<p>It's a long story that I have to type with my phone, but here we go.</p>
<p>I am 21 and I started college in fall 2010. I'm just about to start my junior year and I'm starting to wonder if I even belong in college.</p>
<p>I went to an high school with an engineering magnet. I enjoyed it I decided to major in civil engineering in college. I got a couple scholarships and attended the university of north florida. Freshman year was easy enough as I got respectable grades while still having the laziness I had from high school.I struggled a bit in 2 out of 3 math classes but I was just happy I passed. </p>
<p>Sophomore year came and my laziness caught up to me as I failed gen chem twice and calc ii within a year. I retained my scholarship by aceing earth science and technical writing. Refocused I started my this year taking calc iii</p>
<p>Its a long story that I have to type with my phone, but here we go.</p>
<p>I am 21 and I started college in fall 2010. I’m just about to start my junior year and I’m starting to wonder if I even belong in college.</p>
<p>I went to an high school with an engineering magnet. I enjoyed it I decided to major in civil engineering in college. I got a couple scholarships and attended the university of north florida. Freshman year was easy enough as I got respectable
grades while still having the laziness I had from high school.I struggled a bit in 2 out of 3 math classes but I was just happy I passed. </p>
<p>Sophomore year came and my laziness caught up to me as I failed gen chem twice and calc ii within a year. I retained my scholarship by aceing earth science and technical writing. Refocused I started my this year taking calc iii, calc phys ii and differentials. I flailed around that semester and was about to fail all 3 until I lucked out and was diagnosed with gallstones. I got away with a medical withdrawal but knew civil engineering wasn’t for me.</p>
<p>So in between semesters I switched to comp sci, which I found more interesting and less math. For this semester I wanted to really work hard. I spent to the library, went to office hours and even went to the useless tutors a couple times. And yet I still failed 2 classes. I did homework and was food with projects but I couldn’t pass tests for nothing. And in my math classes where the whole grade was bases on tests i was screwed.</p>
<p>So now I’m here at home. Throughout my school year my mom has been breathing down my neck, berating me when I did bad and borrowing money whe I got refund checks. The pressure from my family and scholarships has made me dread college. Now that I most likely lost my scholarship I will have to start taking out loans. And my efforts this semester were derailed early by a strange illness and late by the death of my laptop.</p>
<p>Ive made very few friends besides the ones I see at my on campus job, and even then I don’t know them well enough to hang out with them. I am unhappy in college and all I want to do is get degree so I can get a job to break away from ny family and live a simple life. But this past semester was so demoralizing that I’m unsure if I should continue.</p>
<p>I don’t know what I’m going to do but I have to make a choice in the next couple of days. Any advice?</p>
<p>Had to type all this from my phone. Sorry for typos and poor organization.</p>
<p>I was unsure where to put this so if this is the wrong area can someone tell what is the right one?</p>
<p>Tomorrow, get yourself to the counseling center on campus. You need mental health advice as well as academic and career advice. There are people there who can help you sort through all of your issues. You are not alone.</p>
<p>Yeah probably a good idea. Also gives me a reason to get out the house.</p>
<p>You sound so sad and I agree with happymomof1… go talk to a professional. The right one can help you sort out all your “problems”. It can take a few “tries”, but you can find someone to help you through all of this. And you are definitely not alone.</p>
<p>Five pounds, you were very dedicated to type that whole message on your phone! I hope your laptop situation gets worked out. Losing access to the internet can be distressing in itself.</p>
<p>Like the other posters said it would be really good to talk to someone at the counseling center so you don’t feel so alone. And then once you get one thing back on track (whether it’s school, or work or even your laptop) focus on that achievement. </p>
<p>You should also remember that engineering is a very tough course! I’m impressed that you passed all the freshman classes so give yourself some credit for that. It also sounds like you came to college without the study skills needed, and it takes time and discipline to develop those. It’s going to take a little more time to finish college than you had planned, and it will take persistence. But don’t give up on your goal of a college degree just yet. When you’re at the counseling center, hopefully they can help you come up with a plan that gives you a greater chance of success. Maybe just take one or two classes at a time so you can really focus and not juggle so many things. I’ll be thinking of you and I hope you feel better soon.</p>
<p>I don’t know if this will help you. I am not posting this to tell you you should become an A student. This book is however an approach on how to organize and use time management to help you with your study skills. It is a quick book, the library may have it. The writer is a computer scientist, young guy who is teaching CS at Georgetown Univ at the age of 30. Good luck!</p>
<p>[How</a> to Become a Straight-A Student: The Unconventional Strategies Real College Students Use to Score High While Studying Less: Cal Newport: 9780767922715: Amazon.com: Books](<a href=“http://www.amazon.com/How-Become-Straight-Student-Unconventional/dp/0767922719]How”>http://www.amazon.com/How-Become-Straight-Student-Unconventional/dp/0767922719)</p>
<p>Thanks everyone. After talking it over with my counselor, adviser and mom, I decided that I will go ahead and switch my major to Information Technologies. I’ll stay at UNF. I was even able to cut a deal with the scholarship people and they will not cut my scholarship if I take 12 hours this summer ( which is doable since 1 class is going to be online and another will be a career planning class. Once I had my plan laid out my mom didn’t really bother me about it too much, just advising me to ‘keep trying’.</p>
<p>Thanks for all the Advice.</p>
<p>excellent! Congratulations, OP, and good luck. I encourage you to continue with the counseling. You might find it helpful to navigate the next couple of years. Hang in there. You can do it!</p>
<p>Way to go! You tackled a problem and came up with some great solutions. Please keep seeing your counselor for advice. It will keep you on the right track. You obviously have what it takes to be successful and with a little guidance - you will do it!
Best of luck to you 
Keep us posted.</p>