Say it here cause you can't say it directly- the get it off your chest thread (Part 1)

Flowers and a card purchased at the grocery store? Seriously? You were raised better than that. I am sad.

Flowers and a card? I got a text.

Note to self: Written lists, not oral instructions next time.

Almost thought we could make it through the whole day without you turning nasty but no.

I love being your mother, but Iā€™m thrilled you now have a wife to deal with some of your stuff. Thank goodness.

Thanks for not even considering wishing the mother of your grandchild a happy motherā€™s day, while the in-laws managed to contact me from 1/2 a world away. Yet you expect me to be at your beck and call. Insert bad word here: _____ you!

So just about a year ago I was working my you know what off in a staff position (actually doing senior staff work, just without the title or pay scale) when I saw a job opening in another department. It was also staff level but sounded interesting so I applied. The other department really, really wanted me and I got the job. My old department was like ā€œok, we have someone else to replace you anywayā€ (thanks so much after 9 years of great reviews). So that person was hired to do what I did, but at senior level title and pay.

Now, it turns out, that person didnā€™t work out. Some of the things I did no longer even get done. So you are back to square one.

Me? Iā€™m still at staff level in my new position - and loving it. The job is much less stressful, no long days, Iā€™m learning a lot and really love my colleagues. Iā€™m over the anger a long time ago, though I admit Iā€™ll likely never get over the hurt.

Things worked out for the best - at least for me.

You are doing so much better, but you still need to resolve the big issue.

I will not give you the satisfaction to know I slammed the drivers side mirror into the garage door frame and shattered it as you have warned me again and again.

Iā€™m getting a little nervous about our trip to Beirut to visit our son. Will I be able to run safely? My streak is at 134 days and I donā€™t want it to end!

Resilience. That is my prayer for you. Resilience.

For someone that says that theyā€™re too sick to work for the past several years, you sure seem to have enough energy to endlessly post selfies, set up go fund me sites, post Amazon wish lists and plea for people to take you out.

So glad that you ā€œunfriended meā€ on Facebook, just keep burning those bridges, hope that works out for you!

You were an easy infant, an easy toddler, and an easy teenager. I thought I was in the clear. Nope.Youā€™re in the throes of the Terrible Thirties.

Are you freaking kidding ? I said I wanted a darker blonde color NOT DARK BROWN ! I look older than my MIL !!! Of course I expect you to change it and not Charge Me. You werenā€™t paying attention. The color still doesnā€™t look natural. I want to cry.

I kept my mouth shut during round 1 of you dating this guy. I was (silently) glad when the two of you broke up although I have no idea what happened. Now you tell me you are going out with him again. WHY!!! I know enough to keep my mouth shut again, but please, you can do better.

I really do enjoy our little trips away but it sure reminds me why we donā€™t sleep in the same room at home. I think I didnā€™t get more than 2 hours uninterrupted sleep between you fidgeting, getting up to go to the bathroom, pottering around doing goodness knows what, alarm going off at 5 am to take meds (still not convinced that is necessary - I know you take a lot of meds so have to schedule them but you donā€™t work so surely could schedule so you donā€™t have to wake up at 5 to take them?). No wonder you are always dead to the world when I leave for work in the morning - Iā€™m exhausted from one night of your sleep (or lack thereof) schedule - difference being, I had to come to work!. ~O) ~O) ~O)

Folks, when the line ā€œsometimes I think about taking my own lifeā€ appears in a thread, PLEASE donā€™t ignore it in favor of commenting on the rest of the post.

Either suggest the young person in crisis get help, or choose not to respond. But please donā€™t overlook that and get caught up in the minutiaeā€¦ and everything else but that line is minutiae in comparison.

Yes, I know you are the most cerebral person in my orbit! No need to keep hammering home how much you enjoy watching movies with Swahili soundtracks and Ukrainian subtitles - I get it, you are the most sophisticated person you know!!! HaHa!

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Leave the dogā€¦at home.