Really cocky friend with high SAT score and low GPA

<p>Those schools won’t want him. Others will. He’ll do fine in life if he starts taking advantage of his abilities and not being so overconfident. But it’s not your issue.</p>

<p>^^ I never said I was a saint either. I procrastinate a hell of a lot. I don’t deserve to go to Harvard the way my best friend does. She’s amazing and has worked harder than I have.
It’s not that he’s just lazy, but he’s cocky about it. I honestly don’t think he deserves to get in when other people, like my other friend, work so much harder than he does. He basically just wants to get in without putting in all that much effort.
I think he’s smart and he will go to a great school. I just don’t think he deserves to go to a place like HYPSM where kids work their asses off to get in. Like I said, I shouldn’t even be upset about this seeing as I’m not even applying to most of the schools he is and it doesn’t effect me. But the thing is I know other kids who are and worked their butts off and it would just seem pretty lame for someone who doesn’t work as hard to get in while someone who’s made a lot of sacrifices to work during high school gets rejected. But I guess that’s just life, and it’s not always fair.</p>

<p>I guess it really just depends what makes a person “deserve” to go to a college. Their capabilities, their attitude, and/ or their effort.</p>

<p>If it would be based soely on capabilities, yes, he’s smart enough to go wherever he wants.</p>

<p>Effort is a lame way to measure someones “deservingness” to get into a college. This kid does sound really smart to me. The fact that his gpa isn’t as high as it could be is probably because of his little incident, not because he is lazy. That incident could also be the reason why he’s acting so cocky. My best friend lost his dad to cancer as a 7th grader. In the couple months/years that followed, he was an ******* to me. Always getting ****ed off easily when we did stuff together and also always bragging about his superiority to me. It was his way of letting go of his loss and is probably your friend’s way too. He grew out of it. Now we’re cool again and we hang out alot. Give him time to deal with this. </p>

<p>About the effort, ask yourself this. Would a nerdy bookworm who spends all his time studying be more deserving than a kid who was naturally smart? Einstein flunked middle and high school. He was probably the laziest ***** ever. Yet today, his sheer brilliance often gives him the title of being the “smartest guy in the world”. Good luck to your friend.</p>

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<p>Not really true, but cool anecdote.</p>

<p>Yea sorry that quote was a little exaggerated. He didn’t flunk out of school but his grades sucked and all teachers hated him.</p>

<p>Issue Resolved.</p>

<p>I talked to him. Said I was sorry for saying he didn’t deserve to go there, and that I know he is capable and smart enough to succeed wherever he goes, and that I am not one to judge.</p>

<p>He said okay. I asked him if he meant what he said about me not existing and to go die, and he obviously said he was just being mean. Also he apparently isn’t aware when he’s making comments that could come off as demeaning, so he said okay when I pointed it out.</p>

<p>That’s generally how things go between us. aha. thanks guys for all the advice. : p</p>

<p>Good for you. No one should ever hear they don’t deserve to go to a college of their dreams, especially from a good friend.</p>

<p>WTG, Blackrose for how you handled the situation with your “cocky” friend, and how you handled the previous situation with the friend who had alcohol poisoning.</p>

<p>Best of luck to you with your college apps and the rest of your senior year!</p>