<p>I dont know if this is a good place to ask my question, but I have a small problem. i have decided on my top choic of boarding school and have been talking about it a lot becasue i am excited. </p>
<p>Now a "friend" of mine who is applying to schools, has added MY choice to their list and is now saying that MY choice is their top choice too.</p>
<p>The problem is that this person is not at all close to me, and is not very outgoing and independent. I am worried that if they go to the same school they will just follow me around. </p>
<p>a big part of the reason I want to go away to school is to be independent and have to take the bus/train by myself and do the schoolwork on my own etc. and learn to live with a roommate. All those things. If this person goes to the same school, they will want to ride with me and be in my dorm and other things.</p>
<p>What do I do? this is a big deal to me. I do not want to go to school with someone i know from my area. I want to go to school to meet new people and become independent.</p>
<p>Do any of you have advice for me? I wish I could tell the school but that would be mean. I don't want to be mean.. I just picked this school becasue it is perfect for me. That person picked it because I picked it. </p>
<p>Ugh.</p>
<p>There is no problem here. First, neither of you has been accepted to any BS, so you don’t have any decisions to make. Second, I’m sure the school you are considering has a campus and student body large enough for each of you to have your own experiences. Last, in the very unlikely event that you end up in the situation you describe, you simply limit your contact with this girl to whatever you find appropriate. If she is, in fact, as you describe (not outgoing, independent), it is unlikely that she will be an attractive candidate to most boarding schools. I think you need to let this one go; you can’t control the actions of others, you can only control your own.</p>
<p>Ok. Thank you. I was just panicking I guess. Sorry</p>
<p>Sorry. Wrong thread. Was supposed to be in SSAT Scores thread. How do I move my comment? </p>
<p>Ps. Sorry @information I agree with ChoatieMom on this one.</p>
<p>OK. thank you. I just don’t like it when someone copies me. I will just have to wait and see what happens, I guess. :-(</p>
<p>And in the hopeful event that you are accepted and she is not, make sure to console her [although I know you’ll be dancing inside your head 
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<p>While you are putting the cart way before the horse, I can understand your concern. </p>
<p>Two years ago, we showed up at the SAS revisit and parked right behind the car of a family from the our day school (hadn’t known their daughter was applying to SAS). Girl ended up choosing another school, but I know that my daughter was worried…she wanted it to be “her” school and not carry over any baggage/preconceived notions from middle school.</p>
<p>That is what I meant. I know I am ready to go away… and I am pretty sure I found the best place for me. I don’t want to feel like I have to stay with this person all the time… we aren’t even really friends. I mean we are not enemies… just not close. Not someone I want to be with 24/7… but I will jsut have to wait and see what happens…</p>
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<p>So don’t. Unless the school you are looking at has fewer than 20 kids and you end up forced to room with this girl and sit with her at every meal, you do not have a problem. Do you see how ridiculous this “worry” is? Worry about things that count, like what to wear to to the interview. ;)</p>
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<p>As they say, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.</p>
<p>Schools are big enough even if you both get in. Unlike some public schools, there are so many classes it is doubtful you’ll even be in the same ones. Don’t sweat it. Just be the best you can be on the application.</p>
<p>Also - sometimes people get into a school and then find they can’t go because their parents can’t make the numbers work (with or w/o financial aid)</p>
<p>Time to worry is never. Whether that person gets in or not, this is about selecting the right school that fits YOU. If you get it - go and don’t look back.</p>
<p>If you don’t want to divulge the name of the “top choice” BS, can you share the admit rate of the school? Is it less than 20%? If so, you may be worrying about nothing.</p>
<p>In the event that you both do end up enrolling in the same school, it is likely that the school will put you in different dorms.</p>