<p>For all you cadets that are at the academy now and went through the same experiences that we are about to go through, I have a question:</p>
<p>On the subject of relationships, such as a boyfriend or girlfriend, what did y’all do before you left for the academy? Did y’all’s relationship survive through the summer and beyond? Or did you have to end it? What is the reliability or success of trying to stay together?</p>
<p>Kitties it is called the 3% club becuase only 3% of cadets will still be in a relationship with someone they were involved with on I-day. As for the rest I'll get potter to answer not only from a girls perspective, but also from the perspective of someone who has been with the same boy for going on 4 years.</p>
<p>i'd say it just depends on the relationship. if you can make it work, go for it. it's at least worth the try if you're really committed. my girlfriend and i will still be together come june 26.. it's actually our 1 year anniversary. no doubt it takes a huge amount of faith, trust, and love.. but it can be done :)</p>
<p>People do make it work, sometimes. I know a few people who married the people they were with prior to BCT (although the vast majority of relationships do not make it... but 2%, or 3%, is a very pessimistic assumption). Think of it this way... If it lasts, it'll be even stronger; if it doesn't, take it as a sign that for whatever reason it was not meant to be. Relationships in the military take a ton of commitment, and it needs to be acknoweldged that even after graduation from the Academy, there will still be times of separation. Communication is HUGE since there will be many times when the couple will not be in the same physical location.</p>
<p>We werent sure what we were gonna do when I left for basic, but she told me last night that she wanted to give it a go and keep it going strong and I am definitely relieved.. I am sure it will be hard, her being at college here in PA, while I am out in the Springs doin my thing, but weve been tight for 5 years, so it is definitely worth it... </p>
<p>The way I look at it, we all broke the seemingly impossible odds to get into USAFA, the odds were meant to be broken...;)</p>
<p>There was a fair amount of chatter on Famnet over last Thanksgiving and Christmas regarding a cadet or two who were out processing because of their "other." Most thought that this was a HUGE mistake, as these relationships are still apt to fail. I think Uncyn has it absolutely right.</p>
<p>Agreed. The Lt is spot on, as always.</p>
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<p>Now, now, that might be a SLIGHT over-exaggeration. ;)</p>
<p>Very unrelated, yet interesting note... 07PETKO--Prior to this post of mine, we both had the exact same number of total posts on the forums (636). I'm not even sure why I noticed that.</p>
<p>That is weird. Guess we're back to the same number! :D</p>
<p>or you can not worry about it cause u didn't have a significant other ;) sometimes it does make life easier! lol</p>
<p>but yeah, what the lt said. if it survives its stronger, if not it wasn't meant to be. i don't think it'd be a great idea to start one in the next month, tho apparently it can be done</p>
<p>It just depends on your maturity level and how much you are committed to each other. As a girl coming to the Academy... not likely that you will stick with your boyfriend back home for all 4 years. I don't mean to be the pessimist, but it's the truth. It's hard because the other person cannot and will not completely understand your new life, even if they make the effort to. But it can be done!</p>
<p>pertaining to this....my parents are concerned that having my girlfriend at Parents weekend would be slightly distracting for me, and are not too accepting of the possibility. Honestly, I'm kind of angry at their resistance. I was wondering if cadets normally do bring their gf's/bf's, and if anyone can share from personal experience if that was a problem. They think that because it is called "parents weekend," that it should be that way. Basically I need help haha.</p>
<p>My girl will be there no doubt, we laugh because she will be in school for 2 days before she heads out to the Springs... The parents seem to fully support our idea, and I truly believe her bein there will be a great morale boost ya know... </p>
<p>If she does come, ya wont be alone in tht category bud... ;)</p>
<p>just expect the question: gf or sister?</p>
<p>lol</p>
<p>it's also jokingly known as "sister's weekend" by some cadets for obvious reasons i hope</p>
<p>hahahahaha</p>
<p>K&F11:</p>
<p>Nice to meet you last week. As you know, I've got many miles on me (and am obviously not a cadet), but I couldn't resist a post back to you.</p>
<p>Physical separation is tough on a relationship (duh!). When I left to school I was dating a girl I thought was "the one." It lasted until about mid-term exams in the spring of my freshman year. Many reasons for the break-up and I will state for the record it was initiated by her (not a manly thing to admit, but the truth). It had me really down for awhile, but in the end I was determined to make it through school and I was not going to let one set back ruin my life.</p>
<p>I suppose what I am trying to say is that I feel you need to go in hoping and working towards the best, but being mentally prepared to handle a break-up if it happens. I know this is not a terribly romantic point of view, but is a very realistic one.</p>
<p>And, as pointed out above, if it does work out it is an awesome relationship! The good news from my story is that I dated several other girls over the next few years, met one who was really cute, dated her for about 4 years and have been married to her for >25 years. </p>
<p>Good luck and stay in touch!</p>
<p>thank you everyone. very good and differet points of views which are preparing me. mine's gonna be difficult because we're gonna both be so sad. and i'm willing to work at it over the years to come. His dad is a General in the Air Force so he knows (from a stand point) what i'm going through. so that might help.</p>
<p>hmmm... When I got my acceptance letter, I went over to my boyfriends house to show. He was happy, but not at the same time. It turned out that he was planning on proposing. He showed me the ring and everything. The catch was, he wasn't willing to wait, so I had to say no. There are more guys in the world and they need to respect someones ambition. That pretty much sucked tho. He got engaged to another girl 3 months later... with the SAME RING!!!!!!!! Let me tell ya, that's a weird feeling :)</p>
<p>A guy proposed to a girl in my basic flight, via mail, for the second time (she'd already declined once), near the end of 1st Beast. She told him to get out of her life, and sent the ring back. She was pretty PO'ed.</p>
<p>Viper24, something tells me you made the RIGHT decision...</p>