So my roommate is moving to a different dorm next semester and didn’t even bother to tell me. We weren’t particularly close. We would go a long stretch of time without talking, but when we did talk, we would talk for a couple hours straight. I like to think I am a good roommate, I keep my side clean, I don’t have people over, I’m not loud, and try not to bother her. She on the other hand doesn’t take out the trash for weeks and it can get smelly, she leaves her lights on at night, and she talks on facetime until at least midnight every night. She complains a lot on the phone and I know that she doesn’t like it here, she wants to transfer and has thought of switching rooms (She never told me any of this, she just talks very loudly). When we came back from break, we had about 2 weeks until the semester ended. We hadn’t talked at all until that last Saturday before I left that Tuesday. We talked for about 4 hours that day and throughout the last days we had little conversations. Leading up to that she had been talking to her dad on the phone about him bringing up a big enough car for her stuff so I figured that she was either transfering or switching rooms, but even when I said bye when I was leaving she didn’t mention it. I feel like I should mention it to her eventually, but I don’t know what to say…
I would just move on. It sounds like you will be better off without her! She was never your “friend,” so she probably didn’t think she owed you an explanation.
This is what I tell my kids: You can’t control other people’s actions, but you CAN control your reaction. Take the high road and have a good semester without her.
So what is the problem?
You never know what is going on with someone else. If you see her around, just be friendly. No reason to burn bridges. With any luck, you will have a single room for a semester.
What’s the problem? It sounds like she was the bad roommate.
You obviously weren’t what she was looking for in a roommate. Believe it or not, quiet, considerate people are not everyone’s dream roomie (I KNOW). Her moving out sounds like a win-win, or, at least, a win for you. Maybe you’ll wind up with someone who appreciates you more and you with whom you can connect. Just don’t twist yourself in knots trying to figure out if it was you or not - you may never know.
You or the original roommate may have new roommates through your college careers. It’s normal.
This is an awesome new opportunity for you to either get to know a new roommate or have a room to yourself (not sure if there’s a waiting list for your housing). I would embrace the change and not take it personally.