Reinventing myself..

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>^The dad on the Proud Family was named Oscar. Lol.</p>

<p>And MIThopeful, do you have anxiety when dealing with social situations? You could have a social anxiety disorder, and therapy could probably help you acheive some of your goals. I’m not trying to offend you or anything, but it seems like something that could really help. It’s something to think about.</p>

<p>[Social</a> Anxiety Disorder](<a href=“http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/mental-health-social-anxiety-disorder]Social”>What Is Social Anxiety Disorder or Social Phobia?)</p>

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<p>Back to the questions Warts asked me…</p>

<p>I guess I want to be more content.</p>

<p>I’m not happy with who I am.
I want to live again. Experience emotion. Be human. I’m tired of the shell of a person I am.</p>

<p>^ I don’t exhibit any of those symptoms. I just lack social skills though. Like they are horrible.</p>

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<p>^ Practice makes perfect. And I was the same way until I met a special girl and circumstance conspired to get us together.</p>

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<p>I mean there’s one special girl right now that I really like. I have no clue what her feelings for me are, and I’m afraid to find out. But this girl is basically the only thing that lightens up my day.</p>

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<p>Dancing will allow you to experience emotion.</p>

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<p>If it helps I’m going through the same problems as you, MIThopeful16. Maybe you should try to express yourself more through a variety of activities: Art, Science, Music, Writing etc. Something that really interests you. But honestly maybe you are just a secluded and reserved person. Don’t try to be something you know you are not. There are people out there who are just that way. I know I am.</p>

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<p>Friend of mine was a secluded and reserved person. However, that all changed when he joined the tennis team.</p>

<p>For me, I used to be secluded and reserved, but that was because I didn’t know some of my peers well enough to express myself fully.</p>

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<p>get off of CC</p>

<p>start talking to people and making friends</p>

<p>Build up your confidence. At least work on looking confident. You must always exude confidence in the presence of your peers.</p>

<p>I swear it’s not that hard making friends. Just try to be nice, be yourself, try to make yourself appear fun & funny and PLEASE don’t talk about school or anything academic related.</p>

<p>don’t give a **** about what other people think of you or what say about you.</p>

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<p>This might have been meant as a joke, but there is some truth to it. Do you participate in any sort of arts? Writing, drawing, music, theatre, dance, anything? My impression of you from this website is that you are very left-brained. I think if you took some time to engage your other half you might feel more complete. So explore some options you might have to join a less academic and more artistic extracurricular. Join a writing club, school choir, art class, find a female friend and take a salsa dancing class, try out for a school play, anything. I find that the greatest and purest connections between people are built through the arts, especially (I’m biased) through theatre.</p>

<p>Or if you are really lacking confidence and don’t want to try these things out publicly, just do it at home. write poetry or start a sketchbook on your own time. Teach yourself to play an instrument, if you have access to one. Stuff like that.</p>

<p>Even if you think you suck at it, or even if you DO suck at it, the outlet will probably help.</p>

<p>You should also find someone to confide in. Someone you know you can rely on to listen to your problems so you don’t feel the need to throw them out here on CC.</p>

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<p>I basically feel the same way- minor social interactions but nothing substantial. If you can find a really good friend, then you feel a little more “complete.”</p>

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<p>The arts… not my greatest talent. I mean I used to write music and poetry, but the arts were never that great for me.</p>

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<p>Sports? Get a job and hit on people.</p>

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<p>Are you guys friends? Do you guys talk often? Do you feel like you know her and she knows you?</p>

<p>Or do you just admire her from afar?</p>

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<p>We know each other. Robotics, in real life, her family restaurant is near my house, we’re good friends. I’ve mentored her team, she’s the one that has comforted at other times of stress in my life. I feel like I know her, and she knows me, because I tell her a lot of personal things about me.</p>

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<p>Why is it that no one has said this yet . . . You are depressed! See a doctor and get some anti-depressents. There is no shame in that. Sometimes people go through periods of chemical imbalance. It’s nothing you can help and it can be fixed pretty easily.</p>

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<p>Okay, you seriously need to tell her how you feel. I’m not socially talented at all. When I finally got together with my girlfriend, the first thing she asked me was “if you liked me for so long, why didn’t you make a move earlier?” In retrospect, the signs were all there, I was just too socially ■■■■■■■■ to pick them up and interpret them. </p>

<p>Just tell her how you feel. She’ll either reciprocate or she won’t. If you guys are close friends, she probably has some sort of feelings for you. And even if she doesn’t, at least you’ll know. Knowing is always better than not knowing.</p>

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<p>^^ Anti-depressants… I hate taking drugs.</p>

<p>And if I do tell her how I feel, I fear rejection. I doubt she has any feelings, she’s generally a bright person who talks to a lot of people. I can’t determine her feelings for me.</p>

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<p>Get someone else to ask her for you.</p>

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<p>^^ Then determine them. Run an experiment. Tell Her how you feel, and collect data from how she responds</p>

<p>Ultimately, isn’t being rejected better than never knowing?</p>

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<p>Not in my fragile mind state.</p>