One of the deals that we made before the whole process began was that we would make the most of our time together when we saw each other. Long weekends, holidays, breaks, and, of course, summers. Summers would be a big deal for us - except for the planned 2 week vacation, we would insist on having him stay home to make up for the rest of the year that he was away.
I figured that father-son/family time would be a little more meaningful during these times.
Specifically:
Parents/Family Weekend (4 days)
another Long Weekend in fall (3 days)
Thanksgiving (4 days), Fall Break (2 weeks)
Long weekend in Winter (3 days)
Winter break (2 weeks)
Random Ski Weekend (3 days)
Spring Break (2 weeks)
Random Spring Weekend (3 days)
Summer (12 weeks)
Roughly 20 weeks dispersed throughout the year of planned “quality time.”
Thus, I was upset to see the Op-Ed piece this morning in the NYT describing the “Myth of Quality Time” - It throws a wrench in my plans.
http://www.nytimes.com/2015/09/06/opinion/sunday/frank-bruni-the-myth-of-quality-time.html
But, after having probably the best summer we have ever had together these past 12 weeks (knowing that he would be going off to school), I contend that planned time with some structured activity has a place for continued family bonding.
Are there other parents who have had success with planned “quality time” with BS Kids? Or is the best approach simply time together?
Parents - What is the effect of planning an “unplugged” weekend without TV, computers, phones, etc? - I was thinking about doing this for a long weekend in a rented house on the Maine Coast. Please share best experiences about successful set up for quality time, but not camping. Wife and Kids won’t go for it.
Kids - What has worked best for connecting with parents in your experience? Just being back home in a normal routine, or planned outing?