Yes agree.
Forget about will the college rescind my acceptance for a moment, as a parent if this was your DS, would you send him away to school (and pay his tuition)? College is a privilege in our house and not a right. Parents away and DS throws a drunken party resulting in an assault charge. All other consequences aside, there would be family consequences that would be pretty severe. Maybe I would consider CC until trust can be restored and/or a gap year with a job.
A lot of talking would happen before I could decide how to react to a situation like this one. I’d have to have a lot of answers first.
I’m thinking that if this party is what he describes as a typical HS party, that he must have been to them before, and it is unlikely that his parents are unaware of it.
I strongly suspect that if the girl were uninjured, the OP would have mentioned it at the outset – or at least would have come back to make that clear – given that everything he did write seemed designed to minimize the seriousness of his behavior.
If I were the parent, (re: post 61) I would want to know a lot more info about this issue than we know here, before I’d make a decision on what to do with the Op.
Sadly, this sounds like a typical HS party in my town. My kids didn’t attend them but one of my sons was with the volunteer EMS for awhile and he said it seemed like half of the Friday and Saturday calls were for drunken, underage partying. He would tell me things like “I can’t tell you whose house I went to, but a kid whose name I can’t tell you had to have their stomach pumped last night.” Many times the parents were out of town, but I remember one party involving the HS class of 2005 or 2006 where the parents had their own party in another section of the house and didn’t even notice when an angry neighbor came over and punched one of the party attendees in the face for being too loud when his children were trying to sleep. The parents finally got clued in when the police arrived. This was in a very upscale area of an upscale town.
As for the OP, if he were my son, I would be thinking hard about whether or not he needs college or rehab.
If the girl involved has documented injuries…I wouldn’t be worried at all about college this fall. You’ll likely be in jail, or at home on an ankle monitor.
In Michigan…
A person convicted of a simple assault or of assault and battery faces the following possible penalties:
up to 93 days in jail, a fine up to $500, or both
probation up to two years, and
restitution.
(Mich. Comp. Laws Ann. §§ 750.81, 771.2.)
A person convicted of aggravated assault and battery faces the following possible penalties:
up to one year in jail, a fine up to $1,000, or both
probation up to two years, and
restitution.
(Mich. Comp. Laws Ann. §§ 750.81a, 771.2.)
Given that the entire evening showed premeditated recklessness and could have ended in tragedy…I’d be willing to bet the judge doesn’t go easy on you.
And if the injured girl also files a civil suit? Kiss your college money goodbye.
Sorry dude, but you NEED this wake up call. It’s no one’s fault but yours.
I think reading through this thread will make it obvious that you made a serious mistake. Your best bet is to talk to your family about getting a lawyer and also finding ways to reflect on what happened so that two things can happen:
- You correct the situation to the best of your ability’
- You ensure that you never do anything like that again
OP peaced out several weeks ago…