<p>Blah I can't believe it's still summer and I'm already stressing about my roomate situation...</p>
<p>I found out I was in a triple with two people who signed up to room together...I was a little anxious about the situation but I wanted to go in with an open mind (even though most of the people in my life were telling me to try to switch out asap....unlikely I'd be allowed to anyways) but it seems like I'm being ignored :/
I friended them both on facebook and I figured they would introduce themselves after they accepted the request....they added me as a friend but then nothing.
So I sent them the typical hi/so excited for this fall/can't wait to meet you message, hoping it would prompt them to be communicative. Still nothing. </p>
<p>I checked their wall to see if maybe the message got erased or something, but it was still there, and they've been talking with each other and other people from our floor but my message isn't being acknowledged. It's been over two weeks</p>
<p>can I feel dissed yet? or am I being oversensitive (I am nervous...) I mean, maybe they both happened to miss the message, lol...I want to give them the benefit of the doubt, but I'm kinda offended
It's not like my facebook profile is would scare them away or anything anything - I'm not creepy or weird looking or a fan of any strange pages. So I don't know why they would intentionally shut me out...Unless they're just annoyed that someone else got put in their room. </p>
<p>So I guess I'm wondering what I should do now. Should I try calling them to their home phone # i got from housing? I feel like that would be an awkward introduction. I feel a little annoyed that I'm the only one making an effort here...</p>
<p>I should I just wait to meet them until I get to school?</p>
<p>sometimes people don’t check their fb messages? Don’t think too much of it. I’d definitely try to email them instead of fb, if that doesn’t work then I’d just refrain from contacting them until right before you leave for school and then maybe give them a call (be like, hey, I tried to contact you via email/fb but I’m not sure if you got my messagesd, I was just wondering what you were planning on bringing to school…I’m super excited to meet you! etc. Good luck!</p>
<p>I can understand why you’re feeling a bit left out. I would try the email approach as mentioned and see how that goes. If you are still being ignored or getting the cold shoulder you might want to see if you can switch out. Are there people on your schools facebook page looking for a roommate? Maybe you could work it out with another group who would be happy to have you join them.</p>
<p>You’ll be living with them for 8 months. You’ll have plenty of time to talk. Don’t worry about anything on fb. And you don’t have to be close with your roommates, either. It’s not worth worrying about. My roommate wouldn’t stop contacting me before school and it was really annoying so just don’t come on too strong</p>
<p>Forget about 'em. Maybe once you’re all physically together, they will pay more attention to you. Meanwhile, are there other interests you plan to pursue at college around which you can look for fb acquaintances - like maybe political, literary, musical, athletic interests? Or religious/ethnic stuff? </p>
<p>All of this is merely to pass the time anyways - once you all arrive on campus, you will have lots of options for social life apart from fb and roommates.</p>
<p>Also, yes they are being slightly rude. Try not to hold it against them - just do what’s best for you, which is to reach out to lots of potential interests right now, and also when you arrive on campus.</p>
<p>Wait, so did you send them a Facebook message or leave a message on the wall? If the former, then I can see some people not checking their messages. Maybe they received your message and meant to reply but forgot about it. I know that happens to me a lot, especially when I read the Facebook message in the email notification but forget to reply to the actual message. </p>
<p>However, if someone leaves a message on my wall, then I rarely overlook it. And if that’s what you did, and you can see that they have been actively writing on their own and other people’s walls, then I think you’re justified in feeling a bit miffed. (It could just be that they’re consulting each other and trying to figure out what they want to bring, and then they will reply to you. But that seems a stretch.)</p>
<p>I mean, I don’t want to press the issue - if they’re intentionally ignoring me I don’t want to irritate them further -_- I guess maybe a few weeks before school starts I’ll send an email checking in/asking what they’re bringing or something.</p>
<p>I just don’t get why anyone would ever do this. Aren’t they just causing problems for themselves? Maybe some people really do thrive on the drama…</p>
<p>But yeah, I’m miffed, but I’m still keeping an open mind to them…I guess I’m also just kind of jealous of all my friends who are already talking/forming friendships with their roomies. oh well
I’m also a pretty shy, laid back person and I know that if I’m not assertive I can get stomped over, I need to stand up for myself at some point</p>
<p>I’d just wait until you get to school to “meet” them, because if they don’t respond to the 2nd message you’re SOL, where if you just let it be it’s much easier to play off as no big deal.</p>
<p>My roommate (I’m a guy) keeps using smiley faces in conversations with me…I have a problem with one man using emoticons in a conversation with another man…it’s just not right.</p>
<p>Facebook is a very indirect way of contacting them. It would be better to contact them e-mail or phone. Maybe they overlook facebook messages. I have plenty of friends who overlook their wall messages. Be more direct if you want contact.</p>
<p>I have to say I disagree with some of the other posters. The transition to college is hard enough without having to worry about roommates who are being less-than-kind to you for no apparent reason. Why add stress to your life if it’s possible you can put yourself in a better situation? I would suggest talking to the office of residential life and just seeing what the procedure is for switching roommates. You don’t have to do anything yet, just learn what the process would be like and what the likelihood is of you actually being able to switch.</p>
<p>I had a less than stellar roommate experience this past year (my freshman year) and thank goodness, I was able to make friends outside of my roommate. However, it did add a lot of stress at already stressful points of the year (exams, etc.) It was a learning experience for sure but if I’d known in advance that it would’ve been like that, I might have done things differently.</p>
<p>Thats true…well, I don’t need to coordinate anything like fridges or whatever so I dont necessarily need to talk to them. Maybe we’ll meet in person and theyll be friendly or something…yay optimism</p>
<p>I haven’t really talked to my future roommates either, but I only have their e-mails. But I know their names and didn’t see them on the house facebook page and I don’t really care to be searching for people or any of that so I don’t know. I also kinda let off messaging people from the school over fb because, I don’t know, I feel odd talking to people like that when I haven’t met them yet. Maybe those two girls are like that and already know each other in life, maybe talking to someone they don’t know yet over fb kinda weirds them out.</p>
<p>I kind of got the wrong impression about 1 of my roommates at first because I had tried to talk to her on fb on our university’s page and kept getting one word responses. Then saw she wrote on someone’s wall that all of her roommates weren’t trying to get to know her at all, etc. That made me a little mad, she was the one not making an effort. So what did I do? Wrote on her wall gushing with excitement/kill her with kindness routine. We definitely got to know each other after that and while I don’t think we’ll be <em>BFFs4EVER</em> I think we’ll get along just fine. Keep an open mind, don’t expect too much, and try again every couple days. Good luck!</p>
<p>Also, I am a guy. I SHOWED YOU. I used emoticons all the time. Guess thats not very manly is it… Kinda hard to switch off since no one knows what to think when talking to me.</p>