<p>I know that most would recommend against it, but...</p>
<p>Is it really that bad of an idea?</p>
<p>I mean, she isn't my BEST friend, so I don't think we'd get sick of each other.<br>
We just get along and have some common interests.</p>
<p>With all the change and stress that I'm going to be experiencing, I just don't want to worry about getting along with a complete stranger.</p>
<p>What do you think? Any advice is welcome!</p>
<p>Thanks! :)</p>
<p>Think long and hard about it. A lot of the time, “best friends” part ways once college starts. </p>
<p>It isn’t a bad idea, but I wouldn’t recommend it unless you are ABSOLUTELY sure…</p>
<p>and the fact that you are asking shows that you are a bit indecisive about it! ;]</p>
<p>Haha, it’s just that I’ve heard horror stories about it and I don’t want to be one of those people who loses a friendship because of rooming with a friend.</p>
<p>We talk about it, but she still isn’t sure if she is going to UCSC since I think she’s still waiting on UCSB and Cal.</p>
<p>Also, I’m indecisive about many things :P</p>
<p>I think too much!</p>
<p>NO!
Ok, so it makes the first few days of college easier (ie you’re not homesick because you already have a friend to kick it with) but I think it really hinders your college experience. Yeah it sucks to be lonely the first few days but you really broaden your horizons when you HAVE to actively meet people. I really feel like you really get to grow as a person when you don’t stick with the people you know in high school.</p>
<p>It does not have to mean disaster. If you know you and your friend have similar sleep schedules/interests/study habits, it could work. There are two girls on my floor who were best friends in high school, and seem to do just fine as roommates. If you are a naturally quiet person, having a good friend nearby will really help you meet new people too.</p>
<p>Instead of giving you an answer I am going to give you some questions to think about.</p>
<p>What will you do if she attaches herself to you because she is feeling insecure and you don’t want her as an appendage?</p>
<p>What if you cling to her and she dumps you?</p>
<p>Wouldn’t it be better for her to have her own living space so that you can visit one another if one or both of you wants to get out of your room? Wouldn’t that broaden the circle of friends you both will amass?</p>
<p>How will you feel if rooming together makes you despise her or vice versa?</p>
<p>How will you feel if living with a stranger mades you despise that stranger? Will that loss really matter?</p>
<p>What will you do, if after you have lived together for a time and the mention of her name makes your skin crawl, when you run into one another back home?</p>
<p>Hope that helps!</p>
<p>Oh I’ve thought about this for awhile, and I have considered all those situations as well as researched them.</p>
<p>My main thing is that I know we have similar interests, study habits, goals, and sleeping habits (we have talked quite a bit about the possibility of living together). </p>
<p>Also, I’m not going to let the fact that I would prefer to live with her influence my college choices, and if we do end up together, we’ve both agreed to set up rules and ask to be transferred at the first sign of trouble. We do not want to lose our friendship. </p>
<p>My main concerns are about whether or not we will miss out on some experiences…
Although we’re both social and love meeting new people so I don’t think that will be a problem. I also don’t want to be stressing out over getting along with a stranger as well adjusting to EVERYTHING else.
I like schedules and habits, I don’t really like change…</p>
<p>But thanks for your help! I’m sure no matter what happens I’ll have a fun time at UCSC :)</p>