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<p>I’m in a triple and one of my roommates is amazing (I couldn’t have asked for anyone better. We’re living together next year), but the other one is awful to say the least.</p>

<p>He stays up until 4 or 5 in the morning with his bright lamp on, making seemingly no attempt to be quiet. It’s not like he even needs the lamp on; he’s on facebook the entire time. He plays video games and clicks up a storm, slams drawers, laughs, even answers phone calls!! One time while I was trying to sleep at 2 AM, his friend came in and said “Oh, he’s trying to sleep, I should go” and my roommate replied “No, it’s totally fine!” He clips his toenails literally every night. He has toe fungus, so I guess he has to, but is 4 AM really the best time for that? (also, EW!) He also randomly slaps his mouse against the desk while on his computer. He even whistles while we’re sleeping. I asked him to stop once, and he got slightly quieter…</p>

<p>He sets his extremely loud alarm for 7:30 every morning and sleeps through it for at least an hour with the alarm going off every 10 minutes. He sometimes even wakes up, looks at his alarm, and falls back asleep without turning it off. Last quarter, he would without fail snooze through his alarm for at least an hour, finally turn it off, and then sleep through class!</p>

<p>He’s extremely rude and conceited. He makes fun of peoples’ opinions and preferences but gets defensive when people counter him. He makes outlandish claims and then gets ****ed off or defensive when you prove him wrong (ie. pretending I misunderstood his argument.) He takes our things without asking (food, tissues, etc.)</p>

<p>He brought his broken bike into our already cramped room and blocked our wardrobes. We asked him to move it multiple times and he never did. We finally moved it to our storage closet and then he got ****ed off at us and said “Next time, let me move it myself.” Because we didn’t ask you to 20 times…</p>

<p>He was the last one in our dorm when we left for winter break. We asked him to clean the fridge out before he left. Good news: he remembers to unplug it. Bad news: he forgot to empty it. He also had put a cookie in there in a napkin, which became green and disgusting. The fridge smelled so bad that we couldn’t use it. We asked him to clean it out, and he put it off for over a week, so we finally said “you need to do it today” and he got ****ed off at us. He did do it that day, but not without snapping at us.</p>

<p>He left a dirty bowl on his desk for 8 weeks, and he didn’t finally clean it until someone told him to (it wasn’t even his bowl!) He also leaves dirty napkins and tissues on his desk. He fills his trashcan to the brim and then leaves trash on his desk for weeks.</p>

<p>“I haven’t washed these socks in three weeks!” Oh, so that’s why it constantly smells like diarrhea in here (direct quote, by the way.) Other people notice it too, and it’s the worst when he’s in here.</p>

<p>When he had the top bunk, he would step on my good roommate’s bed to get down, which woke him up every time. He even stepped on my roommate one time and didn’t even apologize!</p>

<p>He takes peoples’ seat at dinner. He’ll push peoples’ food out of the way to make room for himself while they’re away. True dialogue below:
Roommate: Oh, did I take your seat?
Girl: Oh, yeah, but don’t worry about it.
Roommate: Oh, I wasn’t worried about it.</p>

<p>I could go on, but I’ll stop there.</p>

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<p>I don’t care anymore…i need a single.I’m tired of coming home after a long day and you’re listening to your horrid music(actually not bad, but she listens to the same crap every damn day!!), and your friends giggling over some youtube video. I know that’s what people with friends do, but i need my own space because i just don’t care for seeing your damn friends EVERYDAY!You may be nice or whatever, but im over you and can’t wait for the next five weeks to go by quickly so i can move the hell out of here. And for that person who said all you need to do is find a compatible roommate, i don’t agree.Not everyone likes living with someone else, I’m more of a reserved person and my roommate is reserved at times and I still don’t care for having her as a roommate. My last roommate was extroverted and she annoyed the hell out of me. I have people i consider friends or compatible but i would not want to live with them…I signed up for a single in another dorm and i hope i get it because i am tired of living with someone else.</p>

