<p>I think it's a good question. Can a guy and a girl be very close friends, without feelings of sexuality? If yes, how did you keep it that way? If not, what makes you think so?</p>
<p>I don't think so. I mean, I guess it's theoretically possible, but for the most part it doesn't happen. Us females tend to be attracted to guys we really connect with on an emotional level, a position a close guy friend would definitely be in, and boys tend to choose female friends who they find attractive, at least on a subconscious level. Add in the fact that a lot of girls just love to flirt, and boys our age are just so sexual, and it's not a good combo for platonic relationships.</p>
<p>btw, check out the ladder theory:
<a href="http://www.laddertheory.com/%5B/url%5D">http://www.laddertheory.com/</a></p>
<p>oh yeah, check out
<a href="http://www.laddertheory.com%5B/url%5D">www.laddertheory.com</a></p>
<p>Platonic relationships between genders either involve females that ***** and vent their feelings about their ******* of a boyfriend to a homosexual male all day long, or females that are mainstream teenage girl rejects who instead act as tomboys and thus play videogames with nerds or sports with male jocks to make them feel wanted.</p>
<p>I apologize if I offened anyone with my stereotypical statement, but Kanye West told me to always tell the truth.;)</p>
<p>Reading the ladder theory site made me fume! I started ranting and raving to my friend about the breaks in logic and blanket statements. I think something is seriously wrong with my sense of humor....</p>
<p>Anyway, I believe it is possible to have a platonic relationship.</p>
<p>gurl<em>next</em>door: That is absolute BS and you know it!</p>
<p>All I can say is that all my life I've had many friends that are men--sometimes they had girlfriends & sometimes now, sometimes I had a boyfriend/husband and sometimes not. The men I was romantically interested in were those I stayed romantically interested in and those I was "just friends" with stayed that way also.
I can't know what was going through their minds, but I believe it worked for them as well. My husband has had women friends all his life as well. We have never had problems or confusion about where our romantic interests lie. Have never been tempted to have sex with any of my buddies.
HImom</p>
<p>I haven't had any close male friends- close enough where this would arise, but I have seen it multiple times. But when that person is your a very close friend, or your best friend, one person usually develops feelings :p</p>
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i know a few of my friends who became that way, and when it's a one-way thing, they always tell me they regretted it because if only they hadn't become like that, they would've stayed beautiful friends. as for me, i have a girl who is best friend to me. and nope, the thought of something more than best friends never crossed my mind before.</p>
<p>btw celebrian, did my remedy worked? :D i'm curious since i haven't heard from you.</p>
<p>LadyinRed: I think what I posted has at least some truth to it. Ask yourself honestly the same question that the Ladder Theory proposes regarding your own male "friends", considering they are not homosexual and they don't have a girlfriend at the higher end of the ladder than you of course. If you gave your male "friends" an open invitation to sex, would they accept it or refuse it???</p>
<p><a href="http://www.laddertheory.com/yesvirginia.htm%5B/url%5D">http://www.laddertheory.com/yesvirginia.htm</a></p>
<p>Haha, I do think though that it is preposterous that the ladder theory portrays every guy as male chauvinistic pigs that want to screw every female in sight 24 hours a day. 5 hours a day is more realistic LOL!!!;)</p>
<p>BUMP(stupid CC word limit) :)</p>
<p>My best friend is a guy... and there's no way in hell I'd go out with him :)
He's pretty much an extreme Linux geek who's life seems to revolve around computers...</p>
<p>I would say a resounding NO. Besides my buddies wives and girlfriends, I have only one female platonic friend, and we would probably already have had sex if we weren't both always so busy. It is just impossible for me to have female friends and not develop feelings toward them. My roommate seems to do it pretty well, but his dad left at a young age and he has a tremendous fear of having a kid and it not being with a girl he is in a LTR with. I ask him all the time how he does it. He is probably the only guy I know like that. Every other guy I know would totally have relations with a female friend if asked.</p>
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<p>yea... my best/closest friends have usually been guys. of 3 cases, 2 developed crushes for me. and for the third, we went out on a date and it didnt last. later, i became somewhat jealous when he went out with other girls.</p>
<p>My two best friends are boys, and I shudder to think of them touching me that way. They're like my brothers. Especially the younger one; he's a mathematical genius, fun to hang around because he's so darn naive, but it would just be wrong if we went further than giggling over the integral of e to the x.</p>
<p>When Harry Met Sally</p>
<p>That's all I have to say!</p>
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My two best friends are boys, and I shudder to think of them touching me that way. They're like my brothers. Especially the younger one; he's a mathematical genius, fun to hang around because he's so darn naive, but it would just be wrong if we went further than giggling over the integral of e to the x.
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exactly! it's just like, it's not normal for such thigns to happen! my best friend and I have an understanding, and somehow this issue just don't crop up at all.</p>