just realized you were the one who inquired about my stats then didnt reply when i sent u the pm, so u were already privy to my performance , levels of effort required to attain said performance, plus were oriented w the thread in its entirety since you engaged a long time ago. Makes your most recent response seem odd, but maybe its just me.
also, “every choice means a road not taken”
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wasnt my choice.
We no longer get notifications so I didn’t realize you sent me a pm. Thanks for letting me know.
If you went to boarding school you hardly walked into the SAT with no prep. Your boarding school classes were prep. Could you have done better without having to move around a lot in high school? Maybe. You aren’t the only student who’s been in that position. But you did great with the hand you were dealt and your college acceptance reflects that.
Your high school stats are excellent and you got into a top 25 college, so what about your trajectory could have been different? The only thing you’ve mentioned is that your friends from boarding school all got into Ivies. But they weren’t at Phillips either, were they? So if not attending boarding school kept you from the attending the Ivies (and I’m not convinced that’s true) missing the opportunity to go to Phillips isn’t what kept you out. The difference between you and your friends is that you left the “2nd tier” boarding school. If your dad was paying why didn’t he let you go back?
The reality of life is that we all have choices thrust upon us. I know 3 families who all lost a parent suddenly within the last 6 months. College plans are the least of what’s changing. You have the ability to control your future. You can spend it looking at the past and joking about suing your mother (if she’s the one who prevented you from going back to the “2nd tier” boarding school) or you can apply to affordable colleges and work toward building a career. If you don’t care about attending an Ivy why does the past matter?
@Hadesinquisitor “wasnt my choice.”
It is over…5+ years ago. You can’t take your mother to court. No person cares about HS scenarios when talking to an adult. Yes you are an adult.
Every day from now on is in your control. No “butterfly effect”, road not taken, or “mom made a decision that was mine to make” is in play.
Please read my earlier post. You need professional help asap. I know you don’t want to acknowledge it but you are smart enough to know it. You continue to be obsessive compulsive about your past, show some signs of both delusional and paranoid beliefs, and lash out at those seeking to both support you with information and advice. Get help. I am happy to try and steer you to such resources if you would like.
This venue is not helping you as at allows you to continue to dwell on scenarios long since expired. The future is what you need help with.
oh, didnt realize that. Was under the impression u just ignored it lol.
Yes i do suppose some classes were prep but keep in mind boarding school was only for 9th grade.
I understand that “sh-- happens” to put it crudely, but even after i state that i have come to the conclusion that moving on is best, it seems im still sent messages urging me to do so and comments that arent congruent w the line of thought id expect from ppl who actually read through the entire thread (maybe lack of proper punctuation really is that off putting as another user said, but if its such an impediment i think it speaks more about the reader’s ability to comprehend tbh).
Didnt go back to the tier 2 because of finances and in order to afford it dad said he would have had to withdraw early from his 401k with penalty (a choice he was ok with had it been phillips, but didnt feel it was worth it to take the hit for the other boarding school).
“you can spend it joking about suing your mother” this made me laugh, thanks for that.
past matters mainly because id like to have attended and had that exp, regardless of if it would have shifted college outcome and by how much.
i find your post condescending and lacking actual concrete advice. I have to assume by help you mean spending money to speak to someone who couldnt get into med school. No thank you.
On top of this uncalled for comment (feel free to ignore posts in the future), I find this entire thread to be going nowhere but a circular error, so I’m closing.