I know there’s studies on whether Ivies are a good return on their investment, but those studies weren’t done during times inflation-adjusted tuition room, board and fees total over $60K per year. And of course not all schools charging that today are Ivies or even schools with cross-country name brand recognition.
I’m thinking ahead here. My kid’s only going into 8th grade, but the answer to these questions is important because she needs to know whether killing herself with max APs, best possible grades and ACT Prep (in addition to everything else) is going to be a better path in terms of college placement than relaxing a little and not turning into an anxious, exhausted neurotic. If she’s going to the state university or a “lesser school” willing to give her merit aid either way for financial reasons, she can relax a little and step back from the rat race. She’s the kind of kid who will push herself to do whatever the best path is. Our job is to help guide her on what that might be.
FAFSA seems to think our family can afford these $60k+ schools, so need-based financial aid is certainly out. But even though we drive 15 yr old cars and have no student loan debt ourselves, don’t take vacations and a modest mortgage compared to income, I say they are freaking crazy! Surely we are not the only “affluent” family in this boat?
Sure, our kid (a US News high-rank aspirant like so many of her peers) could get some tuition paid for at a “lesser” ranked school. But our state university is only $20K soup-to-nuts, and though I am no expert on this, I can’t imagine a graduate or professional program would be more likely to take my kid as a strong graduate from a private school that’s willing to cut her tuition in half than one from the public university here. If financial reasons are a good reason for her to go to a “lesser” ranked school or the public university, then it’s just a function of where she likes best, and that’s a nice position to be in.
But wait! What about her dreams of a top private college or university? Her horrors imaging some arrogant jerk she knows at a higher ranked school than hers? Before I advise her to give up the “top rank” rat race altogether, let me ask some questions.
Questions: 1. Is there something about these sticker prices I should know that I’m not considering? Are top 20 ranked private schools giving loads of merit aid to upper income kids I don’t know about? Like half price or 30% off, and the kid didn’t do something like cure cancer in high school?
- Is there any reason to believe paying a quarter of a million dollars for an undergrad degree at a top private school is worth it in terms of opening doors later? How much more opportunity are people really buying their kid to be in the middle of the class at, say, Yale versus top ranked at their state flagship?
We’d like to be able to help her with grad school, so she doesn’t end up having to give up all public service and charitable concerns in her life to pay the student loans from that. We’re not concerned with money for money’s sake but for the freedom to do for others if you’re not crunched paying half a million in debt yourself.
I know two older men with degrees from Harvard and U Penn. Both have the opinion that today’s private tuition for families in our income range (affluent by comparison but not rich with $240K in extra cash per child!) is not worth it. Before I tell my kid it’s not worth it, let me know if I’m missing something please.
Thoughts? Thanks for reading.