This thread is oldddd but so interesting…anyway I had 4 roommates first semester. First roommate was amazing. Funny, outgoing, talkative. This made me actually want to engage in conversations with her. She was clean , didn’t snore, and didn’t mind any music playing. This was during a temporary stay at a hotel due to the school running out of rooms. We ended up both having to move back to the campus, but with different roommates. This proves how good things really never last long.
I was moved into a forced triple. When I got the key, I went to see how the room will look. I ended up finding on of the roommates there. She was very nice in the beginning and welcoming. That was before our first break. We both went home for the break. Afterwards on the weekend before classes start, when I was moving stuff in, I found urine on the toilet seat. I thought this was because of the other roommate I didn’t meet at first and that she brought her boyfriend over or something. This turned out to be false throughout the semester since the first roommate I saw at the beginning, would ALWAYS pee on the toilet lid and not wipe it off. I was nervous to say anything because we hung out a lot at first. One day I was done and brought it up to my other roommate (Sarah) and she said she did not do it. When I asked the other roommate(let’s call her Deja) , she still lied about it and said that it is just water. Water is yellow? Oh ok. Good to know. You didn’t do it but you say it is water? Oh ok. Our communication died off slowly afterwards because I cannot be friends with someone who can lie straight up to my face , especially over something so small like that. Who knows what else she would lie about? Other annoying things Deja would do include blasting music loudly in the bathroom no matter the time of the day, come in the room loudly at 5AM, be unclean on her side, which affected mine since we shared a bunk bed be clingy by asking where I am when I don’t come to the room on the weekends, and take her sweet time in the bathroom. This resulted in me moving SO QUICKLY when the RA asked me if I’m willing to switch with another girl across the hall cause she was not getting along well with HER roommate.
I was then moved into this room, which is a double. I should’ve known something was wrong with my new roommmate if her old one was willing to go into a triple dorm with barely any space in it lol. This new roommate (let’s call her Tiffany) has issues. We went over the agreements and I told her I like sleeping with the air cold otherwise I wake up with a stuffed nose and headache & she said she doesn’t mind cold air, Then I said I do laundry on Saturdays until 5 in the morning since that’s when it isn’t full, and that I go to bed late since I study best at night. She was cool with all of this. The first day , I had a test the next afternoon so I was making a notecard the professor allowed to be used. Suddenly, Tiffany started turning vigorously in her bed like someone pissed her off in her dreams… I told her old roommate about this and she said Tiffany always does that for some reason lol. After a few days, when she would leave for classes in the morning and I was still asleep, she would slam the door, ruining my sleep for the day. Other things include how Tiffany would talk to herself when doing things, sigh a lot, and stomp all over the place. I asked her if she’s ok and she would always say yes. She also made the room smell very odd when she walked in. Sadly plug ins and candles are banned and febreeze did not help. This basically shows I cannot survive another year living with someone in another room. Getting a nice roommate like my very first one, has a one in a million chance of ever happening again. Thankfully this semester she stopped slamming doors after I told her about it and doesn’t stomp around…often…lol. The smell is still there but the air freshener in packets help a lot. We still do not talk to each other a lot, other than to ask if we want the light on or off. I’m not mad at that though lol.
I know this post is old, but hey feels nice to talk about how I dont really care for my roommate. My roommate is constantly on FaceTime with her boyfriend, like I mean 24/7. I get that she is from out of state but really -.- They also watch Netflix together so I either listen to the tv show they are watching or their conversation, it switches from time to time. I always have my headphones on when I am in the room so she doesnt have to listen to my Netflix or when I play video games or when I play music. So I pretty much make no noise besides the clicking of my mouse. She recently complained about the clicking of my mouse. -.- seriously! The one noise I make she complaines about. I put up with every noise she makes, but she cant stand the clicking of a mouse. I wish thats all the noise she made. She talks really loud on FaceTime and it last till at least midnight most nights. She also playes her music without useing headphones and it is some type of rap music that I dont like. She has a perfectly good pair of beats headphones, so why not use them? I tried to make friends with her at the begining of the year, but she didnt really show any interest in me. Every conversation we had I started and after a couple months of that I just stopped talking to her. Now the only time she communicates with me is when she has a complaint and it is through a text message.
