Parties with "Drinks"...

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<p>So, I got my rooming assignments and am in a suite with two roommates and two suitemates. It seems two of them are into parties and seem set on throwing a few in our suite. Though I'm not against social interaction, I'm against drinking. Not that I hate people who drink, but I'm a tad worried about getting caught with alcoholic beverages in our suite (which, as far as I know, is illegal). If the good folk I'll be living with host parties and serve liquors/beer/anything illegal, and get caught, would I get in trouble as simply a bystander? And if so, is there anything I could do (other than simply leave whenever there's a party or be a loser and complain)?</p>

<p>-The Troubled Coot66</p>

<p>PS If you can't guess, I'll be a freshman in the fall...</p>

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<p>If it bothers you that much, most schools allow you to switch your roomate in the beginning of the school year because it doesn't always work. Request someone who doesn't drink</p>

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<p>its not a big deal, but it really depends where you are going to college. some places like BU are very strict, and others are very lenient</p>

<p>but pretty much universally, if you are not drinking and you are with people who are you cannot get in trouble</p>

<p>where are you going next year? that matters a bit</p>

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<p>I'm off to BU. Heh. I'm not against rooming with people who drink (actually I think it might be a good experience), but I just would like to avoid getting in trouble...</p>

<p>-The Inexperienced Coot66</p>

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<p>Just say "I don't drink" People will respect that.</p>

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<p>If your not drinking than you should be fine at the parties in your suite and elsewhere. Nothing really to worry about. They usually bust the people that are or have been drinking. Plus, you can always ask your roommates that it's ok to throw the party but if it gets broken up they take the fall for it, not you.</p>

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<p>Not a huge deal. If you're that worried, just leave the room during their parties. Don't be an @$$ about it, though, don't report their parties or anything. Just live your life and let them live theirs.</p>

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<p>haha youre going to BU! the one college i listed and you are going... that is funny</p>

<p>if you dont drink you shoudl be okay... i guess you should worry about not getting your security deposit though...</p>

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<p>I don't drink. The people that drink are easy to spot because all they talk about is drinking.</p>

<p>Just don't talk to anybody. I don't and I've been clean the whole time I've been in college.</p>

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<p>drinking is an integral part of the college experience</p>

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<p>chill, just make sure to sound proof your room, suites are usually harder to catch drinking. they'll take care of it.</p>

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<p>rugbywinger: yeah, I agree. But some people don't want to, and you have to respect that. Just don't shove stuff in their face, and it should be fine.</p>

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<p>At my school, if there is alcohol in the room, everyone who's in that room get in trouble. </p>

<p>I happened to have suffered from this particular rule. I was hanging out with some of my friends in the room a few doors down from mine and they were drinking but I wasn't (I do drink sometimes, but I wasn't then). I opened the door to go to my room and as I did, the Head Resident of our dorm walked by and saw the beeramid that they had constructed. He collected all of our ID's and wrote us all up even though I explained that I wasn't drinking and everyone told him that I wasn't as well. </p>

<p>Luckily, at my university, for your first offense, you have to sit through a computer slide show and take a 10 question test, then write a 500 word essay on what you learned from your experience. </p>

<p>I could have fought the write up and my HR even said that he believed that I wasn't drinking, but the policy is that everyone in the room is at fault, whether they were drinking or not. And if I had fought it, it would have been more of a hassle and they almost certainly would not have dropped the write up.</p>

<p>Basically, the lesson here is that you shouldn't drink in the dorms and you should avoid people when they drink in the dorms because you can get in trouble too.</p>

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<p>:( So I should basically leave whenever there's a party or risk getting in trouble? Well, that sounds horrible...</p>

<p>-The Horrible Coot66</p>

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<p>Coot66. If you have alcohol in your room and a minor is served and anytime later that night (no matter how many other parties he/she went to) that person gets hurt/hurts someone else or is arrested for underage drinking you can be arrested for supplying alcohol to a minor since it was in your room. You are taking chances. This is the law. The risk might be small but that is the law. Here is an example from Penn State
<a href="http://www.collegian.psu.edu/archive/2007/04/04-05-07tdc/04-05-07dnews-09.asp%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://www.collegian.psu.edu/archive/2007/04/04-05-07tdc/04-05-07dnews-09.asp&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p>

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<p>That still sucks. If I'm not actually "supplying" or consuming alcohol, I shouldn't get in trouble for being in the vicinity...</p>

<p>-The Consuming Coot66</p>

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<p>Hey Coot I was in Warren towers my freshman year and I was in a similar situation. I went into college saying that I don't want to drink (I have since dropped my zero alcohol thing and drink on occasion, never too much though). I told my roomie that I don't want to and was uncomfortable with other people doing it in my room. He completely respected me and never drank or had other people to come in and drink while I was in the room. Don't worry, people will respect your decision. Also, understand that you will come into situations during which you will be around people drinking. It is almost an inevitability in college. You will eventually get accustomed to seeing it now and then and, in all likelihood, you will participate a bit. It is a slow and steady process. Like i said, don't worry. Its just another part of college</p>

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<p>Some schools are pretty lax on enforcing things like this though. Some people understand that kids are going to drink whether we're 21 or not. Not ridiculously self-righteous like some people.</p>

<p>I always think its funny when people voice opinions somewhere along the lines of "If you're under 21 alcohol is the devil! Don't drink or else you are a horrible person! Oh, you're 21? Here, have a beer." Just a little pet peeve of mine, you see.</p>