<p>So, I haven't had the greatest experience in making friends in my high school, and I hope it changes for the better in college. How hard is it to make friends for the awkward, shy guy in college? (and how do you make friends @ colleg)</p>
<p>stop watching lord of the rings for one thing.</p>
<p>and get a fake i.d.</p>
<p>people in college tend to be more mature than those in HS so they will be easier to talk to. Just talk to people and take it from there...</p>
<p>Being shy will make it hard to make friends in any situation. Simply asking someone how their day is going is a good way to start a conversation.</p>
<p>I'm pretty shy too. You just have to step out of your comfort zone and try to talk to people.</p>
<p>It also kinda depends on the "shy, awkward" you are talking about. If you just aren't very outgoing, but you are normal acting, then you should be fine. If you are the "zomg i'm going to pwn you when we play war of the worlds and then we can watch a star trek marathon after we finish next week's calc homework" type then it might be more difficult for you.</p>
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College will weed out all those bullies who pick on you just because of the way you look, what you wear, and how you talk.
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Unfortunately it wont. There are tons of cruel, superficial people in both the worst high school and in the Ivy League. It never changes because that's how life is. It will just become more subtle.</p>
<p>You have to be self-confident before you can expect to make friends with the people whom you want. Things don't automatically change once you step on campus. College is a more accepting environment (barely), but that alone won't make you friends. Being shy is always a disadvantage. Always. You have to put in some hard work to transcend your comfort zone and talk to people. </p>
<p>Once the orientation week friendliness evaporates, you will be back at square one. You really have to put in serious effort. You should not be afraid of rejection or looking stupid by simply talking. You only live once. Take risks, talk to people whom you normally wouldn't.</p>
<p>You can run into a diverse group at college, no matter what you are into. You meet lots of people at parties, activities you are involved in, sports, whatever. Oh, don't wear an Affliction shirt :D</p>
<p>umm. . . don't get a fake id, its illegal, and i think you'll get a misedemeanor if caught.</p>
<p>Ditch Lotr, and get a job, it forces you to be social.</p>
<p>trolling. . . trolling. . . trolling. . .</p>
<p>Obtaining alcohol is about the easiest thing you can do in college. There's no reason to buy a fake, and I'm pretty sure having one is a felony here.</p>
<p>IDs are state issued, and its <em>not</em> a felony. its a misdemeanor, forget which class.</p>
<p>I'm 94% sure that using a fake driver's license in NY state is a felony. I could be wrong though.</p>
<p>Either way, its best just to not mess around with fake ids in these times (think terrorism). It is basically just a form of contraband.</p>
<p>This thread appears to have been officially hijacked.</p>
<p>For most people,it's more difficult than highschool.</p>
<p>^I don't know if I would say that. If anything, nerds are excluded in HS but when they go to college, they find themselves surrounded by like minded individuals.</p>
<p>I am about 95.5% sure its not. What federal code are you breaking? Licenses are <em>state</em> issued. In general, if you can say yes to the question 'will you go to federal pen. for a year', that is a felony. i.e. - unlicensed handgun in NY, etc...</p>
<p>I am a senior in college now and still have not made a friend or acquaintance. Whether you have the same experience, however, is highly dependent on the reason for your current unpopularity. If it is because you are simply naturally shy, but are otherwise normal, then you have little to worry about. I have seen countless kids I knew from high school who were relatively unpopular wind up with hundreds of facebook friends and presumably real friends. If, however, your shyness is not interally based, but is simply a reaction to the constant rejection society has thrust upon you, then I cannot offer you much promise of a brighter future in college. I was a an ugly loser in high school, and when I got to college I found out that people treated ugly losers in pretty much the same manner. Initially, it was rather difficult to reconcile myself with the fact that I will forever spend my days in loneliness and isolation, but eventually a certain numbness sets in and you move on. Either that or you go crazy.</p>
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I was a an ugly loser in high school, and when I got to college I found out that people treated ugly losers in pretty much the same manner.
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Yes,I feel the same. Anyway,in high school,you will be known as an ugly loser. But in college,people simply don't know there's a person there.</p>
<p>That's strange, I'd expect it to work the opposite way. I mean, if you're naturally shy, there's no reason that would suddenly go away in college. If, on the other hand, you're introverted because of "constant rejection" it's possible you'd be more accepted in a different environment. I know I can seem introverted and reserved to my classmates, but I'm more outgoing with my friends who are as nerdy as I am.</p>
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I was a an ugly loser in high school, and when I got to college I found out that people treated ugly losers in pretty much the same manner.
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There's always plastic surgery.</p>
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I was a an ugly loser in high school, and when I got to college I found out that people treated ugly losers in pretty much the same manner.
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<p>I got a much better response from people when I stuck a broad smile on my face.
Still, I remained ugly until I started combing my hair, keeping myself neat and using perfume.</p>
<p>Does this help? Hardcore math nerd here, with an early history of ostracision and a subsequent bloom in popularity (dunno if this is possible in * your * schools) so PM me if you want to discuss this in detail. I don't have any catch-all advice.</p>