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<p>I got along well with my roommate for most of the year, thought I might room with her again next year (and she completely assumed that we would), but then I decided that I want to live in my greek house and so now she like ignores me and pretends I don’t exist when I’m in here. She said she wasn’t mad at me for deciding to live there, but I know she is because I’ve heard her talking about it when I’ve walked through the hallway to our room before. And I have the right to live in my greek house if I want to! Not my fault she doesn’t have other friends to room with! Maybe she should have taken my advice multiple times to go do things, join clubs, talk to people other than her mommy (she’s like a little baby who still needs mommy constantly) and make some friends!!! And her constantly phone calls to mommy and daddy are getting on my nerves! She is literally on the phone 2-4 hours a day talking about nothing, just stupid stuff, with her mom. She really doesn’t have any friends on campus here, I’ve tried to include her in things but it doesn’t help. It’s annoying to me when she’s on the phone all the time for the little time that I am in this room (instead of ‘living’ at the music building) when I’m trying to study!!! She’s always here if she’s not in class, she doesn’t do anything else. I’m excited for her to be gone home this weekend…my own room starting at 2 pm tomorrow (even though I won’t even get back here til 10 from classes and a band concert).</p>

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<p>basically, my roommate and i are polar opposites. i’m super positive and chill and she’s super negative and reaaally pessimistic. even the smallest things set her off into an hour-long sulk. i know how easily she gets annoyed/angry so i spend as little time in my room as i can and try really hard to be nice to her, but inevitably something will upset her. the problem is, she won’t communicate with me and tell me what she has a problem with so i can fix it. instead, she’ll go to the girls who live in the room next to us and complain about me - and it’s not honest, constructive complaining either (like “bunnywins never does _____ when she’s supposed to” or “bunnywins always does _____ and it’s really annoying”). she’ll say things such as wanting me to be deported out of the country, or how she wants to stab me (did i mention she’s very violent?). it’s really upsetting to hear these things - i wish she’d tell ME what her issues with me are so i can fix them, because i honestly want to get along with her. she’s never once told me she had an issue with me and we’ve never argued or anything, so it was a huge shock to hear her say such things. </p>

<p>i try to be open with her when i have problems with her. sometimes even that doesn’t work, but i still try because it’s better than not saying anything. when she kept using all my soap and shampoo, i nicely asked her to stop. after she still kept doing it, i asked her again to stop but she didn’t, so i just took my soaps and everything out of our bathroom. </p>

<p>this situation sucks even more since this girl wasn’t even my original roommate. my first roommate and i got along super well, but i had to switch roommates because the girl who i’m living with now didn’t get along with HER roommate so she had to switch rooms. they put her with me since i get along with everyone so they thought i could deal with her. now it’s becoming apparent that even that’s not true.</p>

<p>it’s getting really hard to deal with her now and i wish i could just switch rooms. ):</p>

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<p>SMH!!! Update on my situation. So housing for the next semester finally came out and guess what? I got a single!!Yay!! Unfortunately it is in the honors dorm, honors as in the program I am no longer in because my gpa id .2 below the required needed to stay in honors, and if you’re not in the program then you can’t stay in the dorms…:frowning: The gods have spited me, i know it. Idk what happens now, but i’m pretty sure another roommate is around the damn corner:( My fault:partially. But I KNOW if i had my own room I would learn so much better(I’m one of those"high maintenance" people that needs their own space to learn) and i feel i would would be more social as well. Without a roommate around I know i would interact with more people outside of my dorm and make more friends in the long run:( Hope I get a second chance…</p>

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<p>Well, I’ve been able to co-exist with my roommates, but they are starting to get annoying. I have my own single room in a suite style room with 4 other ppl. One of my roommates who I tried to switch out of during winter break got his two friends in the same room, and it’s been getting annoying. They are obnoxious, early morning people having 8 am classes(while my earliest is 9:30 am). They don’t seem to have consideration for other ppl who still might be sleeping and I have brought it up many times that they need to keep it down and I have been nice about it rather than forceful, but I think I may need to take it up a notch since that’s not working. </p>

<p>They are up at as early as 9 am on weekends when I prefer to sleep in blaring loud music(and the same hipster music which gets really annoying after a while) with the TV loud and talking loudly and obnoxiously. I don’t mind if they want to hang out early in the morning watch TV, make breakfast, or listen to music, but keep it down for others who might be sleeping. Alas, I’m the only one in my room who sleeps late. They are all buddy-buddy with each other like close friends which makes them even more unbearable because you feel like an outsider. I do talk to them sometimes sometimes having a conversation with them about things I don’t totally ignore them though I might seem anti-social to them because I’m often in my room doing homework or outside the room hanging with other friends. Btw, this is the second time I’ve had roommates like this. They were all from the same hometown too and went to high school together. They all do stuff together and don’t really invite me into anything they’re doing.</p>