She is starting to hit on me and always tells me that I’m really pretty. Like everyday. Not just like a casual compliment. She tries to hide her sexuality but fails at doing so. Also, she’s sensitive and very annoyingly clingy.
I know this site is kinda old but I really need to rant about her. So my roommate is really shy, and we get along really well. I don’t like putting labels on people but she is what I would call “ghetto”. She NEVER uses earbuds. She sits on her bed and FaceTime her Aunt and Uncle. She’s kinda racist on the phone with them. Currently it’s super late and she’s keeping me up because while she is asleep she doesn’t use her music with earbuds while we are both sleeping. So she’s listening to some R&B (not the good kind) I really like her as a friend but omg!!
I signed up for this website just to rant. I hate my roommate. He seemed fine when we first moved in. He kept to himself mostly, which is great because I too keep to myself. Over time, I started to notice this weird smell. I finally figured out it was coming from him and his bed. He doesn’t shower after practice (he’s in band and does karate.) I tried to drop some subtle hints about him smelling by buying an air freshener and asking him if he took a shower yet. But he just says that he showers in the morning. I try to air out the room by keeping the door open but he just closes it when he comes in and gets on his computer, where he will spend the rest of the night. And he plays it right by my bed, and I can hear his stupid aggressive clicking and him talking over his microphone when I’m trying to sleep. I did ask him if he could start showering after practice. He did start showering after band practice after that. Only band practice though. He didn’t seem to understand that he smells after every type of practice. And he still hasn’t washed his sheets, so his odor lingers and I gag when I walk into the room. The worst thing is the coughing. About a month ago he started coughing a ton. I mean every two minutes (I timed it because it was so annoying). They are loud and wet coughs. I could hear them over my earbuds. I figured he would do something about it because it was obnoxious and surely he must realize it’s affecting someone other than him, right. Well that was wrong. He has done nothing to get better. He still coughs all the time. I tried to talk to him about it, saying he should drink water, then later told him he should get some medicine, and then telling him he should go to the college medical clinic. He has done none of those things. I can’t sleep because of it. Several times I had to leave the room at 2 in the morning and sleep in the dorm basement just to have some peace and quiet. I talked to my RA about it and he just recommended telling my roommate that it’s affecting me. I did, and my roommate said he saw me leaving those nights. He didn’t say he was going to do anything I had previously suggested. Instead, he got right back on his computer and kept on coughing, I had to leave the room again that night. I started wearing a cough mask whenever I entered the room to try my best to not get whatever he had. That worked for a couple weeks, but since he is always in the room, I was destined to fail. I got a cough but it wasn’t as disgusting as his. I went to the clinic after it stayed for 2 weeks. I told the people there about my roommate who refused to do anything about his cough and they told me to tell him that he should come in. When I got back to the lobby, I saw him reading a poster by the desk. I start talking loudly to the person at the desk about how I went to the clinic because my cough wasn’t going away in hopes that he would hear me and take the hint. I don’t know if it worked, but I highly doubt it. I always took care of myself and was responsible growing up. It baffles me that there can be people like him who can’t take basic care of themselves. He’s like a big child. He may as well just stayed home and commuted to college (he lives in town and owns a car). I know this thread is old but for those of you still there do you have any advise or sage council? I rant to everyone I meet about this. It’s affecting my life and I don’t want it to, but I can’t do anything about it
If the RA won’t do anything, it’s time to go to the Res Life Dean. Your siutation sounds untenable. Plan to move out immediately if possible. @simplypissed
@simplypissed I agree with the above poster. You have to take it to the next level if the RA doesn’t help. It is not acceptable to be living with someone under those conditions. Run as fast as you can to res life. Advocate for yourself and your well being.
My roommate’s is a mild slob and he has done some something around me that will shock you. Not forgetting about some courtesy issues as well.
