<p>I don't really understand why the decision is being left up to you. This is something the SCHOOL should be deciding. It should be out of your hands. If you were my daughter, I would be very annoyed with the school for not taking total responsibility for this. I would tell the Guidance Office and the Principal that this is up to them. Explain the friendship situation.</p>
<p>Aside from that, I don't like the way your friend or her parents are behaving.</p>
<p>Would you even be asking this decision if she weren't your friend? I suspect not - and this I think is key.</p>
<p>Yes, friendship is important, and you would undoubtedly be taking the high road if you let her share the title. It would be incredibly gracious of you. That said, if this were me would I do it? Absolutely not. From what you've said, this friend really seems like she needs to re-evaluate how competitive she is, and it's not your responsibility to bend over backwards to allow her to feel good about where she is in terms of rankings. You have a higher GPA than her, and whether it's by 0.2 or by 0.00000000000000000000002 is absolutely irrelevant. The fact that she didn't know TAing would decrease her GPA doesn't change it either. It did, it happened, that's life.</p>
<p>The fact that she and her parents are taking it to the board only firms this perspective in my mind. She sounds like she really takes this far too seriously, and I would frankly wonder how good a friend she really is.</p>
<p>Hmm... I just think you should share the title. You'll feel better about it in the long run. </p>
<p>Shows your grace.</p>
<p>@logisticslord: rumor has it that she went to St. Andrews.</p>
<p>ok, first of all screw your friend... she is being a big baby about this whole ordeal. She will have learned a valuable life lesson and learn it is not going to be the end of the world. Being salutatorian is just another thing you can add to your resume, not something of sentimental value. Plus, I dislike systems that incorporate one position being able to overpower another... i think it's just unfair and totally unnecessary.</p>
<p>What your "friend" is doing is really crappy, but here are a few things to remember:</p>
<ol>
<li><p>It doesn't matter. It's too late for ranking to matter in college admissions (and to be honest, the difference between #2 and #3 is negligible). If you take the high road and agree to share the title, you can only benefit from it. I'm sure by now enough people at your school know what is going on, and if she eventually gets named co-salutatorian, people will know it was because she and her parents complained. Let her share the title for the last two months of high school-- because that is as long as it's going to matter</p></li>
<li><p>It doesn't matter whether you stay the only salutatorian or not-- you have the grace and maturity to consider the feelings of others instead of just you own, and that trumps petty competitiveness any day.</p></li>
</ol>
<p>Okay. IT IS SO SIMPLE! Just go secretly talk to the person in charge of giving the position and say you two have come to a decision that you should be the Salutatorian. When your friend askes, just say you don't know what happened. (:< MUAHAHA</p>
<p>From your description, she doesn't sound like a real friend at all.</p>
<p>Stand on your principles. Don't share the title with her.</p>
<p>think about it this way, honey: if the roles (her and you) had been reversed, would she have cared about you? Sounds like to me you are just being overly mr. nice guy.</p>
<p>"Let's just say she's the type of friend who has always had the spotlight, with being on track and volleyball, whereas I'm a bit more modest, studious, and have never won any real awards or been noticed very much. She's walked over me a lot..."</p>
<p>Your friend doesn't sound like a friend. She sounds like a narcissist. Given that she has always been in the spotlight and you've never gotten major awards, seems that if she were a real friend, she'd be happy for you. Competition between friends can be fun, but it seems that your friend is a very sore loser.</p>
<p>"She was surprised that I even knew about the whole ordeal, and seemed upset because she said it doesn't really concern me."</p>
<p>More evidence that she's a narcissist. Of course who's salutatorian concerns you since you actually have the average to earn that title.</p>
<p>I think that you can handle things with grace by letting the school board decide (since your friend decided to take it to the school board) and by asking your mom to stay out of it. </p>
<p>Your "friend" and her mom will look like idiots and witches by going to the school board over something so minor. Should the school board decide in your friend's favor, your friend will have "won" the co-salutatorian title, but she and her mother still will be regarded as small minded people, and that reputation will last a much longer time than anyone will remember who the salutatorian was. </p>
<p>Meanwhile, because word spreads when people get into public squabbles about things like this, I guarantee that most of your classmates will know who really did earn the salutatorian honor -- even if you do the wise thing: rise above all of the rukus by not bad mouthing your friend. </p>
<p>Your friend and her mom are headed for winning the school laughingstock award. Pity them.</p>
<p>Congratulations for your excellent gpa!</p>
<p>Thanks for everyone's opinions. Well it's all been settled out, I think. The counselor came and talked to me again, and has informed me that I will be the only salutatorion. My GPA is miniscully (sp?) higher than hers, regardless of whether she was a TA or not. So that's that. Thank goodness all that drama is over! She still doesn't know this yet, but they'll be getting an official letter from the school.</p>
<p>Can you please take a picture of her face when she opens the letter?</p>
<p>Thanks for letting us know. I'm glad the school decided.</p>
<p>It seems like in every school there are the people who feel a need to make a major production out of every time they feel their kid is the least bit slighted. Enjoy your time in the spotlight. You earned it.</p>
<p>I'm glad that things worked out for you and you're getting the award that you -- only you -- earned.</p>
<p>Do consider whether you want to continue the relationship with your so-called friend. Her actions don't indicate she's a true friend.</p>
<p>Congratulations on the position. Remember that she's probably going to be very bitter about all this, so I wouldn't trust her too much from here on out.</p>
<p>Aren't u already in college. Who cares. Share it. No one except the person who gets it even cares about that title that much. You won't lose any brownie points by their being 1 instead of 2 salutatorians</p>
<p>you should share it, college look at positions like 2-5 as exactly same.</p>
<p>I'd say a true friend would be proud of you.</p>
<p>Your friend is NOT a friend and sounds like she's just using people. Besides, you'll probably never see her again after high school. She seems like the type of so-called "friend" who is always secretly competing with you and trying to outdue you at everything, not to mention trying to spy on your test scores and etc. I know several people like this.</p>