Get a lawyer. If there was no harm intended, then I doubt you will be charged, or at worst, misdemeanor battery. And the lawyer can negotiate that. This all assumes she was not seriously injured and you all were horsing around doing wrestling moves or something. Perhaps you all just pay her medical bills.
If she was seriously injured or if this was just the 2 of you and not a bunch of kids play acting wrestling moves or something, then it could be worse. Intent matters for assault.
A lawyer can tell you if she can make this all go away. But learn from it! You are heading to a huge school with a massive party scene. You can’t do anything like that there or you will be out! And understand how serious this is. A criminal record won’t just mess up college. It can mess up your life!
well, is the girl OK, or in a hospital bed or neck brace? all I hear is “how will this affect me?” and nothing about the well-being of the girl you assaulted.
Wow, from the urban dictionary, spearing is NOT a simple tackle but has definite sexual assault implications. Get an attorney and DO NOT talk about this with ANYONE but attorney. HUGE error in judgement on your part. Hope the girl was unharmed, for both your sakes.
As to kids doing stupid things at 17 while under the influence of alcohol:
Alcohol breaks down inhibitions. It’s my opinion that alcohol doesn’t create feelings out of nowhere; it simply unleashes what’s already there because the normal barriers to expression of thoughts or feelings have been disrupted by alcohol.
Many kids do stupid things when drunk. Not every drunk person perpetrates violence on others when drunk, even when very very drunk. There is a big difference between doing things which risk one’s safety and engaging in violent behavior towards others. We’ve all likely seen the difference between the guy (or girl) who drinks and ends up with a lampshade on his head, the guy (or girl) who drinks and jumps off the roof into the pool below, and the guy (or girl) who gets belligerent and gets into fights or abuses other men or women.
It’s possible that the girl at the party was playing full tackle football with male friends, or playing a friendly game of WWE and the OP forgot it was a “game.” Not likely, but possible.
At minimum, the OP needs to not be drinking until he is drunk and incapable of distinguishing when it’s okay to ram your head into someone’s body and when it is not.
1- get a lawyer
2- ask the mods to take down this thread. Once your lawyer has explained to you how to appear contrite in front of a judge, the last thing you need is for the lawyer representing the woman you assaulted entering this thread into evidence to show that you continue to be more concerned about yourself, your college admissions, and your own well being than the well being of the person you assaulted while under the influence.
3- Tell your parents you’d like to start counseling- ASAP- even before you enter the “legal system”. Get some perspective on why tackling people at a party is a bad idea.
I know plenty of people with drinking problems, past and present. Drinking does not create personality issues. It only brings out the ones that already exist.
I find it telling that your concern is about being rescinded, rather than about what it is that made you so aggressive.
It would seem likely this kid had way too much alcohol and then made some decisions with very bad judgment.
I am ok with holding this guy responsible for actions he took, even with my assumption he was drunk beyond reasonable thinking, while certainly capable of walking and talking. I would not excuse his decisions if he were voluntarily intoxicated, as I suspect.
On the assumption he was voluntarily intoxicated, do all agree with me on that, or do some feel he should be excused for his actions because he was drunk?
Sorry but I don’t agree that having a party with copious amount of alcohol while mom and dad are gone is a typical high school activity. Sure some do it, but in just about every case I know of the parents found out. How they handled it showed a lot about who they were and how much they wanted to help their kid mature and grow into something besides a partier.
OP has left the building. Hope he gets a lawyer, realizes the magnitude of volume of his poor decisions that night, and more importantly I hope the girls is fine.
Sadly, since he has other posts on getting in to Ga Tech, this is more likely real than someone just having fun with the message board.
Nobody’s mentioned this, but IMO, unless the girl was hurt enough to need medical treatment or the incident had sexual overtones, her parents are overreacting. My S2 body-slammed another boy while playing Spotlight at a park and broke his collar-bone when he was a freshman in HS. Not one word was ever said and they are friends to this day. And frankly, since it didn’t happen on school property or involve actual students, I don’t see how it’s any of UM’s affair.
I don’t like my daughter getting assaulted at parties. I’m going to give the victim’s parents the benefit of the doubt and assume that if this was a cute and harmless encounter, it would be over.
UM is within their right not to allow students with a criminal conviction to live in their dormitories, study in their libraries, or eat in their dining halls. Remains to be seen what’s going to happen on the legal front. But imagine if YOUR D got assaulted at a party at UM and you discovered that the perpetrator already had a conviction on his record for the same crime (got drunk at a party, bodyslammed a girl causing injury) AND the university knew about it when they let him move onto campus and into a dorm. My guess is that YOU’D be suing the pants of the university.
Maybe so. I only have sons so I never really thought about this scenario. But I’d still like to have some of the questions CRD asked upthread answered and also hear the version of the story she gave her parents. I’m willing to bet it’s much different from what the OP is describing - not that he’s telling the whole truth either. That’s probably much different from either of their stories.
ETA: There’s always the chance that the parents will, or have already, cooled off and dropped the charges. Unless, like I said, the girl was seriously hurt or there were sexual overtones, it just sounds like more trouble than it’s worth.