Light Slob: Whenever he eats crunchy stuff like popcorn, some of it falls onto the floor under his desk and near his bed. My roommate's bed is against the wall when you look in our room, while my bed is against the other wall. He keeps a lot of stuff under his bed like food, drinks, and other college stuff. Some of it's organized and some of it's just thrown under his bed. It doesn't bother him if it's not vacuumed. I don't mind vacuuming for him because I like to keep the carpet clean.
Inappropriate behavior: He has done something around me that would not fly with other roommates very well. He watched some "adult content" while I was in the room. I was just on my bed playing some Xbox and then I looked over and saw what he was watching. To make things worse, he was doing "something else" while watching it, if you know what I mean. I took matters in my own hands and told my parents about it. Since my parents are friends with his parents, we both solved this issue without any problems between the two of us. I didn't freak out over this too much because I knew that he had some social issues when I became friends with him before he started college.
Courtesy Issues: When I try to watch Youtube videos without any earbuds/headphones, he doesn't wear his earbuds as well. Sometimes, both of our sounds will mix together, making it unenjoyable for me. If he had it his way, then I'd always use my earbuds. His earbuds still work, but he doesn't use them as often as I do. I might try to say something about it the next time it happens, but I do have the option to go to the lounge area on our floor. There's also a small study room that's rarely used at all, so instead of fighting about it, I can just go over there.
Overall, most of these issues don’t bother me anymore because they’re all solved. I expect things to get better from now.
God, two of my roommates don’t clean dishes for 4-5days and it’s so frustrating. The only reason I m putting up with them is that they let me use their kitchen utensils(they already had them before I moved in so I didn’t bothre getting ones), but even then the sink gets too crowded, and I have to clean my dishes in my bathroom. Thank god we have separate rooms and bathrooms.
I moved into my dorm with a random roommate. The first time I met her, she had blue manic panic all over her hands and arms. I said “Hi, my name is Leigh. Its nice to finally meet you” and she just stared at a wall. She was incredibly weird, unhygienic, and extremely unhealthy, so much so that the room smelled like hamburger helper every night. As a vegan, the smell made me gag every time I walked in the room. We never had a conversation with each other and she would always scream curse words when I walked into the room because I startled her. She stayed up every night until 4am or 5am playing Dungeons&Dragons and would sleep through her classes the next morning. She never left the room either, so I could never get any time to myself. She never, ever cleaned her side of the room, so it was filled with dust and empty bags of fast food for weeks. She would hide behind a curtain to change and would wear the same thing every day which I doubt she washed every evening. She actually bought a straight jacket and wore it around the room and campus. There were weapons that she collected and kept them on her desk (brass knuckles, nunchucks, and a butterfly knife). I felt very unsafe going to sleep at night.
After a few months, I felt like I needed to switch roommates. My new roommate has an obsession with pigs (not to mention she is morbidly obese). She owns 300 pigs on her farm back home. I asked her if she eats pork, out of curiosity, and she said she used to feel bad for eating it but her “parents talked to her so now she feels ok with it” (whatever that’s supposed to mean…). Her side of the room has statues of pigs, pig pictures, pig posters, pig stickers, pig bedding, and other miscellaneous pig items. Not to mention she also wears a shirt every day with a pig on it. After moving in, we would talk sometimes, but after a month or so, she stopped speaking to me for no reason. Every time I walk into the room, I say hi or mention something that happened on campus, and she’ll stare at the wall and not respond to me. Her extreme weight makes the room very hot and humid. When I moved in, I asked her what side of the room she wanted, and she said the window side. I have plants that I wanted to keep alive and I also favor the window side, but I let her have it since I invaded her space by moving in. I wouldn’t normally mind not having the side I want, but she keeps the windows and blinds closed all day and night. Her bed is also against the air conditioner so at night, her blankets fall on top of the air conditioner and make the room about 80 degrees. I wake up in a puddle of sweat every morning.
Anyway, I have read many stories about bad and weird roommates, but I think mine tops them all.
