Question: How should I go about finding a woman for a serious long-term relationship?

College Life
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I am looking for a young lady that is ambitious and motivated to make a good salary just as I am. I am not looking to date a liberal arts major who is going nowhere in life, and I’m beyond the age of hookups and such.

Here’s my situation: I turned 21 this past spring and I just finished my junior year (4.0/4.0 GPA). When I go back up in the late summer I’ll be a senior and I graduate next spring. I am majoring in information technology/quantitative analytics (BBA) at the University of North Texas (Denton, TX). I chose UNT in 2013 due to the relatively low cost of attendance and high grant/scholarship availability (I have more than a full ride; actually running a low five-digit profit) compared to the overall good reputation, plus the fact that I wanted to get as far away from my high school as possible (west San Antonio). I am white, and the race demographics are roughly 30/30/30 % plus 10% “other/foreign”.

UNT unfortunately has a puny Greek life (3% of the 39,000 undergraduate student body) and notoriously terrible pool of females outside of the business college. However, I am in the business college and usually hang around the business building, which is the newest and best building on campus. The business college easily has the lowest population of those awful bleeding-heart hipsters and other phonies and freaks that have those disgusting butch and otherwise weird hairstyles and unnatural colors and tattoos and piercings, which are rampant across UNT (as with most other colleges these days). The business building DOES have by far the highest Greek proportion (though still not dominated by greeks, but the ones that are Greek are almost all business majors; more frat guys than sorority girls though, since more of the sorority girls are likely to major in education and other such traditionally “effeminate” majors). However, I do not care whether or not I’m dating a sorority girl, but they compose about half of the attractive white girl population, and I’m a GDI so sorority girls are hard for me to pick up due to snobbery. (I am open to dating other races too, with the possible exception of East Asians which really turn me off.) I got booted from pledge at a top 4 house on campus freshman year 2-3 weeks in (even though I was a legacy) due to some of the senior actives not liking me for being an “arrogant p**ck pledge”. I tried rushing the other 3 top houses and didn’t get in. Phonies. Blackballed, straight up. Nonetheless, that takes care of that.

I have a few good guy friends on campus (business majors, of course). My best friend is an ex frat guy who got booted just prior to initiation; he and his good friend, another apostate from the same frat, took me bar crawling on my 21st birthday. As for the bars around campus, I don’t like them; they’re crumby. There are like 10 of them all on the same block and everyone goes there with a group or with their boyfriend; there are never any cute single damsels in distress. Trying to join in such conversations would get me awkward looks and laughed at. The only point of going to the bars is to watch a sports game I’m interested in, since I don’t have internet or cable at my apartment. I chose to live in a cheap single 1 bedroom studio apartment close to campus (2 blocks, also very much near the bars) so I could walk to school; I don’t have a car.

As far as women on campus go, it’s really hard because even in the business building in the computer lab or study areas the attractive girls that do exist are always busy at work, with friends or with their boyfriends. It seems like at least half of them are marketing or management majors that don’t really know what the heck to do with their life except for find a man to take care for them. No, that’s not what I want. I want an ambitious girlfriend that is also old-fashioned in the sense that she still wants a man to be there and be the man of the relationship (and ONLY wants a MAN, for the record – that college bi-curious millennial trend needs to die). My major, unfortunately, is dominated by males since it’s mathy and computer-heavy. There are a good amount of young lady accounting majors; I like them a lot, but most of the pretty ones are unfortunately taken or hard to talk to.

As far as my own status goes; I have a job as a tutor and T.A., have my own money, live independently, am pretty good looking, medium brown/dark blond hair, slightly below average height (but certainly not a midget) and don’t smoke or do drugs. I don’t like girls that smoke or do drugs. I don’t wear glasses and certainly don’t have a nerdy personality despite my perfect GPA. I am very proud of my self, and am also very extroverted when I get the chance. My personality type is “ENTJ”. My StrengthsQuest top 5 traits are “achiever, strategic, significance, deliberative and responsibility”. I’ve been through a lot of **** at UNT (particularly the first semester; more than half of it wasn’t even my fault), and the **** has toughened me up a lot. By the way, the girl doesn’t need to be a 10 looks wise; a 7 will do, as long as there aren’t any major deal breakers, and is the right fit to me.

Please help me! = (

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Sounds like you need someone with a short skirt and a long jacket.

Someone who is changing her name from Kitty to Karen?

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@JustOneDad seriously man, what are you implying with that?

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I don’t know where you get that. Kitty and Karen are both girls names. Just trying to get an idea of what you want.

Are you an accounting major?
Are you looking for someone with all the right allocations and essentially uninterrupted prosperity?

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JustOneDad, I’m dying. Bravo lol.

