<p>Recently, one of my best friends and I were accepted into the same school. The school was the top choice for both of us, and we are verrry happy for each other. Because we are going to the same school, we are very heavily considering the idea of rooming together. We are both very aware of how dangerous it can be to live with those you love, and if it were any other friend I wouldn't even consider it. However, I feel like her and I would be way more compatible in a living situation then any other one of my friend's. We are so close that we have both seen the negative aspects of the others personality, and are passed the point of being bothered by them. Also, she and I are relaxed about our living space, non confrontational, and quick to apologize for any wrongdoing. Basically, she gets me and I get her. We've even discussed the fact that we do not want to be co-dependent on each other and how we would let each other live separate lives. However, because we are such good friends, I would be crushed if anything ever happened to ruin our relationship. Because of this, I worry about the possibilities of one of us getting sick of the other or something like that. I hear a lot of horror stories about friendship roommates gone bad and so I'd like to hear some opinions on what you guys think about my situation or just friends living together in general. Thanks!</p>
<p>advice is dont live together. live in the same floor if you want</p>
<p>For the average, run-of-the-mill friendship it’s probably not a good idea. As you are asking this question in the first place, I’m going to say that that advice probably applies to you.</p>
<p>I just finished my first semester of rooming with my best friend. We got all of that ‘don’t do it, you’ll hate each other’ kind of advice, and in the end that turned out to be wrong. I was really fortunate that it turned out that way, but it’s definitely situational. Both of us are similarly clean/messy, have similar sleep schedules, similar ideas of etiquette, etc. Plus, she went home most weekends so we did have some time apart. We also both separately realized we wanted to transfer from the school we go to, so that may have been some sort of factor.
I think that with this sort of thing you need to really closely assess yourself and your habits, in relation to your potential roommate and her habits. If you come out of that assessment feeling that you’d like to live with her, then I say go for it. Go with an open mind about it, though - if you later realize that something about your dynamic isn’t working out, or that you don’t want to live with her, you need to be willing to admit that to both yourself and to her. Don’t let it become pent-up.</p>