<p>Hey guys, I'm going to be at college in the fall of this year, so I had a couple of questions about roommates. This may sound kinda weird, but I would really like to become good friends with my future roomie, whoever she may be. I'm a fairly easygoing person, and I think it would be a good idea to have a friendly person to talk to who shares a room with me! I'm not saying I would want to be her best friend or anything, as that can get kind of awkward and we might not even click like that, but it's just nicer to have a good roomie. I'm planning to be extremely friendly and nice, and hopefully we can become good friends right off the bat.</p>
<p>But how many people going to college actually have this mentality? I'm afraid of being way too friendly/perky and having my roommate think I'm on something. I personally know a lot of people who specifically go into dorms not planning on being friends with their roomies, because they think it might be annoying. I don't want to be clingy, I just want to make my future roomie my friend. Do a lot of freshmen usually just stick around with their roommates for the first few days, or does this just make you look insecure? Would it be weird to come across as 'too friendly/perky' in the beginning?</p>
<p>How many of you are really good friends with your roomies?</p>
<p>I'm going into it with an open mind. I get along with most everybody, but I don't intend to force anything...there are soooo many opportunities to make friends in college.</p>
<p>i'd say just be yourself. That way, no matter whether the roommate likes or dislikes you it will be for who you are and not someone you're pretending to be. And that way you don't have to worry about looking too perky either.</p>
<p>yea im also worried about the whole "sticking with ur roomie at the beginning" thing. i mean, what if she thinks ur annoying? well i guess what you could do is just be friendly and polite but don't be too clingy. and plus, she's probably having these same worries as you are having at this moment! good luck!</p>
<p>chances are at the beginning you won't know anyone.. but guess what, your roommate wont either. </p>
<p>i stuck with my roommate the first day or two and then after that we started to meet other people and separated a bit. we got along okay, but she wasn't someone i wanted to live with after that (plus she transfered to a different school and moved in with her boyfriend)... not really someone i wanted to hang out with either, so i wasn't home much.. but we got along okay when i was.</p>
<p>i roomed with a girl i barely knew the next year and we wound up sticking together for three years..</p>
<p>My freshmen roomie and I are still the best of friends just because our personalities are so alike. We really lucked out I think...
As for becoming friends, it just happened the same as with how you meet other friends: strike up conversations, ask if they want to go to the dining hall for dinner, stuff like that. No magic tricks involved!</p>
<p>I've noticed that, in general, female roommates tend to be more likely to have make a "best friend" out of their freshmen roommate, however I would not suggest going into it with the mentality that it WILL happen, just let it happen!
I would suggest being warm toward your roommate from the beginning but not being overly "let me share everything about myself" from the beginning--just treat her like you would any other stranger you were interested in getting to know! ...And try not do to stuff that's going to annoy her (i.e., clean up after yourself, be respectful about noise/lights/etc when she's sleeping, listen to her, be there for each other--go through your freshmen yr together!)</p>
<p>I would say don't try to be your roomie's friend in the typical friend sense, try to be really good roomies. I love my roomie to tears but I don't know if I would call us "friends." We talk a lot and get along uber well in the room, all of our friends get along and we like eachother's friends, but we don't do typical friends things, like we don't eat meals together or go shopping together or really do a heck of a lot outside of the room--that way we don't get sick of eachother. We're not constantly doing things together so we don't ever fight or get in eachother's space or anything. Yet we get along way well, have fun dancing to music and what not, talk for hours at night about any and everything, we just keep it confined to the room for balance and it works exteremely well. Remember it's more important to get along with your roomie in the room than it is to be their friend out of it.</p>
<p>Aw, but it's kinda sad you guys talk for hours in the room and don't do anything outside of it! Sounds like you're both missing out on having a great friend, but hey, I get that thing about not wanting to get sick of them...</p>
<p>I'm personally not THAT good of friends with my roomie. I'm a pretty reserved, athletic, competitive person. My roomie is nearly the mirror opposite, Absolutely non-athletic, outgoing to strangers and a slacker. We don't share the same hobbies, he's into music, im into sports. Still though, we coexist very well. If we need our space from time to time, we each give each other that space in the room. We don't do typical "friends" things that often. On occasion, we sit together in the caf or go out for late night fast food(bad bad bad idea...) but other than that it's just a fact of sharing mutual space. I've heard horror stories around campus about bad roomies, so I can't complain, but as long as you go into your experience with an open mind, you will probably have no problems.</p>
<p>hahahaha "best friend w/ my roomie" not at ALL. First semster of my frosh year, i got a CRAZY one... then i got another one... slightly less crazy... but still someone who i didn't want to be friends w/</p>