<p>OUr prom is a little over 2 months away... and they started putting up posters saying "ASK NOW". So my friend got asked last friday, and she was completely off guard, and said yes, but now doesn't want to go with him. I'm super excited. It will be so awesome to just have fun the whole weekend after all the APs and get all dressed up and pretty and see everyone else looking pretty/handsome, adn dance your butt off... I can't wait. I should start a count down.</p>
<p>Our prom is April 12, in a month. I have another cotillion dance April 11, the night before. Oddly, my friend from another school is trying to set me up. No one from my school has asked anyone else, pretty much. It's going to be an interesting 3 weeks after spring break...</p>
<p>I was surprised when I heard this.</p>
<p>My friend's daughter (say X), a senior, bought a prom dress for her. She mentioned it to friends. One of her friends (say Y) said she already bought that color so how can she (X) buy this color when she (Y) has bought it. X said I never knew what color you have bought, there are 200 other girls a few of who certainly have the same color, so now what you are going to do, complain all of them?</p>
<p>Y says to X - you chose my color, now you are going to take away my date also, don't ever think of that...blah..blah...</p>
<p>when I heard this I was completely surprised? Is this some thing usual? Do girls change their dress colors if some one else has same color (bought unknowningly). X's dress color is same, but the design is completely different, and that Y knows very well. and how is this connected to "X taking away Y's date"?</p>
<p>I actually asked X to ask these questions to Y:
1. What do you expect me to do? Do you want me go back and change my dress? OK, for a moment let us say I will change it. But, the new one I buy, if that one matches with color of another girl's dress, and that girl complains, what do you expect me to do, change again?</p>
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<li><p>When you bought your dress did you find out if the color matched with any other girl's (in the friend circle) dress and if so did she go back and change her dress?</p></li>
<li><p>Say, after a few days some one else comes to know of your dress color and says "hey I bought first and I have the same color, so you ca't have that color" What will you do then, go back and change?</p></li>
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<p>Well, X is an emotional girl, she did not want to upset her friend, so she went and changed her dress. But I wanted to post this and wanted to ask if any of you went through this kind of experience, or how would you react if you were X and how would your react if you were Y?</p>
<p>tia</p>
<p>Wow, ask me, i don't really see how the whole date thing was even brought up. Y seems a little paranoid over all this.</p>
<p>I will say, freshman year I had a formal to go to, and I was explaining my dress to my friend. After ending my explanation, the girl I'm explaining to realizes her sister had just bought the exact same dress for the dance. </p>
<p>Apparently she started carrying on about how I had to change my dress. But honestly, I liked mine, and I had no previous knowledge of her having it. I couldn't really be bothered if we wore the same dress--but apparently she was. So she went out and bought another dress.</p>
<p>The irony-someone ended up wearing the same dress she had bought as her second dress! They were the only ones with the same dress, and she was upset.</p>
<p>I agree with bendandbreak, it's a little stupid to spoil a friendship over the color of a dress. If I were Y, I'd embrace it, laugh it off and say something along the lines of "you have good taste" or etc.</p>
<p>Yeah, I'm a little worried about someone having the same dress...but I figure that maybe I can just get a camera and take a picture with that person (if it does happen), because it'll be kind of cool, too. And each person wears a dress differently, after all. :)</p>
<p>I had the same dress as my cousin for my semi-formal (we're in the same grade and go to the same school), and I didn't really care. We just joked about it.</p>
<p>bendnotbreak, catsushi: Thanks so much for your responses. I wonder how you both take a total different stand unlike Y. </p>
<p>I was talking to my friend this evening and he mentioned his daughter went back and changed her dress. I believe last Friday in the school my friend's daughter mentioned to Y - "my dress is not going to be brown any more, I am going to change it". Y said " oh, you don't have to do that, and so and so; but said "thanks for changing"!</p>
<p>Net, net: there are some students matured, some are not. It is only matured ones who know what is important to fight about, and what is not. X could have simply cared less and not changed her dress. What would have happened - Y will be completely upset and her prom (and those supporting her, theirs) would be spoiled. X showed maturity, calmly changed the dress and put the issue behind. I am sure Y will understand this some day (hopefully) and will laugh on herself and I think X will be glad (and proud) she manged the situtation in an adult manner. I am sure there will be bigger issues, X will cross over with ease, Y perhaps not.</p>
<p>All the local prom dress stores where I live take down what school you go to, and make sure no one else from your school can buy the same dress. Although I guess you could always go shopping out of town if you really wanted to mess with somebody...</p>
<p>But getting upset about the same color??? Not even matching style? That's a little overboard. Life's gonna be rough for that kid. lol</p>
<p>Prom is one of those moments where all guys my age can agree that it is infinitely less trouble to be male. </p>
<p>However, I now have a date to prom, and she's the type of girl who hates the hen-picking that goes on about dates and dresses, so I think I sorta won the lottery there. I'm really excited about prom now.</p>
<p>i love prom. but there are so much hassle.
all the drama about who's going with who and who's rejecting who.
and of course all my guy friends and other guys are competing on who has the most creative way to ask a girl.</p>
<p>but our boat dance was pretty cool though.</p>
<p>For the record, I Facebook'd my date to ask her after waiting almost a week, trying to find her without her mob of friends surrounding her. Creative ways of asking are overrated.</p>
<p>wow... I'm glad I'm a male, because prom seems to be a serious cash drainer for the ladies...</p>
<p>if a girl asks a guy to prom, does she need to pay for his ticket??</p>
<p>^^^ def happened last year to one of my friends.. i think he and his date just paid for themselves?? it was def awk.. </p>
<p>i think the asker should pay i mean what if the askee never wanted to go and you just put them in a weird spot? but then again, i am a traditionalist who thinks males should pay.. but i don't know.. def hard question.. split it? one pays for dinner and the other tickets?</p>
<p>kowloon i disagree.. i think its a cash drainer for the guys.. </p>
<p>the dress thing.. my friend refused to buy a yellow dress even though she wanted a yellow one becuase i already had a yellow dress... although the one she did buy is SOOO cute.. it's blue</p>
<p>our prom : april 26</p>
<p>already starting to make plans.. call in reservations etc!!</p>
<p>Lori, then the askee should pay the (literal) price of their poor decision. I had two girls ask me before I had had a chance to ask the person who I actually want to go with, and I simply said "I'd really like to, but I've had someone else in mind for a while, but we'll probably still go as a group," etc. You are not obligated to go with the first person who asks.</p>
<p>People at my school pay for themselves (the bus and the limo), though the guys usually pick up the smaller things like flowers and such.</p>