<p>I dont want to know what you did, why do you have to act like your sister. Cant you see that she is so shallow and not worthy of your worship?</p>
<p>I will never say this in real life, so here goes . . . . </p>
<p>I TOLD you not to marry him. He canât handle how educated you are compared to him. You have to hide your intelligence and knowledge around him so that he doesnât feel intimidated. I know your biological clock was ticking and he comes from a family with money but his family is totally messed up.</p>
<p>Then you went and had a kid with him and SURPRISE he is not an involved father just like guess who - HIS father. Now he has decided that marriage to you isnât fun any more and he wants out. And those numbers on the cell phone bill that he calls and texts at all hours that you donât recognize? Do you really need to me to tell you what is going on? You made a mistake by marrying this guy. It is time to end this so you can start to heal and move on.</p>
<p>Do you ever think before you speak? If you could just hear yourself telling a 35 year-old who just lost her mom that it is not as bad as when you lost your dad because you knew him twice as long as she knew her mom, surely you would cringe. Iâm sure she will forget that statement- as soon as she gets over you telling her that her kids should love you more than their other grandmother because you are a blood relative and she is âonlyâ related to them via her adopted daughter. You wonder why you have no relationships with any of your three daughters-in-law.</p>
<p>And another thing, yes, yes I do think you have a gambling addiction. You had not seen your grandaughter in 18 months and your son in 9 months and you chose to go gamble the evening of your motherâs funeral. You wondered why no one wanted to accompany you. This is why: we do not want to encourage your addiction. Saying your mom might bring you luck was really sad.</p>
<p>To the mom who insists everything she does is for the âchildrenâ - no we all figured out long ago everything you do is for your children and them alone. Your poor kids are going to need years of therapy to get over your psychotic mothering. So glad you decided our public school system isnât good enough and you pulled your child out for the tony private school. Good luck with those parents! And to think I used to feel sorry for you since you really didnât fit in and never seemed comfortable around the other moms. You stepped on my toes, my childâs and even my spouseâs. Never again ***ch. </p>
<p>Wow that felt good!</p>
<p>Dear Mom,
Since Iâll probably never tell you this to your face, I should get it off my chest before I do something I regret. You are abusive. The sooner you realize it, the safer we will all be. I canât stand the fact that I had to sit there and watch you do that. Do you ever THINK before you do things? I realize you were angry, and yes what he did was wrong, but what you did wasnât any better. I donât think even understands what just happened. What if he had been seriously hurt? What if you were holding something else? You never would have done that if Daddy was home. You apologized, you said youâd change, and this time I actually believed you. Iâm not sure if I ever can again,</p>
<p>Love, your daughter whoâs weeping inside.</p>
<p>PS. Abuse isnât just physical. Its verbal, emotional and psychological. And please, stop blaming this on a curse.</p>
<p>Why does CC have to be so stinking addictive? Here it is past midnight, I havenât had a good nightâs sleep for a week, and I am surfing threads!! Crap! Stop being so fascinating, everyone!</p>
<p>10 hours ago you became a mother. Congratulations and may God bless your new baby son. </p>
<p>Please remember that motherhood is a job you canât quit when it gets hard. Nor can you drop out if you fail. For once in your life, finish what you start. (That reminds me, will you ever get your GED?) </p>
<p>First thing you need to do is act like the adult you are and decide whether this child will have your last name or your ex-BFâs last name. YOU are the mother. Step up and make the bloody decision. Itâs all on you now, he is YOUR responsibility, learn to decide and DO things. You are a mother, act like one.</p>
<p>I am sorry that you couldnât work things out to stay. I really hope going back is the right thing for you even though it is so hard on me. Being a parent is hard sometimes and I am doing the best I can and light years better than a lot of people. I hope someday you get that. You donât have to be so difficult to your mom to prove to yourself that you are a grown up.</p>
<p>If you want to be a manager then you need to learn to act like one. I understand that management at your previous job was a joke so you learned some âbad habitsâ from them. But that isnât going to fly here. You have to learn to be professional and manage your staff. Complaining about your staff team isnât going to get you anywhere, YOU have to step up and be a leader and MANAGE them. Quit letting them manage you and then coming to me to cry about it!</p>
<p>So, my MIL is here for ten days. You said that you would give me the itinerary. You didnât. So now, when you are unavailable, and coming back from South America, I canât reach you. You told your mother that you would pick her up today, in the early morning. Well, itâs midafternoon. We donât know where you are. Iâve got an hysterical 90 year old woman waiting for her favorite son to pick her up. You have an international phone: USE IT!!! You have a cell phoneâŠuse it. You have a laptopâŠuse it!! </p>
<p>Oh, and if I here one more time, from your mother how wonderful you areâŠand how much you need everything she has because you are betterâŠI will vomit. So favored son, call your mother and tell her that youâre not dead!!</p>
<p>You donât know how to teach. Please retire.</p>
<p>Still no call and no information. (sorry I must vent). Called your son and he doesnât have any info. Good news: havenât heard from the consulate. No plane crashes. Bad news: MIL is distraught. I canât give her a xanax to calm her down. I have baby aspiring at the ready.</p>
<p>Oh, and yes, you donât celebrate JEWISH holidays. We get that. I asked you if you wanted to see the canlelighting and you said no. Fine. Donât. But donât expect us not to celebrate a holiday to please you.</p>
<p>OK - so I have a rusting 10-year old jalopy that has almost 200,000 miles on it, but at least its turn signals work (or do you have those fancy signals on your fancy car that blink so fast I canât see them?). OH - you were too busy yapping on your cell phone to use your turn signal. Not cool during the first snow of the year when everyone else is trying to get home safe, just put others behind you in a spin while you go on your merry way, sorry the rest of us have to use YOUR roadâŠ</p>
<p>WTH? You are evicting a *food bank *because the parking lot is always overflowing? This takes the prize for the most depressing news of the week!</p>
<p>Silence is not golden.</p>
<p>And, here I go again. Trying to find a way to rearrange the plansâŠ</p>
<p>You are adults. With wives, children and 6-figure salaries.</p>
<p>Stop acting like you think you are kings of the high school. Grow up. Now. I am sick of dealing with your arrogance, your excuses, and your BS.</p>
<p>Stop screwing around with the bandâs logo and âfixing things upâ for these kids. Variety show is coming up, a new logo wonât make the difference, if they donât put in the work they wonât make it in. Being in a good band is all about serious practice, not logo and t-shirt design. I know, itâs my basement they practice in.</p>
<p>I wish you wouldnât make assumptions. You donât know what you are talking about and know not the first thing about my family.</p>
<p>You are not a life coachâŠin fact , your life isnât good enough for you to constantly nag others and dole out unsolicited advice and commands. I may not have a perfect life , but I can say that people of all ages feel welcome in my homeâŠeven if it isnât a picture out of a magazine. </p>
<p>Youâve been here on this planet for 60 yrs nowâŠwhen are you going to realize that youâre not the expert on everything. Do you ever wonder why your own daughters , sisters and mother have such a hard time being around you ?</p>
<p>Stop thriving on misery and find something that truly makes you happy and you can see things in a different light</p>