Hey guys. So things are sort of messed up right now and I’m hoping for some insight and advice on my situation!
This fall, I transferred from a community college in my hometown to university as a fall sophomore. I had SOLID plans of rushing a very exclusive top social fraternity that has a bunch of active brothers I know in it. Things were going as planned, I was heavily recruited, extended a bid, and it was made very clear that they wanted me. However, I regrettably took a bid from another top house on campus instead because I felt I would succeed more academically there (I love to party, have always had a super close group of friends, been very social, but take my education very seriously). Anyways, after a couple weeks of pledgeship there, at a fraternity where I didn’t know any actives and was just another random pledge, I was cut for a pretty stupid reason and now have to GDI the rest of this fall semester, and since I just transferred up here and don’t have my social life or anything established, I’ve been pretty depressed but have been fighting it and trying to get involved on campus in other ways until I head back out to pledge in the spring. Overall, I was pretty bummed to get cut, but ultimately knew I should have originally gone to the top fraternity where I knew people, fit in, and my life was made. I’ve talked to a few brothers (hometown friends) in the same fraternity (the one i know) that I plan on rushing again and pledging for in the spring. I am still welcome to pledge their brotherhood and am guaranteed a bid but I do understand that I will now be that spring sophomore pledge, which has a certain stigma. Apart from that, the brothers have a bad taste in their mouth since I took another fraternity’s bid over theirs, especially since they’re a very exclusive house. Academics are very important to me but I also love to party and be involved, and with that, I realize my time is now very limited as I’ll be pledging much much later than the normal freshman, and am quite worried about how everything will go in terms of my pledgeship, fraternity experience as a whole with only 2 years as an active brother, my academics, and future after college. I’d appreciate any advice, comments, or insight that anyone has to offer.
Much love