My roommate was a kind individual to me when I first moved into the apartment. I did not know her when I moved in, because the apartment assigns you a roommate. Well, things took a turn when I told her that I did not feel comfortable with her boyfriend living with us at the apartment. I did not feel comfortable with her boyfriend living with us because they took all the space in the refrigerator, freezer, and cabinets. Also, they always did both of their laundry every single day of the week and I was never able to do my laundry. Furthermore, I never had privacy because they were always at the apartment and would leave the bedroom door open and stare at me when I was in the living room or kitchen. Adding on to that, if something was not done her way she would get upset and be passive aggressive towards me, but when I did things her way she still got upset and got passive aggressive. So, after a while of trying to communicate with her and failing I decided to find someone to take over my lease. Well, the person can’t move in until my roommate moves out and her lease is ending soon. So, I decided to try and communicate with her and see when she is moving out because I seriously can’t live at an apartment complex that makes false charges and is ok with a roommate stealing and physically hurting others. Anyways, I tried messaging her but she ignored my message, I tried talking to her in person, and lastly I tried writing a nice note. Well, she ignored my messages and crumbled up the letter and threw it at my bedroom door. I am tired of being a doormat and need advice on what to do in this situation.
Saw this old post, but felt the need to contribute lol.
I went random for my roommates, since I’m in a forced triple at my school. The pairing process was atrocious. Initially, my school put me with one of the two kids I do not like from my hs. Seeing this, I requested to have my room changed, bc I entirely wanted to enjoy the college experience of making new friends. If I wanted to room with someone I knew, I would have roomed with my hs best friend who is the other kid from my hs. But I changed rooms and am now in an even worse situation. One of my roommates is from Vietnam. He is basically like a little kid in life still. He plays on his ds all day, watches shows like the Big Bang theory and never leaves his bed. His overall sense of cleanliness is nonexistent, bodily and externally.
My other roommate is perhaps even worse. He’s a normal kid, but he is a very hard smoker. It’s all he seems to do. He skips class and sleeps all day, and goes out at night and comes back reeking. I tried hanging out with him, but he’s not inclusive anymore in doing anything, despite me being perfectly nice and inclusive to him. What’s interesting is his best friend here at college is the kid he planned on forming with here from his hs. But that kid is now in the room I was supposed to be in. They are all some weird squad. Just a testament to really try and pick out a roommate somehow or find someone who is as similar to you as possible being that is the safest bet.
Okay, I’m in my sophomore year and living in campus. I got randomly assigned a roommate instead of choosing on myself. They are a foreign exchange student from Spain and are in the fourth year, and that’s all I know about them.
Here’s my issue: they go out and party or whatever they do every night. Most nights they get back around 10:30-12:30 but on some nights they get in around 3 am. The 3am nights they are extremely loud (as they are drunk) and the leave the dorm room open (which needs to propped open with a door stopper). Since they are drinking, they snore for the entire night, loudly. I bought foam ear buds from the school’s market, and I am able to still hear them through the headphones.
Also, since they are never here, I’m getting lonely. My freshman roommate and I got along great and we became good friends. We would talk in the room without ease. Since they are always gone, I am spending a lot of time to myself. I have history of mental health issues already, so this is not good for my own mental health.
I’m unsure what do to. If I request a new roommate, then I am the one who is required to leave, not the other roommate. I’m tired. It’s 4:30 right now and a mix of the panic I got from them barging in the room, laughing with their friend, leaving the door open so the hallway light shines in my face, and the snoring I am unable to fall back asleep. This is a weekday, by the way and I have class tomorrow.
Has anyone done through something similar, and if so, how did you deal with it? I feel like I’m going out of my mind and I don’t know what to do.
@dogs4life, go make a separate thread so people can offer suggestions. You can speak to your RA, but it’s early in the semester and you sound like poor fits. You should consider moving to a new space. Since you have a history of mental health issues you may want to reach out to a counselor and share your concerns.
@dogs4life Do you have a roommate agreement? If not, I would sit down with your roommate and RA and draft one. Totally unacceptable to have the roommate coming in during the week at those hours and keeping the door open/making noise. If you can get consensus on an agreement and the the roommate breakfast it, them maybe the roommate will need to move out. Good luck!