing up for I-day, graduation, commissioning, but I do not believe that looking up where I-day is taking place, finding out FOR your child what you need to do to graduate, etc. is reasonable support.</p>
<p>I just wonder why a lot of these important questions are coming from adults, and not the candidates.</p>
<p>DrSnipes put it well ... </p>
<p>"I'm just saying, if your son's or daughters really wanted this, shouldn't they be asking some of these questions themselves? (Medical, admissions, chances, etc...)"</p>
<p>"Research clearly demonstrates that students whose families are involved in their education generally excel in school"</p>
<p>Very true, but again, I believe there is a line to be drawn for that involvement. Is a parent who is finding out all their kids HW assignments in their Calculus class by calling the teacher ahead of time so the kid doesn't have to worry about it and can focus on "the things that matter" like completing the HW, proper support? I think once you hit graduating high school, and applying to a service academy, parental involvement should not include some of the questions asked FOR the candidates by the parents on this website.</p>
<p>"Candidates in locations without access to the unpublished "rules of the road" lose out."</p>
<p>I don't think I've talked to my MALO once about any "rules of the road" during the entire process. The person who called every once in awhile to interview me (I guess was my MALO?) kept rescheduling the interview, and I never understood anything the guy said. Somehow my local JROTC instructor is now the MALO for this region, and conducted my interview. Point is, just because you don't have a MALO (or another adult who is always able to be contacted) during the process doesn't mean there isn't access to the "rules of the road". There is the internet, the admissions technicians, your admissions officer. All can be reached by a simple phone line. </p>
<p>Whew ... so I guess we've wasted enough breath on this topic so far. Just saying, I'm not here to insult anyone, I just believe the admissions process is not that complicated that a kid needs, along with a MALO, admissions tech, admissions officer, and the internet ... a parent who knows more about it then their child. Your kids did a lot to get to this point, I think they can handle finding out the best way to complete the APP. Good luck to them!</p>