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@JustOneDad I guess so… there was this guy from my old frat I used to know who was known as “The Cat” or occasionally “Kitty” as a joke, but I guess Kitty could also be short for Katherine. Anyways,

No, I am a decision analytics major, with a concentration in information technology (lots of programming and modeling courses). I’m just saying that within the college of business (and probably the whole university), the accounting department probably has the most desirable overall pool of women, based on the combination of functionality + old-school personality + beauty. Not to say there’s NO other desirable women in other business majors, because that’s not true; certain cases definitely apply. My major is like 80+% male, however.

As for your last comment… I am looking for someone who is an asset to me, not a liability. I sucked at managerial accounting (still made an A, but whatever). Financial accounting was awesome, however.

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I find it funny that you in paragraph 3, you bemoan that the girls are “hard to pick up due to snobbery.”

It sounds to me like good sense, not snobbery.

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@bjkmom What do you mean? I’m one of the most amazing guys at UNT… great career prospects, friendly, loving, caring, funny, responsible, independent… monogamous… what more could a young lady want? I only mentioned the snobbery because most sorority girls won’t date GDI’s (non frat guys).

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From what you’ve written, I don’t have a slightest clue as to why you’re having difficulties. I would sign some of my friends up for you, but they’re engineering majors, so I think you’d find them too ugly.

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OP, your post makes me laugh. Chill dude chill. If I were a young single girl with your desired description, I would NOT want to be anywhere close to you. I suggest to look into arranged marriage, where somebody could fit that description to a T. and seriously, nobody on the internet can help you.

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@Niquii77 Absolutely not, what makes you think that? I take everyone on a case by case basis; in general, however, roughly 85% of the engineering majors at my school are males. In addition, the engineering school for my university is NOT on campus, but at a separate campus affiliated with the university (Discovery Park) about 5-6 miles to the north. That’s a heck of a bus ride.

Sure, I’d take an engineering major if they’re beautiful, since engineering is a functional and well paid field, I just didn’t know any engineering women existed. For instance, the woman in your avatar has a very pretty face, whoever that is. Who exactly are these friends again?

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Well, good sense eliminates the idea of being "picked up… for starters.

As far as snobbery, let’s take a walk down memory lane…
" a liberal arts major who is going nowhere in life…notoriously terrible pool of females outside of the business college. …those awful bleeding-heart hipsters and other phonies and freaks that have those disgusting butch and otherwise weird hairstyles and unnatural colors and tattoos and piercings…likely to major in education and other such traditionally “effeminate” majors… sorority girls are hard for me to pick up due to snobbery…possible exception of East Asians which really turn me off…(business majors, of course)… there are never any cute single damsels in distress. …even in the business building in the computer lab or study areas the attractive girls that do exist are always busy at work, with friends or with their boyfriends. … that she still wants a man to be there and be the man of the relationship…I like them a lot, but most of the pretty ones are unfortunately taken or hard to talk to.
… I don’t wear glasses and certainly don’t have a nerdy personality despite my perfect GPA. …; a 7 will do"

There’s an awful lot in your post about looks. Some might call that “snobbery.” You sound like a smart guy, but have no idea how fleeting all that nonsense is.

Then again, what do I know? I was an education major who probably was never a 10 and was never “in distress”, who eventually adopted an Asian child. But I was lucky enough to find a wonderful man (not a “guy” but a MAN) who loves me for what and who I am. And when I lost a breast to cancer, and my looks changed, he continued to love me.

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@DrGoogle Unfortunately, that practice does not exist in the United States and since I have a very small Caucasian family, I’m pretty much on my own in terms of not having family connections.

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You don’t sound like a prize to me. Are you involved with the MRA movement per chance? The kind who thinks they are “owed” a hot girl?

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Unt - are you on the spectrum?

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Wait, you “would take an engineering major if she was beautiful”???

What on earth makes you think a beautiful engineering major would “take” you???

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@bjkmom Any man would would love his wife any less after getting a required mastectomy is a scumbag. Adopting was your decision, but I want my own children, at least 5+. And when I mean “picked up”, I mean for a date, a hangout that leads to a date, or a relationship, not for an “encounter”.

As for the snobbery, I was simply talking about being Greek vs. not being Greek… of course I am going to have my standards in terms of what kind of woman I am looking for… I’m not some brainless dog, for the record… any man can be expected to have reasonable standards, and I’m looking for a traditional, old-fashioned type of girl who is loyal, monogamous, heterosexual, womanly, and seeking a prosperous career who is at least a 7/10 with regards to looks… that shouldn’t be too much to ask for…

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Getting some serious Holden Caulfield flashbacks over here. Those dang phonies.

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You want her to have a career and 5+ kids ??

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Post #12, of course it doesn’t exist here in USA but that’s what your post sounds like. You want a made to order girl friend. And the minute you mention you are looking for a serious long term relationship, you will turn off everybody, even non-beautiful engineering major, let alone beautiful engineering major.
Btw, the beautiful engineering major has their picks of men. Think of it, they are surround by 85% men, what chance do you have? Probability is close to none. Even for the ones without boy friend.