<p>One of my roommates that I can’t stand is really weird. He watches really old movies and TV shows on a daily basis. In fact, he rarely leaves his room other than to go to class or go on his radio show or something. He brings his food to his room and talks like a robot- no expression and monotone. I can tell he’s an introvert. So it may not be fair of me to criticize him. But here’s the thing that REALLY annoys me about him: at 7 in the morning or late at night, he’s watching his old movies/TV shows at a loud volume making me unable to sleep! I let him know that he needs to keep the TV down in the morning and at night and have consideration for other ppl sleeping. He said he was sorry and that it wouldn’t happen again. Well, it did. He doesn’t seem to have manners either or any empathy for other ppl. Heck, he rarely talks to my other roommates except one of them. </p>

<p>Then there’s one loud obnoxious nasal one who comes off as a tool. He tries to make himself sound really cool, and though ppl may think he’s nice, I hear him all the time throwing the gay slur around(and I’m gay btw so it’s a little grating that he does that) and judging other people who he thinks are not cool. He seems like he’s trying too hard to be cool. I can tell he has a problem with his self-image and worries too much about what others think of him. And he never stops talking! Oh, and he’s very nosy always asking where I’m going. Sometimes I feel like just walking out and ignoring him. He’s almost always in the room and usually here on weekends moping around how there’s nothing to do how no one invites him to parties, how the rugby team treats him like garbage cause they don’t invite him to their parties and he doesn’t get playing time yada yada. Also, I kind of wish he wouldn’t use rubbing alcohol to clean my dishes. I don’t believe it works, and I’ve never heard of anyone online using it or any one in real life for that matter. He sometimes walks around without a shirt on thinking he’s tough, but he’s really not he’s really skinny and it just makes him look like a tool. I’m tempted to tell him “Put a shirt on! You’re not jacked” lol. Oh and he always talks about how he would beat someone up(some clown, tool, ******bag, etc), but I don’t see him beating anyone up as he’s too small and weak. I mean who is he trying to prove? Smh. </p>

<p>Other than being excluded and them being loud early in the morning, I don’t have as much issue with the other 2.</p>

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<p>LOVEE this threadd!</p>

<p>okay so me and my roommate were never besties, but we were friends! and up to the first semester of my freshman year we were very nice and respectful towards one another. Although my first semester was kind of a hot mess and one of the worst things I’ve experienced, next semester (this current one) turned out to be the most miserable year I’ve had in years. I mentioned to her as soon as I returned from break to school that I was transfering because I didn’t like it here. </p>

<p>I got her to do recruitment with me in the winter, so after winter break we talked and got ready for the following week to do rush, and that following weekend my best friend from home came for the weekend which is when I started to notice some major negatives in my roomie and I’s relationship. Me and my friend decided to tag with her friends from our floor to get dinner but we soon found out on a saturday that the waiting times were going to be redic so then my roomie kept shooing me and my friend away saying “you guys can leave us like RIGHT now”, and “you don’t have to stay with us you know” and just kept giving us the cold shoulder which wasn’t her AT all. So as the weeks went on she ended up in a sorority she liked while I declined (we got into the same sorority) which I think was a great decision!</p>

<p>Around the end of jan-beginning of feb she then started spending time outside of the room, and only coming in to sleep which was highly unusual of her. I told a friend about it and she’s like you should talk to her. So I did, and when I asked how she was and if there was something wrong (we haven’t talked in about a week in a half since she was NEVER in the room) and she responded in a way that was like “wow you’re dumb to assume that” so I just kept quiet. Her friends kept saying it was because she was stressed with work and her sorority stuff but that gave NO solution as to why she just wouldn’t talk to me. Even outside of our room or walking to class, I’d say hello and she’d roll her eyes and go to talk to her friends on our floor. 2 weeks into it I had a meltdown because I really cared and liked her as a friend and she was like the last thing to make me somewhat like our school even though I was leaving after this semester but I guess she had other plans? </p>

