<p>working definitely, but being a stay at home mom is a full-time job, you wouldn't just be sitting around twiddling your thumbs. I think either option is hard work.</p>
<p>Ya I would prefer my wife to be independent and working too instead of staying at home and relying on me for the paycheck/$$</p>
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working definitely, but being a stay at home mom is a full-time job, you wouldn't just be sitting around twiddling your thumbs. I think either option is hard work.
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It's hard work, I know, but it's also mindless work. I wouldn't be able to stand it.</p>
<p>wow I'm guessing most of the commentors on this thread are male, because you all seem to lack a recognition of the commitment, dedication, and emotional perseverance it takes to be a stay at home parent (mother or father). It's not like stay at home parents don't "do anything." Stay at home parents are constantly working, with little pay and no bonuses, managing the budget, hauling the kids around, preparing the food, cleaning, keeping appointments, shopping, and supervising the kids.</p>
<p>Hm, me duh, I know you are a girl from previous posts, and I could really argue with you on that. I'm guessing you've been educated in a somewhat liberal environment, and you'd probably call yourself a feminist, correct? For one thing, I think the role of a stay at home parent has changed dramatically over the past few decades. I think, you might disagree with me, that there has been a split, fission if you will, between the concept of femininity and the domesticity. </p>
<p>Anyway, if you want to talk further, since I don't know if you really care about what I'm saying, I'd love to debate this.</p>
<p>MeDuh, the my above post was really in response to your insinuating stay at home parenting to be a bit "mindless." Anyway, what I'm really trying to say is that that notion seems to have fallen to the wayside in this new era of gender equality, and it really struck me that in this day and age there still seems to be somewhat of a rebellion among women toward playing the role of stay-at-home mom. It's just really fascinating to me...</p>
<p>Let's see. I'm not a great debate person, but I should probably clarify myself.</p>
<p>First off, to answer your questions, I've been educated in China (though politically liberal, it's quite the traditional country), Texas, and the midwest. So the only liberal education I've had is here in the midwest, which isn't even all that liberal.
I'm pretty liberal myself, though I don't consider myself at all a feminist. My culture values were established very firmly in China. Through our traditional beliefs, women are inferior to men and should respect and obey their husbands. If I were married and my husband wanted me to be a stay at home mom, I would argue it, but do it nontheless, even while hating every second of it.</p>
<p>More about my education. I'm an extremely strong science/math person. I hated English and social studies (except for World Geography and psychology). I want a carreer. I want a name for myself. I want to be a doctor, and that's going to require more work and dedication than I can imagine right now.</p>
<p>Being a housewife would require me to clean (which I hate), keep the house in general order (which I'm terrible at), cook, pick up/drop off any kids, run errands, do the bills (maybe), do the laundry, and make schedules of everyone in the family work out right.
I'm sorry, but that's nothing compared to cutting open someone's chest and seeing their heart beat and pump blood to keep that person alive. That's nothing compared to saving people's lives.</p>
<p>I know that I have the potential to become a great doctor and accomplish great things for humanity. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I threw all that away to be a housewife.</p>
<p>I still disagree with you, I think both occupations can be equally beneficial to society. </p>
<p>Anyway, lol, just for your information, I do not look at porn</p>
<p>I need adult interaction.</p>
<p>And allow me to add for clarification purposes that it's impossible for anyone to understand the position of being a parent unless we've been one, so it's entirely pointless to even be discussing this. Once you become a parent, your life changes, and you have to make a lot of sacrifices. Instead of it being all about your plans and your goals, you'll have to include the child's future in those plans as well. I'm not saying you can't do both. But don't discount the millions of stay at home moms as playing a "mindless" irrelevant role in society. Maybe they once had dreams of becoming lawyers and doctors, like yourself.</p>
<p>;) It was a joke.</p>
<p>Please expand on why you disagree and why doing something good for my future husband and kids beat doing something good for a few hundred people per year.</p>
<p>i think it is only worse if it has an adverse affect on your husand and kids ( if you plan to have them.) i do think a good mother can be very beneficial though, and some would think that the love and appreciation from your children and husband would be more important than from a bunch of strangers. but being a doctor is a very honorable occupation...not one im cut out for..i hate blood. maybe my wife will be a doctor, haha.</p>
<p>I don't know if you've had the chance to read my above post, but I will comment again anyway. </p>
<p>It seems to me that you are placing a fixed value on the roles men and women play in society. But, you are really not in the place to do so because you have never had the chance to be a parent. You are a time in your life when it's okay to be selfish, you have your whole future ahead of you and you have choices. You are in the position to put yourself first and plan your life around that. But, when you have a child, that all changes. Now you must account for two people instead of one. Two people's futures instead of just yours. Of the millions of stay at home moms in this country, I'm almost positive many of them probably once talked like you. Some of them might have wanted to be a lawyer, the first female president, a doctor. Just because that changed does not make their role a "mindless" one. They just had to make a sacrifice that you and me and millions of other teenagers included cannot even begin to understand. Thus, it is completely inappropriate for us to degrade that role.</p>
<p>Okay, I see your point in that I'm not at an age in which I can correctly judge my feelings about children yet.</p>
<p>However, you still haven't answered my question. Let's say I have two children and a husband. Feelings and emotions aside (because I feel that they cloud judgement rather than clarify), how can my lifestyle as a housewife, which benefits three people, be as good as a lifestyle as a doctor, which benefits >3 people?</p>
<p>And I don't think that not being able to emphasize with those who would choose being a housewife over a doctor is a selfish thing. I'm going to be a doctor to help others, not myself. If I were going into engineering or computer science or anything of that sort, I wouldn't be asking this question.</p>
<p>Hm you definitely were not educated in the U.S. (no sarcasm intended). It's rather obvious from your comment that you were educated in a socialist environment. </p>
<p>Okay so I see you want me to admit you were right from the start, which I refuse to do, but I will say that yes, emotions aside, being a doctor DIRECTLY benefits more people than being a mother of one or two children. But the benefits differ. It's like the old saying "you can't compare apples to oranges." I really don't think that is a fair question.</p>
<p>:) That makes me feel kind of proud. The growing up in a socialist environment part.</p>
<p>Anyway, sorry if anything I said came out sounding like I wanted you to admit that I'm right. You're completely entitled to your opinions, and I have no right to tell you that you're wrong. You're not wrong. You're wrong for me, but you're right for you.</p>
<p>Haha okay, I guess that was a nice way to end the disagreement!</p>
<p>Oh I forgot something, I wasn't calling you as a person selfish, I was really using the word in a nonnegative way to describe the mindset of the majority of young adults in the post-secondary educational institutions of America.</p>
<p>lol don't you wish we ran countries in the Middle East? There would be so much less violence... ;)</p>
<p>haha yeah we'd probably do a hell of a better job than Bush and Rummie.</p>