I’m sorry- 14 AP’s and multiple SAT prep and all that jazz… I live in the northeast supposedly in the hub of college insanity and I can tell you that these are NOT the kids getting into the single digit admissions schools. Not by a long shot. There are most definitely kids I know who have done this… run themselves ragged during HS slogging hours in EC’s they don’t care about and staying up all night to cram for a calculus course they shouldn’t have been placed into, and taking tests 6 and 7 times to try and break 700 or 720 or whatever magical score their parents think will buy the golden ticket.
Nope. These kids end up at fine colleges, but HYP and MIT and Stanford DON’T need to admit the kids who are exhausted by senior year. The reality of thousands of applications is that they get to pick the kids the want- not the exhausted and insane competitors.
I know kids who you’d all consider absolute slackers who are at these colleges. They took AP’s in the classes they were interested in; they were the kind of students that teachers love to teach- curious and engaged and reading on the side NOT for extra credit, but because they figured “Hey, I read French- why not see what Rousseau had to say about free will instead of reading about it third hand in my history text book”.
Some of them had EC’s you’d laugh at. Passionate interests which they explored on their own, for which there are no team captains or award nights or regional honors. Many of them were self taught in the best possible way-spending their study hall taking an online class which their HS couldn’t offer- not for credit but just “because”.
And since some of them live in my neighborhood- these kids had normal summers with jobs like scooping ice cream or making change at the pizza store or getting dirty doing yard work or painting houses. Some were Eagle scouts and actually did old fashioned things like help an elderly neighbor clean out a garage.
The 14 AP kids? They end up at fine colleges. But admissions officers don’t need their high scores and their stats. They can admit the kids who have one or two passionate interests and have explored them authentically. The kid who is the amazing tennis whiz and 500 volunteer hours and NHS and struggles to keep up with all the AP’s and head of the year book committee and president of the student body…and still taking SAT’s by November of senior year desperate for a great “super score”- Princeton doesn’t need this kid.
I do feel sorry for the parents who have bought into the “more is better” ethos. But they complain that their kid gets no sleep and HS is such a slog and the kid is so burnt out from yet another summer building orphanages in Guatemala and y’know? then I stop feeling sorry for them. I feel sorry for the kids- but no 10th grader has ever said “Gee, instead of going to grandma’s 80th birthday I’d rather fit in an extra SAT study session with my tutor.” That insanity comes from the parents- and they need to own it.
There was a kid from my kids HS a few years ago who was just special on an epic scale. Kind, decent, sweet, fair- minded in addition to being brilliant and modest and exceptionally talented in his particular “thing”. He applied to one of the HYP schools early- and some of his classmates were railing that it was so unfair- this college never took more than 2 or 3 kids from the HS, and this particular year, there were several strong students, 3 of whom were legacies (and apparently, generous families), applying to this same college.
Everyone assumed he’d be shut out. Guess what- he got accepted, the legacies did not, the world kept turning on its axis. 3 kids ended up getting accepted- none of them the kids everyone thought was a lock- and at least among the seniors that year, there was joy in mudville. Exceptional is exceptional- and even a very strong legacy kid with great stats can recognize exceptional when he/she sees it.
So you’re tired of holistic admissions? Tell your kid to drop the three activities which are bringing him/her no joy and get to bed on time. Don’t want to “play the game”? Tell your kid to drop AP Chem (if your kid hates chem) and take Earth Science instead.
This endless cramming isn’t doing what you think it is. So just stop.