<p>We usually talk about our feelings and stuff but I guess she’s keep them hidden. She only talks to me if she wants me to do something. Whenever she enters the room she rolls her eyes at me, or even when she sees me in the hallway. She’s also becoming more disrespectful then ever which is not what she did in the beginning. My family and friends back home are thinking she’s just dropped me because of me transfering but still why would it take her a few weeks to just drop me cold turkey?</p>

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<p>My roommate was a schizophrenic who dropped out of our university two years prior to me meeting him. We were good friends for a long time but eventually his psychoses got the better of him and, after some false accusations on his part, he violently assaulted me which resulted in his committal in a mental hospital and a restraining order against him on my part. This all happened last month. I hope that kind of puts things in perspective for some people.</p>

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<p>I’m sure I have my quirks that annoy my roommate (since she sees me EVERY day of course), but for the most part, I’m a good roommate. I’m quiet, study, and never have anyone over. I’m not always the most outgoing (especially when I feel tension/awkwardness), so I’m not sure if I come across as being “cold”, but I am a generally very upbeat, hard-working student, have many friends, and am involved in a lot of student organizations on campus.</p>

<p>At the beginning of this school year (I’m a freshman with sophomore status because of AP credits), my roommate and I were actually pretty tight. We were often referred to as “best friends”. Even when I broke my ankle and was very upset, my roommate had said something to me. She had said, “Hey, on the bright side, out of all of the people on our floor, the two of us bonded the most.” However, she started to hang out with this other girl, who seemed to be nice. I even became friends with her for a while. However, the more my roommate hung with this girl, the less she hung out with me. Gradually, we grew apart, and things started to become awkward.</p>

<p>From the beginning, I knew that my roommate was rather pushy and dominant. When we moved in, she had her stuff thrown all over my stuff, and had her first pick over almost everything (except for which bunk she had- my mom insisted that I have the bottom bunk so I could at least have something I wanted). However, I didn’t really think much of it in the beginning because we were so close. As time went on, though, I started to get really annoyed with it. Everything had to be her way- the window HAD to be shut at night (even though it’s probably 80 degrees in our room every night), and the main fluorescent light could never be on (she hated it and always used her desk lamp). She would do petty things like turn off the main light when I used the bathroom so she could have it her way. This bothered me because I never was able to have it the way I wanted it. I like the main light because it’s easier for me to see what I’m doing. Especially when I have organic chemistry textbooks and papers thrown everywhere.</p>

<p>A while after breaking up with her first boyfriend (who did not go to our school), she began dating another guy that did go to our school. He’s a nice guy, but during the first semester, he was over ALL the time. Whenever I wanted to study, I had to go to the library, which is a 15 minute walk from my dorm. She would have him over until almost midnight when I had a serious exam the next day- she did this to me more than once. She and her boyfriend had no respect for my stuff- I would find his stuff thrown on my stuff, and she and her boyfriend would sit TOGETHER in my fold-out chair. They bent the legs on it. To top it all off, during finals week when I had 3 finals on consecutive days (2 of them being cumulative and VERY difficult) and she only had 2 finals that were very spread out (only one of them being cumulative), she had her boyfriend over EVERY day. I got so ticked off because I never was able to study in my OWN room. I didn’t know how to confront her (whenever I do that nowadays, she ends up playing mind games with me and giving me the silent treatment even if I’m being reasonable), so I was somewhat passive-aggressive. Yeah, not the best method, but I never actually DID anything to her. I just wasn’t very talkative, and gave her short replies. It really bothered me when she and her boyfriend would be obnoxiously friendly whenever I was around to antagonize me (and I know that’s what they were up to, because my roommate is never like that when she’s alone with me).</p>

<p>She did end up getting the hint and feeling sorry for what she did, which was nice, but I still have problems with her to this day. It’s currently second semester at my university, and although I almost switched rooms (my RA talked me out of it) at the beginning, I am trying to make the best of it. I just try to be nice to her even though she makes me really mad. She still has to have “her way” with everything. Also, her best friend that I mentioned earlier moved onto our floor, and they both became friends with people who I was good friends with last semester. Now, they barely talk to me and never invite me to anything anymore. I get the feeling that my roommate is talking about me behind my back. And my roommate has days where she’ll randomly give me the silent treatment for absolutely no reason. And I’m saying absolutely no reason because NOTHING had happened between the last time we talked (and got along very well) and the time we saw each other again. It makes me not want to be in my own room. Oh, and her “best friend” also randomly de-friended me on social media sites and doesn’t acknowledge me anymore. What the??</p>

