<p>yeah, I think I made the right decision too! We are still friends, but it can be a bit awkward. But my best friend is his younger brother... so I see him all the time. I actually painted the Rhino-lining in his truck bed just the other day. It was pretty fun
P.S. if you ever want the bed of your truck re-done... it's TOTALLY worth getting it sprayed on professionally! This stuff doesn't come off! I'm gonna be going to basic with half my hand black with it! But it was pretty fun! :)</p>
<p>Hmmmm Basic why is your hand stained black....Rhino lining Sir/Ma'am. Oh this is going to be a good conversation.</p>
<p>hahaha! Yeah, I'm not going to try to stand out any other way with some shirt or something!! I'm pretty much set!</p>
<p>what's the rule again? you can't be married while in the air force academy? i think that applies to ALL academies. But does engaged count as well? i would think so.</p>
<p>Quite a few cadets are engaged, actually. You just can't be married or have kids.</p>
<p>the thing is you cannot have anyone who relies on you in any way while ur a cadet/midshipman. thats where the no marriage/kids thing stems from. as for engagements, many ppl get engaged. i don't understand doing it 4 dig year, but w/e floats ur boat if u rly want</p>
<p>Bullet did not go to the AFA, however, we both went to colleges in different states, with different winter and spring breaks, additionally he did not come home for summer break...thus, it was pretty much the same story!</p>
<p>25 yrs later (dated through college, engaged during UNT and married as soon he got his wings = 20 yrs this Dec) we are still together. How did we do it? Bullet was upfront and honest with me...the AF was going to come 1st, if I was willing to understand it then he wanted me to be with him, if I was going to complain than it was OVER. I am so thankful he put that limitation on our relationship, without that I would have never endured the countless TDY's and deployments. I never questioned if there was another woman...I knew there was...her name was THE UNITED STATES AIR FORCE...I have joked throughout our marriage that I am only his mistress, she calls he jumps! If any girl or woman can get that for as long as you are in she is 2nd fiddle, than stay, the minute she doesn't get it, you need to re-think it. Complaining at 18,19,20 with no kids will give you a quick insight on how she will react when you are deployed for 4 mos and leaving her home with 2 screaming toddlers or moving while she is 7 mos pregnant.</p>
<p>This may sound cold or callous, but the reality is as a spouse she will need to be self-reliant, she will be Mom, Dad, car mechanic and toilet repairwomen (trust me...been there..done that and got the patch to prove it). If you need to spend time reassurring her that you are okay, or explaining why you haven't called her, than you need to sit down and have an adult conversation...you need to ask do they have what it takes if I am sent remote for a yr, or if a war breaks out and we are stationed overseas! This is not an easy life for a spouse...I have had to make friends every 2-3 yrs without knowing anyone, Bullet was welcomed into a squadron and had ready made friends...I have had to change careers...Bullet got to come home and say I can't believe they pay me to do this! I have no regrets I have friends I would never had, I have the love of my life, I have lived in the most unusual places (Idaho was not my 1st choice), but most importantly I have loved every second.</p>
<p>I have had a very long conversation with our DS's girlfriend. I have explained everything that I just stated. I told her if she is going to get angry at him for not calling her back until the next day...re-think staying...it is his dream and if she doesn't understand that for the next 12 yrs (if he gets UPT) the AF comes first than it is best to end it now. If she can understand that he might have to take a jet to safety for a hurricane while she is left behind with a dog and 3 kids than stay. </p>
<p>Here is my final point...not one of my children were conceived, born and celebrated their 1st birthday in the same house. Our DS1 who just graduated from hs went to 10 schools incl. pre-school, 8 otherwise!</p>
<p>Sit down and be an adult, let her/him read this b/c the upside is we made it and so can everyone else...the downside is to not acknowledge the AF will come 1st, it is not an 8-4/40 hr per wk job...it calls you answer! Only the two of you can make the decision. Don't give up on a relationship b/c of fear, just be honest on what it will take to endure these yrs!</p>
<p>Good Luck...I hope you make it!</p>
<p>My boyfriend is older than me and is willing to travel with me anywhere, but we were wanting to live together. It will be tough being away from him for so long. Will I get to see him on the weekends or at all?</p>
<p>If you both put the effort into seeing each other when you can, it will work out.</p>
<p>There are, of course, a lot of variables. Money, time, etc.</p>