<p>I know someone who got in trouble for a roommate’s marijuana. Clearing her name was not easy. I think the OP’s daughter’s number one priority should be to deal with this immediately and very strongly. Asking the roommate to keep it with her possessions or on her side may not be enough. The roommate may be sweet as can be, but she is breaking the law and putting another person at risk as well. Could OP’s D call the housing department anonymously and ask for their advice?</p>
<p>Just asked my son about what happens at the school he attends. Obviously, different schools have different policies. At his school if one roommate is caught with illegal drugs, all roommates are immediately suspended from living on campus for one semester, but MAY CONTINUE to go to classes. They are all sent to some type of drug rehab program at the school’s expense (not student expense)! For alcohol abuse the student pays for a mandatory program after I believe the second offense. He did say that students may appeal the situation to a peer judicial board. Still, who wants to go through the stress of all of that?</p>
<p>For someone I know, it was the quantity, not just the pot itself, that became an issue after the RA involved the police. It’s a much bigger deal in some cities, if the quantity in the room suggests intent to distribute.</p>
<p>Our friend’s S got in trouble because a room mate had an illegal substance in their room. Fortunately, the room mate confessed and said that innocent room mate had nothing to do with the illegal substance.</p>
<p>My DH (then bf) and I went to a party off campus one night. We didn’t know the dudes who were throwing the party. I went to get ice out of their freezer. It was stuffed with bricks of ganja. We hightailed it out of there. It’s one thing to be in possession of an ounce or two and another when it’s a kilo or two. That means trafficking. No thanks. I’d politely ask her to keep it off the premises. I wouldn’t care if she buried a hole in the middle of the quad to stash it, but not in a room we shared. I’m no prude but stuff like this can wreck your life.</p>
<p>I asked my son also what happens at his school and he said nothing. The only thing he said was that campus security asks that if you are going to smoke pot to do it outside your dorm. His school also has a policy in which beer and wine are fine but hard alcohol is not. All they do if someone is found with hard alcohol in their room is make them throw it out.</p>
<p>They could bake it into brownies and store it in the freezer section of the mini-frig in their room using a freezer container with the roomie’s name on it.</p>
<p>Or so I’ve been told. Not that I’d know. Why do you ask? Huh?</p>
<p>OP here. The discussion between DD and roommate did not go well, and roommate refused to remove the marijuana on the grounds that she won’t get caught. After a few more disagreements about other things, they agreed they were incompatible, and roommate moved out, switching rooms with another girl. DD is greatly relieved.</p>
<p>Actually, that sounds like best possible resolution. Congrats to your D for standing her ground & getting room mate to realize they were incompatible and the room mate to move out. Hope the new roomie is better. :)</p>
<p>Good for your D. And I’m glad this was resolved so early in the school year, so your D can get a fresh start.</p>
<p>That’s really good calgal. This druggie roomie does’t sound so nice and sweet after all and sounds like she’s not too bright either (first for bringing and hiding drugs, second for declaring she won’t get caught, third for not realizing she created a difficult living situation for both your D and herself). </p>
<p>I hope the new roomie’s decent.</p>
<p>Glad to hear it was resolved without your daughter having to escalate things any further.</p>
<p>I’ll give the roomie some small amount of credit for laying her “cards” on the table early; using but hiding it in someone else’s room was never an option.</p>
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<p>You’re assuming there was honesty involved. More likely, the OP’s daughter simply observed the roommate trying to hide her stash.</p>
<p>IMHO, pot should be legalized. But in the meantime, especially at schools where they have draconian policies that assume the guilt of everyone in the room, there is no point in standing on principle. Kids can’t afford to have pot in the room at that sort of school. Glad to hear things were resolved, although one wonders if the new roommate is aware of the stash…</p>
<p>Clad to hear it was resolved, OP. Good for your dd for addressing it early and directly.</p>
<p>Centuries ago I had to deal with a freshman roomate who kept hard illegal drugs in our dormroom. Then and now I tend to stick to my own business but the first semester I was an emotional wreck most of the time because our relationship went downhill from day one (he was also a hideous chain smoker, which he had concealed on his 'roomate compatability form" prior to enrolling). I gave serious thought to turning him in. But I was also acquainted with his dealer, a fellow freshman in a room a couple of doors away. The dealer was a rough customer, as the saying goes. I always wondered how such a jerk got admitted to our school. Ultimately, I kept quiet and only used the room to sleep in. I suffered in silence until the end of the academic year. </p>
<p>So kudos to the OP’s daughter for tackling the problem head on and early.</p>