<p>More about the “mind games”…at the beginning of this new semester, I wanted to make a bit of a compromise. I felt that I was never able to use the room that I ALSO pay for to study and rest. Her boyfriend had been over every day, so all I asked for was Monday and Wednesday nights to study, since I had an 8am organic chemistry II class the next day. I was VERY specific and said NIGHTS. She agreed to this, but decided to play mind games with me. She started giving me the silent treatment. Her “best friend” would no longer enter our room and would only talk to my roommate through the doorway. I talked with her about this, and she made ME sound like I did everything wrong. She insisted that I had wanted the room ALL DAY and that she was not allowed to have visitors over at any time. I KNEW she was playing games because I was very specific when I said NIGHTS. I was so mad. I talked with my RA, and she just told me in the most non-biased way possible that I’m not going to win with her, and I’ll just have to make the best out of it. </p>

<p>I just don’t get it. I’m honestly not too inclined to be “friends” with her again because of the way she treats me. I’m not trying to play the “poor me” card, but I’m honestly confused. I’m goofy, bubbly, and a generally friendly person. I have lots of friends. Yet, she makes me feel like dirt. I’m not sure if it was the fact that I actually started to stick up for myself a little bit during the second semester and not let her push me around or what. I don’t like drama, and I don’t participate in it, so when she gives me the silent treatment, I just try to act normally. I try to not let this all bother me, but it does.</p>

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<p>I have two roommates, and from the start it was pretty clear they were going to get along better with each other than I did with either of them. We don’t have anything in common at all, and it’s a rare moment when I catch them talking about something that isn’t gossip or their own bodies.
We had a kind of mutual <em>ignoring-each-other’s-existence</em> type scenario for a number of months, but lately they’ve been getting passive-aggressive. Joy.</p>

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<p>This thread makes me thankful for my roommate.</p>

<p>He’s not the cleanest, his sleep schedule is the opposite of mine and he has a tendency to listen to music/videos at an obnoxiously loud level, but he has no problem turning it down if I ask and we generally have good communication. </p>

<p>One thing I’ve learned so far is that communication is key…people that take the initiative to post on a forum like this likely feel that some of the annoying behaviors roommates exhibit are kind of a violation of common sense, but if you don’t speak up, they’ll never know. Speak up, be polite, and be direct.</p>

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<p>Wow, reading some of these stories, I feel much better about my roommate. She’s not so bad anymore, haha!</p>

<p>But I was coming on here to complain that she has the TV on ALL THE TIME. Good Lord, I thought I watched a lot of TV. </p>

<p>This roommate though… as soon as she walks in the room, she grabs the remote like her life depends on it. And then the TV is on constantly until she goes to bed. I swear, there is a show she needs to watch every time slot. And when there isn’t, she puts the TV on these reality shows that grate on my nerves. </p>

<p>Usually I’m listing to music on my laptop with headphones, trying to drown it out. But some nights the TV seems louder or more annoying than usual and I’m ready pick it up and toss it out the window. </p>

<p>I just don’t know what to say to her though. This is her room too and it’s her TV, so she has every right to watch it. It’s just that I would like some silence at times, y’know?</p>

<p>She also sleeps a lot. Which isn’t that big of a deal but sometimes I hate having to tiptoe around and be so quiet. Thank goodness she’s a heavy sleeper but still. I don’t see how she can sleep so late. There’s one day where we both don’t have class until the afternoon, but my internal body clock won’t let me sleep past 10. And she can sleep til 1PM.</p>

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<p>I got a new roommate this semester and for the most part she’s really chill. Much better than the others I’ve had. The only things that bother me: she goes to bed super early, and she comes back to the room with frozen yogurt every day and eats with her mouth open, really loudly. It’s so gross I either have to put in headphones and listen to music or go into the living room and shut the door.</p>

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<p>My roommate is a great guy, but he has a bad habit of blaming the professor or class structure if he doesn’t do well rather than holding himself accountable. He’s not doing extremely well in his classes this semester and it’s a little annoying to hear him complain about it all the time.</p>

