Ahahaha. For reasons that I dont know, 4/20 is like national marijuana day and code for time to go smoke some. So like is it 4:20 yet is the weed equivalent of its 5 o’clock somewhere.
It’s funny for me because my parents are potheads and they joked that I was the alien child because i didnt like to partake. But now it’s my kid due on pot day lol.
Thanks for that bit of info, @romanigypsyeyes! I assumed it was something like that but didn’t have the guts @eyemamom does to ask! Wishing you and the baby the very best!
And just to alleviate anyone’s fears, I did cease use every cycle so this kiddo has never been exposed.
I will be asking my MFM whether or not I can use small bits of consumables though since I’m completely off my pain meds. If there’s any chance of harming baby jedi (which is somehow what I’ve taken to calling them), I obviously will wait until birth.
Congratulations??? Very happy for you ,???
Have been away and was so thrilled to see the thread name change today! Congratulations and all the best for a happy, healthy pregnancy! Looking forward to following your journey.
Ok mommas I need advice since my usual advice sources are failing me ?
I was rather large-chested before getting pregnant and now at 6/6.5 weeks, I’ve already gone up a full cup size and they HURTTTT. It’s at the point now though where it’s difficult to sleep because I can’t get comfortable. Any suggestions?
Breast tenderness was the worst during the first trimester. I had forgotten all about this…maybe I just blocked it! ? I remember that it hurt to even take my bra off. Wear a good bra and even sleep in a soft support one. You can try placing bags of frozen peas on them for a little bit before bedtime. It will get better in a few weeks!
If you have never been fitted for a bra, get it done. There are even special sleep bras that some find helpful.
https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/essential-bras#8
A pretty good overview. ^^
Sounds crazy but placing cabbage leaves around your breasts inside your bra is an old midwife’s trick to help relieve breast engorgement. It’s cheap so worth a try. 
I had this problem to a more minor degree during pregnancy but, after pregnancy, honestly, it was much worse. The best solution was, as others suggested, to find a very good bra and sleep in it. I believe I went up to an M – it was pretty tough. But, of course, it’s a small price to pay for baby Jedi!
Actually, in thinking about this more, I ultimately had to stop breast feeding and bound my breasts to get my milk to stop. I’d check with a doctor first but binding my breasts really helped with the pain and I wonder if it would be ok for you to do during pregnancy (not recommending this after baby). I used an ace bandage and it really relieved the pressure and, well, kept my breasts in place which was particularly helpful when sleeping.
@collage1
That’s actually a good idea. I won’t be breastfeeding due to my meds (they’re already a little risky so we decided with our first MFM before even trying that it would be better to exclusively formula feed, especially since I have no particularly strong desire to bf) so bringing up what to do about the milk situation is something already high on my list when we meet with the new MFM in about 2 weeks.
You may want to ask about baby Jedi getting the colostrum for the initial days after giving birth even if you don’t plan to nurse long term. Just good to explore options, pro & con.
A good maternity bra that is very stretchy and no underwire would be a great find and may be comfortable enough to sleep in. .
Congratulations!! I hope that you are able to feel good and enjoy this new development in your belly!
@HImom thanks that definitely is one of the things I need to remember to ask about so I’m writing it down.
My sister did the colostrum followed by exclusive formula feeding. She had such a hard time at the hospital with the nurses shaming her about formula feeding. Luckily my sister is forceful and stubborn and this is what her and her psychiatrist had already decided on since she needed to get back on her psych meds.
Wear a sports bra to bed; it will keep ‘the girls’ in place, and offer a little extra support.
@romanigypsyeyes - I exclusively breastfed both of my girls, but I respect all women and how they decide to feed their babies. Don’t let anyone shame you when that time comes.
Friend who loves books like Freakonomics which show how stats can be used in maybe not the best way likes Cribsheet by a health economist that talks about myths of raising babies and how they might not say what people (especially on FB) assume they do. Might be a fun read and help bolster you for the inevitable advice that says your baby won’t be his/her best if they don’t breastfeed/get on sleep schedule/swaddled etc. Which, of course, is not at all true.
Breast tenderness was my first pregnancy sign. Luckily, for me it went away after a few weeks, I don’t remember how long but certainly it was gone by the end of the first trimester. I hope yours goes away soon too.
Breast tenderness was one of my first pregnancy signs as well. Wearing a good, supportive bra to bed definitely helped.
@scmom12 I read Freakonomics in high school. Maybe I should reread it.
I’m armed with plenty of info for any "breast is best"ers who try and shame me. I have an MPH in Health Behavior and Health Education with a specialization in Maternal and Child Health. One of my big term papers was a critical look at the “breast is best” campaign and how it affects especially first time mothers in the US. The short story is that once you control for SES status, the longterm benefits of breastfeeding disappear. The problem is that the vast majority of studies don’t and we know that wealthier, white women are far more likely to breastfeed than poorer women and WoC. This in turn leads to shaming moms, especially younger, poorer, WoC who can’t breastfeed or exclusively breast feed for a myriad of socioeconomic reasons and increases their chances of postpartum depression and decreases the likelihood of seeking help for their child because they’re afraid of being shamed.
I didn’t mean to go off on a tangent but it’s an issue I feel strongly about. I’ve had women already try to shame me by saying things like I should put my health on hold for the “benefit” of the baby. No… what’s best for the baby is to grow up with a healthy mom. We’re incredibly lucky to live in a time and place where formula is readily available and top quality.
I have no interest in debating breastfeeding vs formula feeding. I’m grateful that we live in a time and place where both are acceptable options. I also fight to make sure that women can make that decision by campaigning for better maternal leave policies, free breast pumps and other support devices, etc because all women should be able to make the best choice for them and not one that is dictated primarily by their work schedule.