<p>sapphire and SBmom- both of you are CORRECT. </p>
<p>Ever since I was six years old, I've been riding horses. I loved, loved everything related to horses and dreamed about my own, just like any horse-crazy kid. But after two or three years, I began lying to my mom that I was getting headaches and didn't want to ride anymore. I realized that I wasn't having much fun in my lessons because I kept getting pushed and pushed by my instructor. I had another instructor that I rode with on another day but he had left (missed him a lot). It was just too much for a nine year old to deal with a tough instructor. So I took off two years, thinking that my love for horses would go away. I even quitted drawing horses for a year.</p>
<p>Then a neighbor moved across from my house and built her own stable on her property. Before i knew it, I would sit on the fence everyday, just to watch the horses graze and play. I decided that I just HAD to ride again. So I did and had a great time with my neighbor. Since we also moved soon after, I went to a summer horse camp and joined a new barn in the fall. Had a wonderful instructor with challenging horses for two years. Then she retired and I got two new ones for the next three years until I graduated high school. </p>
<p>I have to admit, I did consider quitting riding AGAIN in my senior year of high school just because it was so routine and I just didn't really care about my lessons anymore (though I cared a lot for the horses). I decided to try riding again in college since I wanted to join the equestrian team eventually.</p>
<p>By November, I couldn't STOP talking about my lessons to my parents because I loved the instructor and the horses. So I've been riding since, and even joined the equestrian team at my new school in the fall.</p>
<p>Now I am back to where I was- thinking about how to make my riding experience so much better because riding is so much part of my identity. Life doesn't seem right without horses for me.</p>
<p>What I've learned is that sometimes who's "above" you can make or ruin your experience and reason for even starting up the activity. I found that if I felt that my instructors were too pushy/competitive, then I didn't enjoy coming to the lessons. If I had an instructor who simply taught for the love of horses and really show it in her methods, then I felt that I got something out of it. Also with the equestrian team and meeting girls at my age over the years, I also realized that I didn't ride to compete and didn't see my horses as vehicles whereas these girls did. I rode for the love of horses and saw them as my partners.</p>
<p>Fortunately for you, you have the pool. You can jump in anytime you want and be all by yourself with the water. You're still a swimmer. For me, I can (at least try) go to the barn and sit by a horse all day along and still consider myself a horse-nut.</p>
<p>By taking time off or retiring from competition, people are able to prolong their life with their sports. You just need to be creative on HOW to do that. Of course, first is to dump a competitive, aggressive coach :)</p>
<p>14 years of riding and still going strong :)</p>