<p>Aries, you are awesome, as usual. Thanks for the funny, honest, and forthright answer. :)</p>
<p>(Btw, if you're ever in the Stanford area, I'd love to meet you. It would be nice to meet a fellow geeky gal, and one in law school at that.)</p>
<p>As for your comments:</p>
<p><em>Online dating can actually work. I have a friend (about your age) who is going out with someone she met online.</em></p>
<p>I've tried it, had some success, met some guys who are now good friends, but as yet, nothing permanent. <--knows how to put way too many clauses in a sentence.</p>
<p><em>Don"t say that you"re in undergrad - try "finishing my degree" or "going back for my bachelor's."</em></p>
<p>That's an excellent idea. I'll start practicing that right away. Thanks.</p>
<p><em>Whatever you do, don't move to a small area.</em></p>
<p>Yeah, I intend to stay in the SF Bay Area for at least the next three years. Check.</p>
<p><em>Don't sacrifice your professional goals - this is just me, the self-reliant feminist type coming through. You'll meet men with similar goals if you are doing the same activities they are.</em></p>
<p>Yeah, I think this way too, but I also don't want to miss an opportunity to date someone amazing. My current philosophy is that I won't miss a professional/academic opportunity for the <em>possibility</em> of a stable relationship, only for the reality of one. But, we'll see.</p>
<p><em>(This is my problem, so I'll throw it out there): don't be too forgiving. I'm very, very slow to judge, and have spent a lot of time in bad relationships because of that. It certainly has caused me a lot of grief and let me be less open to romance (okay, how about totally anti-romance, tired of getting kicked around?) - so trust your intuition.</em></p>
<p>Yeah, I've made that mistake too, but no longer. Now, I screen carefully. Perhaps too carefully. ;)</p>
<p>*Figure out what you want in a man and in a relationship... <--- (coming from the woman who can't answer that question herself) *</p>
<p>This one, I've got. I followed the advice of friends and made a list of qualities I'm looking for and relationship goals. Also, a list of ways to improve myself so I can be a better partner. <--not <em>entirely</em> egotistical </p>
<p>*Finally, the AriesAthena method of getting a date: swear off men and want nothing but time for yourself - time to grow as an individual. I swear, every time I think that I just want nothing but a few months to hang out with my friends, do my school work or the career thing, I get a boyfriend. *</p>
<p>You know, I haven't tried this one yet. I'm always, in one form or another, looking. (Because I really am interested in finding someone I think is amazing.) But maybe letting go of this would help. I guess it couldn't hurt to try.</p>
<p>Thanks again. And if you want to make a list of don'ts, don't restrain yourself. :)</p>