Relationship with gf in different college

<p>There's a Berkeley>>Davis>>Berkeley bus shuttle that's like 5 bucks each way so you could see her whenever you want (takes about an hour for the trip). The schools are pretty close by...I see no reason to worry over a relationship bc of that distance.</p>

<p>I guess I'm in a similar situation. My boyfriend is a year older than me and he is going off to college this year at OSU. Next year, I have to decide where to go. I have NO idea what to do. I have a very decent chance of getting into some good schools such as duke, cornell, etc, but I kind of want to go to OSU because he will be there.</p>

<p>I've sort of made it seem worth it for me: it'll cost less, I'm still gonna have to go to grad school, they have a nice biomedical sciences program, etc. But I still feel like I'm giving something up to be with him. =(</p>

<p>I'd say to stay at Berkley. True love can stand the separation.</p>

<p>Im in a similar situation also. But I agree that you should stay at Berkeley. Think about how you would feel if you transferred, and then broke up. Go to Berkeley... if at the end of next year you are still in love, but miserable being apart, you could always consider transferring - but you should at least see if it can work. they're not that far away so you can prob find a way to see each other on weekends. I know it sucks, and it's not the same as seeing each other every day... but I think you should try to make it work, and that's what im doing!! best of luck</p>

<p>I will try to not be redundant but....</p>

<p>Go to Berkely... for now. It may just work out! If you don't try it, you will never know. If it is too hard for you to be that far apart- then you can transfer to Davis after your freshman year.</p>

<p>My boyfriend and I are also in a similar situation. I think I could have written that same paragraph that you wrote verbatim talking about my boyfriend. He is going to University of Michigan (we live in Ann Arbor) and I'm going to Wake Forest (9.5 hours away.) He really wanted to go to Duke or UNC but didn't get in, so the plan right now is that he will apply for transfer those schools, and and Wake Forest after a year at UMich. I am planning on doing the same (to Duke, UNC, and UMich.) That way, we can see where we both get in then, and after a year of experience being far apart, make the best decision for us as individuals and as a pair.</p>

<p>What we have said is that if it is meant to be, then it will be. Que sera sera. If we make it, then after 50 years of happy marriage, the 1 (or maybe 4) years that we were apart will truley be miniscule.</p>

<p>Also, we have realized that it is inevitable that college will change us. In order for us to work out, it is necessary that we change the same over time. Or, as we have said dP/dt=dE/dt (change in Peter over time must equal change in Elizabeth over time, if you are a physics or calculus person like myself.)</p>

<p>I have a webcam, and I'm getting him one before we leave. They are suprisingly inexpensive ($30 for a decent one.) As previously mentioned, there is a program called Skype which is essentially like AIM with a camera. If you get iBooks, they come with built in webcams, and you can video chat on iChat.</p>

<p>Before being far away from each other, try doing "practice" being far aparts. For instance, my boyfriend and I had different spring break trips, and we tried to not call each other all the time (granted, he was in Italy so there wasn't much of a choice) to get experience being apart. If you go from seeing each other every moment of your life, to seeing each other every few weeks, it will be a very difficult transition. Try to ease into it.</p>

<p>Don't get me wrong, I'm scared to death of what will happen when I go away. It's going to be incredibly difficult being far away and I'm going to miss him soooo much. Why else do you think I clicked on this thread!? Just have confidence that you can handle being apart. Good luck with the transition next year, it makes me feel better knowing that I'm not the only one that will be going through this.</p>

<p>Could someone else post about specific things they have done to make a long distance relationship work out? Also, what things they did that did not help or made things worse? I'm looking for advice too. Thanks!</p>

<p>maybe transfer is right</p>

<p>Yeah, my boyfriend and I have been dating for two years and we are going to MIT and Stanford. It's going to be hard, but we can do it. I second the request for specific advice.</p>

<p>It's not impossible for you guys to break up, no matter what you think.</p>

<p>You'd feel awful bad if you went to a college you didn't want to and then you guys broke up, wouldn't you? Don't let a girl get in the way of your education or career, I know you love her, and if she loves you, you guys will be fine no matter what.</p>

<p>"My take: whether or not you both go to UCSD, she'll end up breaking up with you in the fall after she contrasts the obsessive relationship with careless college life. I'd bet $$ something to that effect happens."</p>

<p>How helpful and sensitive.</p>

<p>Anyone who knows what it's like to be young and in love has to understand what the original poster is feeling. There is no need to call him delusional and obsessive. Not ALL couples break up. Yes, it is difficult, but you do not know him or his girlfriend and the nature of their relationship.</p>

<p>I am going through a similar situation as many of you. My boyfriend and I will be 9 hours away, but we're going to try to make it work because it's worth it to us and yes, we believe that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. Call us delusional, but you can't judge someone else's relationship based on statistics.</p>

<p>Not gonna happen. Break up now and move on.</p>

<p>Go to UCB, but don't break up right now. Give it a chance. Although many people I know broke off their highschool realtionships after being apart, some people are still together. If your realtionship really is as strong as you think, than you guys can make it...if you do break up, than you'll know that this realtionship isn't as strong as you think (which is probably something you need to learn, if it's true).</p>

<p>Go to UC-Berkeley and just go see her on the shuttle. I think this type of decision is difficult when schools are really far away, but when you're an hour away? That's not long-distance. Many people commute that to work every single day.</p>