<p>Well yesterday was the big day! Room assignments! However, I discovered that I was put into a rather awkward situation. I have been assigned to live with a transfer student who will be a senior. Also, I've tried everything I could possibly do to contact her, however, I have been unable to get a response. I'm really uncomfortable with this situation but the housing office has made in clear that they will not take any room change requests until the second week of classes. I'm really upset and I don't know what to do, please help??</p>
<p>There probably isn’t anything you can do right now. That does suck though.</p>
<p>how do you know she’s a transfer student?</p>
<p>First, take a step back from the situation. I know D wasn’t able to get in touch with her freshman roommate for several days. People take vacations, work, and sometimes don’t check IU email, etc. BTW-D and her roommate ended up being great friends and lived together again. It’s been less than 48 hours.</p>
<p>S hasn’t really heard from his roommate even though he emailed him. </p>
<p>My other piece of advice is to stop assuming this situation is bad. It’s pretty unlikely you and your roommate would have ended up as best friends no matter what the situation was. Keep your door open and make friends with others on your floor. Keep your mind open about the situation and view it as an opportunity to stretch yourself. Some one that transfers as a senior likely has a pretty interesting story to tell. Listen to it. Also keep in mind that she will likely be looking for new friends also. If she wasn’t, she probably would not be living in the dorms. </p>
<p>Assuming it will be horrible will make it so.</p>
<p>Another girl posted almost the same topic this week:</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/1368755-too-soon-switch-my-new-roommate.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/1368755-too-soon-switch-my-new-roommate.html</a></p>
<p>Like the other poster, you seem really impatient and demanding. You just got your roommate’s contact information and reached out to her YESTERDAY! Learning that the world does not revolve around you, your schedule and your “comfort” may be one of the first lessons of adulthood that you will have to learn.</p>
<p>I feel bad for you. Part of the freshman experiance is having a freshman roommate to figure things out with. Both being on equal ground. We were told roommate assignments would not be out until the 23rd. Another parent let me know that roommates had been assigned early so maybe she is waiting till monday to check it. I can tell you my son doesnt care at ALL he checks his IU mail when i ask him too. He is rooming with his best friend but they have “suitemates” for a shared bathroom. RPS listed iu email and phone numbers of all 4 boys. Have you tried texting or calling? My son is away on a 4 day trip with a group he’s involved in. They have terrible phone service and NO internet access. Your roommate could be in the same situation. </p>
<p>Maybe she is feeling exactly like you, doesnt want to room with a freshman and is busy trying to get it changed? Dont panic or pass judgement yet. Give her a few more days.</p>
<p>Sally- I feel that it is highly inappropriate for a parent to be speaking to a child this way. I’m not your child to criticize, that’s what my own parents are for. I’m not trying to match duvets or pick out One Direction decorations with my roommate, I’m simply trying to gain a sense of security knowing that I can trust my roommate. I’m simply looking out for my own safety and well being. I’m not paying thousands of dollars to put myself into a toxic situation. I wasn’t looking for your harsh, out of line criticism, I was innocently looking for advice.</p>
<p>HoosierGirl, my criticism is completely appropriate to the nature of this forum. You are using CC to get advice/support/feedback from people you don’t know. You cannot control what kind of response you get, especially when you jump to conclusions about being in a “toxic situation” or not being able to trust your roommate because she didn’t respond to your email IN ONE DAY. You are accusing a real person–the young woman who is assigned to live with you–of not being “as enthusiastic about college” as you are, being untrustworthy, and creating a situation that is not safe for you. Do you not see the problem here? Like I said in the other thread, I hope she doesn’t read what you’ve written here. You are the one who’s out of line.</p>
<p>HoosierGirl, please take a deep breath and count to ten. You have jumped to some pretty wild conclusions based on your roommate’s failure to respond to you in a VERY short period of time. Stop making assumptions and give her a chance to respond. There are a multitude of good reasons why you wouldn’t have heard from her yet.</p>
<p>I would give her more time to respond. There are a lot of reasons why she might not have answered right away. She might be on vacation right now and can’t check email, or she might not be feeling well - maybe she’s sick, had her wisdom teeth out, etc. I would give it more time.</p>
<p>Roommates are random, and you may not get along with them. That’s just how college is. You don’t have to be ‘besties’, or even friends at all, really as long as you have relatively similar grooming/cleanliness habits, you’re going to be fine. If you’re this concerned about
‘trusting’ someone you’ve never met, or your safety with a transfer student, you’re going to be in for a wakeup call when you DO finally start school. </p>
<p>As a side note, most freshmen I know would die for a senior roommate. Easy access to alcohol</p>
<p>Hoosiergirl16, I understand your concern, but you’re freaking out for no reason. Who cares if she isn’t quick to respond, or isn’t as enthusiastic as you. It’s her life to live. As long as you can tolerate living with her, then there’s no problem. IU will mature you well.</p>
<p>I only live about 20 min from campus so I’ll be able to avoid sleeping in my dorm in worst case scenario.</p>
<p>Maybe you would be better off just living at home. You are treating your future roommate like she’s some kind of threatening weirdo–with no basis whatsoever. She is mature enough to make the decision to transfer, while you are freaking out and jumping to terrible conclusions because she didn’t respond immediately to your attempt to reach her. Have you talked with your parents about your fears? You are really being irrational.</p>
<p>I am wondering why the OP is against having a transfer student as a roommate? This person is experiencing the campus for the first time and has similar concerns that you do as a freshman. In the scheme of so-called “room-mate problems” trust me a transfer student is not an issue and housing is not going to make a change based on that reason. Your assumptions are offensive to transfer students and will not help you as you continue to meet new people. You need to take a step back and re-evaluate this situation and even if you want to be living anyone.</p>
<p>I feel bad for Sally’s roommate, she’s the one we should be consoling. Doesn’t realize what she’s gotten herself into</p>
<p>Anywho, there will be a lot of people on your floor. I spent very little time in my room last year as my roommate and I were just acquaintances. No worries.</p>
<p>^^The OP is HoosierGirl, not me. :)</p>
<p>But I agree with your other statements…especially about just being “acquaintances” with one’s roommate. It may not fit an 18-year-old’s fantasy of college residential life, but in some ways it has its advantages.</p>
<p>Ahh my apologies. I got caught up in the hilarity of it all.</p>