<p>Other than that, though, he’s awesome and one of my closest friends. It’s just that one thing that gets on my nerves from time to time. Good communication is key- we’ve both agreed that if either one of us is doing something bothersome, we’ll say something about it. It’s worked out well for us and we’re rooming together again next year.</p>

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<p>All my roommate does is game all night long, then all evening long since she doesn’t wake up until after dinner time. She’ll only do work if it’s due the next day. Then she complains that her grades suck and how everyone’s smarter than her. I don’t know any full time student who’s taking that small number of classes, two of which are supposed to be pretty easy.</p>

<p>She’s extremely inconsiderate of being a roommate, completely unwilling to compromise and leaves dirty dishes in the sink all the time. Dishes that are most likely mine that she used and now I can’t even have the pleasure of using them without washing the dirty yellow water from them first. I’ve told her multiple times to use her own things, to return other people’s things to their previous condition, and to get her **** out of my way. In one ear and out the other. She pretends to be oblivious to the world around her because she thinks it’s “cute”. </p>

<p>She can’t even do her hw by herself. Most of the time she has to rely on other people to help her. She even gets jobs handed to her on silver platters because of connections. She’s not even qualified to do them because her grades are so bad, she really has no understanding of any academic material unless someone is helping her, and her “oblivious nature” (if it not a facade) guarantees that she can’t even pay attention to what she needs to do. </p>

<p>I regret asking her to live with me. Never knew what a useless and shallow “friend” I had.</p>

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<p>"She times herself. She has a stopwatch on at all times.She was legitimately depressed when it broke. She will time herself when she is doing FUN THINGS. For study breaks, she’ll start reading a book or some comics, but will set her timer. The second it goes off, she stops immediately and gets back to work. "</p>

<p>That’s actually an excellent way of studying… Your over dramatizing!</p>

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<p>^^</p>

<p>Haha, I do that sometimes. There’s this Tumblr called Unf*** Your Habitat. It’s about cleaning, but they advocate doing 20-10s (twenty minutes of work, ten minutes of break) until everything is done, and I use it sometimes when I’m trying to get through a long reading assignment.</p>

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<p>Although I’m now off campus with an acquaintance that is for the most part a good match, for the first and only term I lived on campus in freshman year I lucked out with a great random Asian guy. </p>

<p>We may not have had the same musical tastes or a whole lot in common interest-wise, but boy did we work together! Went to bed at the same time, clean and neat, not annoying, good personality, and intelligent. I had some initial fear that he’d be straightedge but turned out that wasn’t the case. </p>

<p>And for the record, nearly everyone else on our hall floor were obnoxious jocks who got crazy on the weekends. And I mean CRAZY DRUNK. </p>

<p>So yeah I got super lucky.</p>

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<p>I’m so sick of my roommate. We were adequateness from school both in the same major both had a strong ideas of no smoking, drugs, or heavy drinking in the apartment. Sound it great to me. However it wasn’t very long after we got a washer and dryer and cable and internet that she freaking changed. Having friends over late when I have to be up early talking down to me and basically treating me as if I’m the idiot and she knows everything. (Please note I’m three years older and have more life experiences than her.) Last month I paid for all the groceries and she never offered to help pay but was more than willing to go through three gallons of chocolate milk and six boxes of mac and cheese. We finally came to agreement on food when i reminded her that she still owed me money for the washer and dryer. This past weekend I had to go out of town for the night only to find her thieving sister in my house washing clothes. Thankfully she left shortly after I arrived. I sat down and watched the tv show that she wanted and I watch a few shows before she went to bed only to yell through the wall that she was hot and the AC needed to be turned on then the tv was too loud I finally gave up and went to bed only to find a bedbug in my bed. I haven’t been in my bed in 48 hours and never had a history of bedbugs when I lived on my own. Now its after two in the morning and I have to wait up for my blankets to get washed while she sleeps. I’m beyond mad at this point, I regret ever giving up my single bedroom apartment or just allowed my boyfriend to move in. It would’ve been better than this crap!!!</p>

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<p>Dear,MultivariableXYZ </p>

<p>I’m in the same situation, I can’t stand her friends or her family and it doesn’t matter how many times I show her how to properly load a dish washer she still does it wrong if at all. she is lazy about cleaning anything that is not her room. seriously she left drops of period blood on the bathroom floor! EWWWW</p>